Feeling hopeless and scared…

@LotusFlower285 I am sorry you were hoodwinked into sharing your confidences with a person that after the fact found out he was unreliable.

Maybe you need to talk to your partner husband first before they find out about that site. Maybe if you feel there are serious issues in your relationship you may need couples therapy to work them out.

What has ended is the innocence and trust you had. I am so sorry the world is such a vicious place. I have hard lessons too and they do not come without pain, but that was not the end of my life. One phase ended and after a while a new phase begain.

Seem professional help if you feel so much despair. If you are in crisis then please refer to some of the links you can find in this doc. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zTpWn0FjXG1jf8XB99EBXn591PDQj6t2wdLU9pARsgE/edit

Hope you get the support you are looking for.

@soulsings thank you for the support and answering it really meant lot to me feeling heard. I did tell my husband about this two years ago and he was very supportive and we went to couples therapy and it helped us tremendously. The issue is that this asshole sorry the term but haven't heard anything in the last two years but now it's like he comes back with a vengeance and honestly I made mistakes but I've moved on it's life we are human.

I do have an amazing therapist here on 7 cups that has really helped me on my journey...

I feel a little better now but somedays are good and some are less good.. I am trying to float and just get by and not to be hard on myself.

I wrote here because even though I have a great therapist sometimes I feel a bit alone.

@LotusFlower285 I hear you. I think we all feel alone sometimes. These discussions are on topics that are supportive and well moderated so they are safe. https://www.7cups.com/forum/50OverCommunity_193/TeamToolsandTeamUpdates_1705/50plusDiscussionsScheduleandTopics_207920/

If you find these fit into your schedule feel free to attend. These rooms only popup 5 minutes before the discussion in case you are checking other times you will not see them.

I’m so sorry to hear that. Do not feel horrible we all make mistakes & have transgressions we aren’t happy about.

@nene1215 thank you so much for responding I needed to feel I wasn't alone... I do know of course we are never alone but sometimes knowing another human can have compassion really helps...

You’re very welcome——and always a judge free zone with me

@LotusFlower285

I'm terribly sorry for what happened to you, this is a lot to deal with! It's hard when you think you're safe and have to find out that someone betrayed you in such a way. It might be worthwhile to consider, having an honest talk with your husband and maybe also with those people who are important to you. I hope there will be a good outcome at the end and remember you can always connect to a listener if you feel to share more about what's going on 💙.

@amiablePeace77 Thank you for responding to my post, honestly I would have never thought someone could betray me like that. I know all his secrets and could write a book about him but I am not that type of person even after being bullied and blackmailed like that. I really am not that type but it's hard to just sit there and watch this unfold.

@LotusFlower285

I hope that you find the support you need right now here on the site. What you are going through is rough and I'm glad you do not want to do something bad which is against your nature. To me revenge might make it even worse, it never leads to healing. Focusing on self-care and learning from it does though. I wish you all the best for this present situation. 💙