Labels and defining your worth
I like to use the terms 'writer' and 'artist' to define me, but I feel distant from them now. I used to feel supported in my creative endevours and this helped boost my sense of self and my worth: my friends did art and writing with me, we talked about our art and writing and shared characters and designed universes, my friends would read my stories, I did art and writing in school to the encouragement of teachers, I won art awards in school, I posted to DeviantArt and I was feeling confident and motivated. Since DeviantArt has gone downhill I have stopped posting there, my friends no longer read my stories, my friends no longer care about writing and art or our characters or universes, I am no longer in school, no one gives a *** about what I create or if I create anything at all. I write and draw for no one. I've lost interest in the things I used to be so passionate about because if no one gives a *** about them and no one gives a *** about me, then why bother? Without 'writer' and 'artist' I feel like I have no worth. I feel like a ghost I feel lost I feel abandoned and betrayed. I've tried going to meetups for local artists for months but I can't connect. I feel no passion or meaning in my work. This world feels cruel and miserable and meaningless and I don't know how to build myself back up again when the future for me just seems horribly bleak.
@determinedSea4370
It reminds me some "photographer's dilemma" me and many other people are facing on and on. The question is: Why do I do it? Do I take the photos for myself or for someone else? If I do it for myself, I can just see everything with my own eyes, so I guess it is all about sharing. But does receiving any "wows", upvotes or downvotes and critics are all it is about?
My answer was: If I am trying to create anything, it is not to satisfy people (though it is very pleasant to know someone used my photo as a birthday card for a friend!), but to fulfil the need of my soul. To be in this very special state of mind when I am creating, like connected to something higher. Or maybe even being pushed to do something by something from above?
A year ago I started going to a photography group meetings in the neighborhood. There are people there who know one another for years and are not very interested in contact with any "fresh blood", someone from outside. So it seems I gave up, and next time it is only me and my camera again.
But who said artist's life should be easy? đÂ
The biggest gift we receive is the gift of seeing. If we are able to share what we see with someone, or find anybody interested in it at all, that's a different question.
@jacek73 So I'm not the only one who struggles to connect to groups like that! I love the idea of a 'gift of seeing' for us artists. I'm just so stuck in how abandoned I feel that I'm having trouble finding the motivation/wonder in anything. I keep getting hurt by the feeling that if no one cares about my art, it has no value and thus me as an artist has no value and thus this 'me' that I have built up through all these years has no value. It makes me want to not be alive. I think that in order for me to make art again, I need to build a better support network. I feel faceless if I'm starved of genuine creative company.
So relatable I myself used to own a poetry page on ***
completely stopped ⊠donât even feel like restarting
@littleSkies20 Hey, you could share a little poem with me right now. I can be your audience. Here is a poem from me:
irish whiskeyÂ
colored a conversation green
while I was pondering the sweatÂ
of human exchanges-
the round manufacturing ofÂ
modernism
bright lights and high tables
monkey blood to monkey blood
we all screech in each others' ears
for comfort
while advertisementsÂ
string bright lights
across television channels