There's so much I want to tell you but there's nothing I can tell you
Have you ever been in a relationship where you have had loads to share but you couldn't because you were hesitant?
This isn't a typical example to show how important communication is for a healthy relationship but..
You're sometimes stuck in a loop of uncertainty and confusion. Like, you may not know your partner well enough yet or let's introduce the element called, lack of trust. You feel like they might use that information against you in the future, god forbid when there's an argument or so. And what about the occasional mockery because you got vulnerable and ended up sharing the most embarassing stories with them.
It's not that you aren't dying to share your thoughts with them but you're afraid of the unknowns and uncertainties that may unfold at a later stage into the relationship.
Share your stories below. I would love to read them.
In the case of a partner being a covert narcissist, any information that you share is most likely to be used against you in the future. Dr. Ramani calls is Data mining. Ever since I learned about it 3 years back, I have stopped sharing key information that can used to belittle me with my spouse including a very significant work promotion that I got 2 years ago.
@forcefulHuman9469
I'm sorry to hear that. That's a bit on the extreme side. I did not know about the terminology you have mentioned. Thanks for replying. I hope you're doing well.
This seems familiar TBH I've had this happen to me before,. It also makes me wonder if narcissism can be a trait found in DNA ? Like could a whole family be narcissistic? Is it a learned behavior passed down from parents?
@greatpumpkinharhar
Not sure. I don't like this term at all.
