The Power of Forgiveness
Most of us will know the case where you feel angry because someone has wronged you and you suffer from the consequences. There might be thoughts like “Why me?” “How could they have done this?” “It’s not fair!” or even “I want revenge!”
"Forgiving a person who has wronged you is never easy, but dwelling on those events and reliving them over and over can fill your mind with negative thoughts and suppressed anger"
Excerpt from The Power of Forgiveness
Doing little things in daily life is one approach to become more at ease with forgiveness. Often people do us wrong with things that are not personal like cutting a line. It’s important to notice that the act was not intentionally directed at us!
Sometimes people do us wrong intentionally though and it can help to recall a time when you treated someone harshly and were forgiven.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting! However, the act of forgiveness is healing, it means you put down the burden you carry. It can be very difficult in some situations though where serious harm was caused. In such instances a person might benefit from professional help in order to prevent suffering from the traumatic experience for the rest of their life.
Participation question:
- What kind of thoughts are going through your mind when someone wronged you and you have to bear the consequences of it?
- How are you usually dealing with such thoughts and what helps you to find peace again?
- What helps you to forgive yourself?
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Forgiveness: Your health depends on it
Seeking Help
Mental stress can cause us not to be able to see the good things in life and lead to excessive rumination or worries which can result in serious health problems. If you have serious, long-term problems with negative thinking and feeling depressed, see your doctor or talk to a therapist if they are related to any mental challenges.
Are you looking for a therapist? 7 Cups has online, certified therapists with a paid option. For more information on what happens in online therapy at 7 Cups, Read Lisa’s (a therapist and director of therapy) explanation
https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/General_2432/WeveLaunchedTalkTherapyon7Cups_319430/
To apply for 7 Cups online therapy, click on this link (must be logged into member account) https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1
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@amiablePeace77 ok I just write out 4 different replies and deleted them all. Perhaps I shouldn't comment on this one. So I'm just gonna give Ami a giant tiny hug ❤❤ and roll out♿♿
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I so much agree with you Ami! ❣️
But I heard it somewhere that the best revenge is to be get so focussed into personal development and growth that you forget what the other people do to you!
If you ask me what thought process goes through my mind when someone wrongs us, I try to take the responsibility myself! Simply saying, finding out why that happened? Was there any bit I could have controlled myself so that whatever happened didn't happen again!
Sometimes, people hurt us that bad because we allow them to do it!
Sometimes there is nothing within our control. Being kind to yourself is the most important thing we need to do. And accept that whatever happened was not within my control. And it will be all okay soon! I am strong enough to deal with it.
Journaling our thoughts, trying techniques like CBT, got to know about the transformation wheel idea as well from 7 cups. These are some ways we can deal with our thoughts post acceptance of the situation.
I forgive myself by being kind to me! Practicing self love affirmations and telling myself that it's okay to make mistakes because if we don't, we are not growing 💗