Alcohol
I am in AA (just started) and I haven’t drank in over 48 hrs. My problem is I have a bottle of whiskey that I really wanna drink. Someone please talk me down and tell me it’s a horrible idea
@KinaxSweetheart Hi Kina. I'm Desiree. It's great to meet you. I just wanted to take the time to acknowledge you and let you know that I am so proud of you. 48 hours alcohol free is a big deal! Supposedly, people say the first 72 hours are the hardest. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now, but I wanted to remind you of how strong and tough you are. Kina, I believe you can do anything. No one here can make decisions for you. I could tell you to pour the bottle down the drain, but what good would that do for you? I believe you know what it is you need to do and abstaining from drinking seems to be what you desire. You can do, Kina! <3 I'm rooting for you. :)
PS: While members and listeners both deserve support, it's recommended us listeners switch over to our member account to discuss more personal things. :) Just wanted to let you know. I hope you are doing well and I hope your outcome is one you desire. <3 Xoxo.
PSS: I absolutely love your username! It's sooo cute!
@KinaxSweetheart
Hello. It is good to hear you made your decision to recover from suffering from the addiction.
As far as I know in my country AA members, apart from their desire to remain sober, are recommended to keep to the rule of not buying or not giving alcohol as a gift to anybody, and not keeping it at home. Just for honesty (no "double standards") and safety...
On your way to sobriety and living a better life you may surely experience some ups and downs. But am I wrong thinking it could be a little unfair to decrease your own chances?
I am an ACoA. European time zone. In case you just needed to talk, you can drop me a line 😊
@KinaxSweetheart There isn't much I can say that the other commenters haven't already covered...
I can, however, add one little fact: drunk women are not attractive. By whatever definition of "attractive" you choose to go by.
Keep your class intact, Kinax. Decorum is good to have. Throw out the bottle & stay sober. You'll be better off in every way.
@slowdecline48
It is difficult to say with no intention of hurting anyone, but I'll try:
I am sorry, but from my 30+ years experience of meeting people from the AA, Al-Anon and ACoA/ACA background I feel I have to say that, just for an explanation:
Being an alcoholic I believe is NOT the stage of "I just drink for fun". It is much further. It is an addiction in a chemical way (the body learned to use alcohol instead of internal substances responsible for good moods) and in a psychical way (using a booze like a lifebuoy, instead of healthier reactions to life difficulties, like e.g. talking to a friend or crying). From some point on it is not a matter of choice.
As the AA members tend to say: Alcoholism is an illness. Not a mental illness, actually, but a serious and optionally a deadly one.
I believe telling to a person who admitted to having an addiction problem that he or she should not drink is a bit like telling to a person suffering from the depression to be optimistic and smile.
Recovering from the alcohol addiction is possible, and I saw many people who succeeded in that. This is possible thanks to a therapy and/or attending AA meetings, friends, families, mental growth and faith. And these are among the good things, I'd like to wish for you, @KinaxSweetheart
@KinaxSweetheart.... I have been sober for 6 1/2 years and know EXACTLY what you are thinking and feeling. From my experience, whenever I had urges, I set a timer for 20 minutes. I would take a spoonful of honey and do everything I could to distract myself. For example, call a friend, go outside, put my bare foot on the grass (grounding yourself), or vacuum. you got this! I may not know you, but I BELIEVE IN YOU!!
@KinaxSweetheart
So happy you realized how much it is not good to have alcohol as some big part of your life. I became sober, minus a couple random sips, after cutting back to four days a week for a couple weeks. Please do what you need to do to stay healthy and safe. I hope this is helpful. I believe in you!
yo you got this! stay on track. you can absolutely achieve your goal. for a few years i couldn’t make it 2 days without a drink. so i absolutely understand what *** you’re feeling rn. keep pushing forward. fr hmu if u need to talk
I have just attended my 1st AA. I don't think it's going to help me! I need to talk 1 to 1 to someone about the reasons that I do drink. I know I'm happier when I don't yet I keep on doing it. Can anybody message me back and try help me figure this out
@Sean140785
I posted to this thread before, and I'm not sure if I should have, because I hadn't gone to AA before. Sorry if I missed something.
I still don't know much about being an alcoholic but I am an addict, someone with an addictive personality, and I know making goals, forgiving oneself for not getting those goals, and keeping on believing in oneself can help bring one where one wants to be.
AA seems like an awesome step for you or anyone. Way to go on that, and way to know not drinking can be good for you. Piecing apart personal problems also did help me. I see you mention you want to figure it out. I say do! Breathe, and try to find the good in your life, and the forgiveness, a piece at a time. I'm trying this, too. I think someone wrote about on this called, "Doing the work". I hope it goes well, the journey of wellness, or whatever that journey is you take to wellness. To you, the original poster, and all, of course.
I'm not sure if this is helpful, but are there things that make you want to drink? Maybe reply or journal, like they say, I don't know.
