7cups listeners need to do better

@Laks1 I agree with you. And I also agree that it is not as easy as it seems

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@Laks1

I agree with you. It's really hard to open up to a stranger about personal issues, even if you aren't talking face to face. It's really important that listeners are open and truthful. :)

I've only recently started using this app and my first listener ghosted me after stating my reason for being here. The subsequent ones each started asking creepy questions about my dating life. It's truly frustrating when this could potentially be very beneficial.

Hello,

I want to be more stable in my personal and prof life.

I am middle aged lady.

The problem is that I have negative people around me who have prejudices against women

I used to work in a place where they hated women and would harass women deliberately.

I could not continue with the bullying and female harassment as it affected my health and confidence.

Now I am not in stable position atleast in my prof life.

They deliberately destabilise people.women have no support and constructive help from offices either take it or leave it.

I struggled both in personal and prof.

I have come to your forum because we are all positive people and humble in nature.

I meet egoistic and narcissistic people and dont like them at all.

Please guide me.thanks

Regards

@Laks1

I'm happy to see this thread. I've only had one experience with a listener, and was disappointed by it because she left the conversation without warning, and then didn't respond again for at least a week.

Reaching out to a listener is an action that involves a person making themselves vulnerable, especially at a time where a person is in need of support. I am giving it one more try by reaching out to another listener, but it did leave me feeling disappointed. I did review the chat afterwards, but didn't report the person. DIdn't realize that was an option.

@Laks1 I hear you. I understand your complaints. I'm glad somebody understands it. I think I had a little bit more higher expectations as well when I first started using this platform, but I also understand the difference between a listener and a therapist. I also understand the difficulty to actually help out a total stranger on the internet. One of my listeners had told me that if I send many texts that they can't scroll up due to security reasons, which in my opinion is an issue that shouldn't take place and doesn't make sense at all. It's very discouraging to pour your heart out and then find out that you might as well have talked to a brick wall, due to this unreasonable limitation that the platform apparently has for listeners. But if the platform will not do something about it I'd advice everyone to cut each other some slack and consider professional help if talking to a listener is not enough. I know it's not easy, I know therapy might not always be the best solution for everyone. I even understand being fed up with therapists after trying multiple ones in a row. But maybe it's worth staying here for the listeners that you have a click with or for people who take time to be kind to others on the community. I'm sure you understand that solutions don't come easy no matter where you go or which alternative you use to get help. I hope that you can achieve whatever goal you have in mind, no matter what you decide to do and I wish you the best with it. Just because some listeners might have let you down doesn't mean you have to let yourself down. Stay strong.

@Laks1 Thank you for this post. I actually read some reviews about the listeners here that has made me extremely hesitant to even attempt it. There were reports of sexual harassment and guys trying to initiate sex chat. That can be very triggering for some people. I can't imagine why it's allowed here!

@Laks1

I highly agree. I recently had a very unpleasant chat with a listener here who was rude and condescending from the beginning, and continually tried to push me into giving out contact info. I brought up a sensitive topic that I wanted to discuss and the listener made it even more uncomfortable. I've been in this kind of situation before with other people I've met online (not on 7 Cups), and figured the best thing to do to avoid feeling even more hurt was to go along with what she was saying and make it seem as if I wasn't hurt, as if I was blowing it off. Like the strategy I'm sure some of us were taught as kids to ward off bullies: hide your feelings by turning their taunts into a "joke". I'm now really uncomfortable with reporting the listener because I'm afraid that I'll look bad. I can't afford to have my account suspended, my depression and anxiety have gotten a lot worse since shelter in place started and I need people to talk to. I've found some incredibly kind and caring people on here, but there's always the random "bad egg".

@Laks1 This is super important thank you for this post!

Brand new. Needed one chat to get into a chat room. Did one. Not impressed ball 1 and 2 word answers after saying some personal things. I shouldn't have shared because i feel worse. Maybe she was watching tvmand could care less? Her response to "my mom died of covid" was "im sorry." Only question asked was "do you bake?" I used to work in a hotline. I read a good review of this place. We all need more support right now. Not sure I'll get much here but I'll see. I didn't leave her a.review because it would have not been good and now i still can't get into chat. I did the emotional quiz - and couldn't see half the answers and the final page wouldn't scroll so I could see the results. Waste of my time. So, I'm not very impressed so far. 2nd hour. Nothing ventured, nothing lost except hope.