Do I have a shot?
An old ex came back into my life about a month ago. He flirted a little. I called him out on it saying if he does that take me on a date (I don't want to be messed with) & he tells me that neither of us are ready at this time & that I'm like family to him.
He ended up confiding in me & I did a bit too & he says I'm also one of his best friends. But I am still developing feelings, but I don't know if he is... I know he has a few issues & said he doesn't want a relationship until a year from now so he can work on himself & prove to himself he can be the better man.
Hanging out never seems to be working out... He could be brushing me off so I get the message. But if that's the case why did he joke about me liking him in the beginning?? He'd use that to his advantage to annoy me & my response always was "in your dreams" lol. He may actually be busy... Or he may be creating space cuz he really isn't ready.
will i actually have a chance with him?
@indigoHemlock7126
He's said he's not ready and assumed you weren't either. It's clear you're ready for something to happen though. It's not fair on you to wait around for someone, especially an ex, who doesn't seem to be very keen about getting back with you. Why did you guys break up in the first place? It may have been for a good reason, does that reason still apply? I would just be careful and don't give him loads of chances like if he cancels more than one meeting, then give up trying. You wouldn't hang around for a potential date or any guy, so I wouldn't make him an exception. You're a special person that deserves the right treatment with no exceptions, don't expect anything less than you deserve!
@SilentSerenityy aww thanks. I don't feel so special.
It was an extremely good reason to break up. We only dated for a week then he started acting all weird & wanted to seem like we weren't a thing... It turned out that he was already in a relationship that I didn't know about... The worst part is I was/am friends with that girl... I just hadn't talked to her in awhile so I didn't know what was up.... Once I knew I immediately backed off & once she found out it caused a big caffuf & they both blamed me & made me be the messages between the 2 of them to fix things.
He definitely was an idiot but the only reason I'm interested in him now is cuz he opened up to me & said he was a complete moron & made so many mistakes & he didn't want to be that guy anymore... He's now 6 months clean of porn & is making other smart decisions to improve his life... I honestly was so impressed... Hes even making some big steps that I wished my ex fiancé would've made.
@indigoHemlock7126
Well firstly, he doesn't sound too great, capable of two timing his girlfriend and leading you on! He can say he's going to change and be better but they could be more lies and false promises. There are more men out there who can show it the first time and not use you or two time their girlfriends.
