Tips to quit?
Hey, I just need some tips on when I wanna self harm, it mainly happens during school or the middle of the night, and I just need tips to help me stop, i would greatly appreciate it, thank you!!!
@TiredBoiTnT
Hi! I am sorry to hear about difficult feelings you are going through, which make you feel like self-harming.
How about letting us know more about you? How do you feel right now? Do you feel angry about somebody? Lonely or isolated? Frustrated by people telling you what kind of person you should be and what you should do? Anxious or depressed?
I believe there are no special tips which could be better than knowing what is the reason of your wish to self-harm
However, the tips I liked the most was taking a pen and drawing a line in a place which you would like to harm. Making yourself a non-permanent tattoo. Or putting some bandage around the place you would like to harm - without actually hurting it.
You would be probably surprised there are people who care about you, even if they're complete strangers.
If you imagined the world around you in which you would not have to make yourself any harm, what it would be like?
Well, my names Bonnie, and I feel really disconnected, like I might be having a derealization episode, I get them a lot, but I do it for a lot of reasons, and lately I've been really depressed and anxious about everything. I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship, and I've been kinda struggling with it, but I haven't relapsed, I just wanna try and avoid it
@TiredBoiTnT
Hello, Bonnie. It is not required to reveal your real name while you are at 7 Cups, if you preferred to remain more anonymous.
I think you are carrying quite a lot of burden for just one person. Do you have any possibility to talk about it to a professional therapist at your school, or somewhere else?
I believe it is great you know what is good for you in the long term, and you care about your well-being as much as you can.
I don't really have a teacher, but I have my best friend who I talk too about things, and that's helps a lot, he's honestly the one who's getting me to quit self harming and stuff, so I have him to talk to
@TiredBoiTnT
Sounds good! Having someone close to talk to can really make a difference. And you can always share your feelings with us, posting a message here or using a chat.
May I ask about your parents? Are they emotionally supportive to you in any way?
Their not the best about it, my mom knows about me self harming, but shes not the best person to go too when I need to talk about things, and my dad doesn't know about it, so I can't really talk to him about it
@TiredBoiTnT
All right. As far as I can understand you might have some difficulty in naming your feelings, but it isn't a problem not to be solved.
It is good you are here at 7 Cups. If you need someone just to listen to you, to talk everyday matters or to try to make some friends, we are here for you 😊
P.S. If you want somebody to be automatically informed about your responses, please, do not delete the @username part appearing at the top of your message.
@TiredBoiTnT
It varies for every single person. But for me is to be busy to the point where my brain doesn’t think of self harming. It worked for me when I was younger, just a note that this is just a temporary solution. A better one would probably be finding someone who is willing to listen to your troubles.
@TiredBoiTnT i'm not sure what will work best for you but for me.... i felt sorry for myself and for my body. only mind was suffering and it needed help but what i did in return is made my whole body suffer (including skiping meals) and gradually i started respecting my body. it didn't come in instant and i had so many relapses that i couldn't count but at the end it was the feeling of 'sorry' that helped me quit.
Hi there!
It is sad to see you struggling with self-harm. If you need to open up about how you’re feeling, you can definitely reach out to me or a different listener on 7 cups. I used to practice unhealthy coping strategies like self-harm but stopped all thanks to God like 4 years ago. Some of the things that helped me quit was to reach out for help from local resources and practice good coping skills like going for a walk when I was in crisis or playing video games. Please don’t hurt yourself. We all care about you. In the event you’re in a crisis situation, please reach out to a local crisis center hotline or the National Suicide number. You can find the numbers on the internet.
Hope this helps!
@TiredBoiTnT
it doesn’t always work for me, but trying to think about things or people you are extremely great full for helps a lot. i really hope this helps. much love.
@TiredBoiTnT I have the exact same thing! I also find that urges come up in school or/and at night, and I'm forever asking people for tips to help manage it. Something that I find helpful for in school, is telling a close friend that you want to self harm. You have to be careful with who you tell because they may be triggered, or overwhelmed because they don't know how to react. But, if you have a trusted friend who would be totally fine with you sharing that information, tell them! They can help distract you or stay with you so that you don't have a chance to escape alone and self harm. As for the night, I'm still trying to figure that one out, honestly no clue how to handle that.
