Self-Forgiveness - A Short Video Message & Discussion

Agreed!

nice post, ~~pm229

much love and many blessings,

FaithfulPerson

@FaithfulPerson.. Much love to you too and a shower of blessings!!!

Thank you, my friend! You as well!

Definitely! Thanks for sharing! ^^

-LWW

it's much easier to forgive yourself when others forgive you. if they forgive you, then there's no reason you can't forgive yourself as well. But what if they don't, or don't believe your apologies?

I thought that this was a lovely video by Laura talking about how forgiveness is important it helps us to move on after all no one is perfect

I loved this video so much! I'm usually quite hard on myself, and will rag on myself constantly if I didn't do somethingperfectly.. And I'm so bad at self-forgiveness! It really helped to watch this, and it made me realize that I need to consciouslywork towards forgiving myself.

It's weird how foreign it feels to forgive myself, to accept myself, to love myself. but it can make me feel so much better. I dunno why I resist this.

A good start to a long process for me... Thank you

I think self-forgiveness is a very important thing to do. In my opinion, it allows us to let go of the things that hold us back from becoming the best person that we can become. When we forgive ourselves for anything bad that we think we have done, it allows us to better help ourselves right now and in the future, which only allows us to become better people.

This all sounds a lot easier said than done. It's easy to say "just forgive yourself" but for someone it could be difficult to move on or forward because of dwelling on the mistake. Some things take a longer time than others, but realization is the best first step.

Thank you for your thoughts and eloquence!

Forgiving one-self for something that they did which hurt the other person.. is really hard. For me, I was forced to make a few choices regarding my first and only relationship, that hurt my partner a lot... and then I was in my guilt mode for an entire year...

He said that it was too late to apologize ... because he had changed and the gy whom I hurt was no longer there...

So, I don't really think I ever forgave myself, but now I just don't think about it... it has become one of the harsh realities of my life that i never want to live through again...

This is a wonderful concept, but for me has been hard to overcome. I have told from a young age that i was a certain way, because that was the way i was born, and even so i knew this was not true i buried a grudge within myself saying " i can never forgive myself, because this you i made myself to think."

i want to forgive myself, i really do but i guess it's harder for me,because in a way its because i was just born this way.

I liked the video on self-forgiveness. It was a life saver, literally.

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Thank you Laura for sharing this video, I have to learn how I forgive myself, it will help me to be a better person​

It's interesting how many times I may not be consciously aware that I'm being so hard on myself. I'm now more aware and after much therapy but it's still an uphill battle. Thanks for video, it's a timely reminder for me personally. xox

greate work...awseome video

Great video. Important subject. Feeling free of self-blame really opens us up to the world so makes us more able to help, to get inspired to action that help us thrive more in our lives etc...

@Laura Thank you for posting this video. I am going to share it with my family and friends to have them watch it :)

Cool video, definitely an idea I need to work on.Thanks for sharing :)

Thank this is a great topic

Thank you. Very helpful.

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Have you found a way?

I think the best way I've found to forgive myself for certain things (it doesn't really work for other things) is if I were to imagine myself as someone I knew at the age I was with the circumstances I had... and then rationalize if I would've held such a grudge against them for so long or blame them for what happened.

It's actually a trick a friend showed me once and it's been very helpful.

You are you're own worst critic afterall... thanks for the video! Accepting the way things were at the time and the person I was at the time and that it doesn't have to mean that it is me forever might help with the other things the first technique couldn't cover!

this is all new to me and this support group is new to me as well. i have a very hard time forgiving people let alone myself. I hate myself to much to forgive myelf. sorry i should go. bye now

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Is justifying your actions the same as self forgiveness? I know why I did what I did, I dont regret what I did but other people wont see it the way I do. I did the wrong thing. Perhaps forgiveness is admitting what you did is wrong and moving on hopefully with the intent of not doing it again.

sounds similar to my situation, except I regret what i did. in your situation, you admit you did the wrong thing, you might not regret it, but you know it was wrong. And it's okay to justify your actions. It means that you're not just a bad person who randomly does bad things. you had a reason you felt you had to do what you did. other people might not get it, but they don't know the whole story. You're right,as long as you admit what you did was wrong, and learn from it so that you hopefully don't repeat it, you'll be fine.

Your last sentence is the correct assumption. You did wrong, you admit it and you will strive to not do it again. I, personally, do not see it as a self-forgiveness but as a learning process. You grabbed a hot pan, you got burned. Next time you grab a hot pad first or you wait for it to cook or one of several other options. If you regret what you did and now vow to not repeat, then you are a smarter person.

when we don't forgive ourselves we get stuck in our problems and in our minds forever

Well said. It can be hard to keep these thoughts forever. Forgiveness is the only way.

Hey! This video is great and makes a big point -- letting go. Most of us think letting go is always projected to things or people around us, but we most of the time forget that completely letting go is freeing ourselves from pain or blame. It is not easy to do it but IT CAN BE DONE by ourselves and our Savior.

If He died on the cross to pay for our sins and sufferings, who are we not to acquit ourselves from mistakes?

I do agree on the idea that we need to forgive ourselves from time to time.

But me, personally, I would much rather beat myself up than forgive myself

At least I feel "better" via yelling at myself than telling myself lies to make myself forgive me.

Can't help but love ya!

It is different from one person to another. If doing such helps you, then it should be therapeutic. But you may also consider controlling your emotions at times.

I agree that self forgiveness is a good thing but how when it just feels so insurmountable? There is stuff that I allowed to happen and stuff I still allow to happen that generates feelings of anger, rage, hate and disgust within myself and towards others. How to I forgive myself for these feelings and get past them?

identify why it is that you allow it to keep happening. that way you can either avoide it, or recognize it before it causes you to react in anger. try to take it easy on yourself. your human, your not perfect, you'll make mistakes. it's perfectly okay. the trick is to learn from them. wish you the best