@Heather225
Hi H! 😊 ❤️ Wooo hoooo! Many thanks for this amazing forum post! Indeed, true words of wisdom, gifts 🎁 to us all and everything that you said does, in fact, highly resonate with me!
"No one size fits all approach to self care".
I love how you mentioned that everyone does it differently. It's something that I like to explore with others when trying to provide peer support for my teammates. I can ask if they know that "self care" is, if they had considered it an option, what does self care mean to them and if they are struggling with the concept, I try to provide examples/ideas of things I like to do as well as what others may like.
I too, can take a very unique approach to options for self care ideas for others, if it seems warranted. I've adopted the old cliche" of "don't throw out the baby with the bathwater" for one of my "Gizzie-isms"....a smaller catch phrase that is easily remembered, but yet embodies a larger concept which I have explained. These are things (concepts) that anyone can ad to what I call the "listener tool box". 😊
One may love being here on the platform, have done nothing wrong, but are having trouble in certain areas due to no fault of their own. Certain areas of the site may have had stressful interactions/conflict with teammates whether it be listener to listener or listener to member.
Along with discussing conflict resolution tactics, I like to explain how very big this site is. That one can take breaks from certain areas or activities and then still enjoy being a part of our community by exploring other things and nice areas. 😊 Aha! 💡
Trouble in pm's, trouble in public rooms? Well my friend, may I introduce to you the loveliness and slower pace of the forums? Hmmm....how about working on some of the training guides and being given a lovely new, shiny badge for doing so? These things could help ones "future listener self" in assisting our members as well as potentially learning about ones self during the process. Sounds like winning to me! Weeeeeeeeeee weeeeeeeeee! 😊
"You are not your mistakes. Learned the lesson, that's what counts".
Agreed! Self forgiveness can be a very good thing after having learned valuable lessons. Any of us can wake up any given morning and declare "Tabula Rosa" which means "clean slate". Making the commitment to not repeat the mistake is what counts the most and moving forward with better behaviors.
If making amends, giving someone an apology will help, that's pretty fantastic too! 👍
"Growth often occurs from discomfort".
Acknowledging the discomfort, questioning why it exists by utilizing meta cognition (thinking about what one is thinking about), questioning what it is that one is so very afraid of, can lead to deeper self awareness. One could potentially decide to "face the fear" and grow as a human being.
"Accountability isn't a bad word".
Wow! 😳 This is fantastic! I had never considered that being accountable can refer to taking responsibility from ones successes as well. I love this!
For me, it ties directly into something that 7 cups teaches us....to recognize our strengths and play to them and to recognize our weakness and work on them. I have always felt that 7 cups wants for us to feel good about our achievements, to be proud of our accomplishments, our body of work, to have a bit of increased self esteem as feeling good about one's self and capabilities leads to the courage to jump in and help others.
Feeling good enough about ones self, I feel, leads to feeling good about others and quickly recognizing the achievements of others, providing positive affirmations and wanting to share in celebrating those victories! 🥳 Noice! (something I say many times around here is..."I'm gonna' appreciate all of us, whether we like it or not"! lols 🤣
"Never leave the house without sunscreen".
Amazing!!!!!!!! Oh, I think I see what you did there 😊. H, you are quite clever my friend! Might you have been referencing Baz Luhrmann "Everbody's Free to Wear Sunscreen"? No way that was simple serendipity 😳.
Feel free to youtube that one everyone! It's okay to go the extra mile and to reach for it! Brilliant! 💡
Pizza anyone? 🍕
Again, many thanks for this forum post! Please continue to drop more golden nuggets of wisdom 💥.
*high fives* 😊 and *hugs* ❤️
