I feel so lost. i want to get help. Advice and opinions?
I’m been struggling with weed addiction for around a year or longer now. i’m 16.
I have had breaks in between throughout when flying to a different country but as soon as i’m back home i’m on it again. 3 times a day. maybe even more; whenever the feeling wears off.
This weekend i finally found the strength to quit weed and turned to alcohol instead for two days. Now i’m two days clean from everything and i feel like i’m spiraling out of control and i haven’t been doing anything but simply floating. I feel empty. I desperately want to get the professional help needed because i know something is wrong with me.
In order for me to get this help however, i have to bring it up to my parents.
I don’t want that because they’ve never really been the supportive type.
I feel so isolated and alone and scared and i feel like this pattern of getting better then getting worse, it’s never going to stop. I know it will but why does it feel like everything is ending?
@vidia00
It is a good thing to realize you have an issue and need help. That would include being open with your parents and you might be surprised the response may not be what you assume.
It is often in life that items we keep secret and do not share that when we do .... things are not the way we expected. When we wait and keep secrets the longer we go the more awkward it becomes not only to explain the issue but why we kept our issue secret.
With your age where are you getting alcohol/ weed? especially if using steady and often. Whomever is getting you these items is NOT helping you...
In my country these items are very easy access, which makes the temptation of not getting them harder. Hope that explains it.
@toughTiger6481 For more context, my parents were and still are abusive- more verbally than physically now that i’m older. Whenever i talked about my feelings i would be shut down so i hope you can understand where my hesitancy is coming from! But i really appreciate the advice and the different perspective! I will keep that in mind thankyou.
@vidia00
In many place it is not as easy to access.. at least in the country i live.
While I get each case is different I have been witness to many people including myself that had to confess difficult things to a parent and more often or not the reaction was NOT what I expected from past behaviors of those parents.
If you think you can work through yourself what is the reward of using substances being numb?
To me that is missing out on better things. Most substances have damaging effects especially when used a lot ...is it worth problems/ health issues down the road ...
It’s a good thing that you want to quit and get better, and I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you. I’m also 16 and have been in the exact same place as you earlier this year so I wanted to share a few things that may help. It may feel like a never ending loop and you may feel bored or can’t sleep/eat without it. First thing to do is get rid of any weed you have and try to not make it accessible for a while. I suggest going cold turkey although the first 1-3 days are the hardest but you just need to find things to distract you. days 5-7 is when most people relapse but you just need to get past the one week mark and your cravings will be more controllable and your brain fog will start to improving. You will feel much better after a few weeks or a month. Those scared feelings and brain fog will go away and you will find fun in other things and realise how much better you feel once you quit. Just know it’s okay to relapse because it’s still improvement and you’re trying your best. Took me about 6 months to quit but I still got there and I know you can too. Also do not replace it with alcohol or any other drugs because it could make you feel worse about yourself, just try your best to distract yourself with other stuff just for a week then it will get much easier. I understand how you feel and I believe in you.