Increased libido - not sure how to handle it

@ezrea

I am having the same issues. My thinking is that this is my bodies way of trying to relieve some of the anxiety and other emotions that are overwhelming right now. I do still have sexual access to my husband so I can use that sometimes but mostly I go to a gym and workout until I'm so tired and relaxed there's nothing else to think about.

@ezrea when you get to do it, it's not that great

I went through a similar experience and I regret doing it. I think the best thing to do for now is to masturbate when you have some privacy. I think this because relationships all relationships are extremely difficult, even when you're trying to have a casual one. I find that we're still using someone to define ourselves. Or maybe a relationship would be a nice change to take your mind off the situation. Then again, that could make things worse by avoiding the situation. I have no idea, but I like talking, so take care and feel better.

@ezrea

I know how you feel man. Me and my girlfriend have been living together for a while now. We used to have sex on almost a daily basis but not to long ago it slowed down, and now completely stopped. She says its due to how she feels about her body and her self esteem. Its so hard to deal with but just know your not alone. I also have severe depression and just the lack of sex can even fuel that and make it worse. The one thing that really helped me is just to do as much other things as possible to get your mind off of it. It gets easier after a while. Just focus on not thinking about it and bettering yourself in the meantime. You will always have that chance to find someone else in your life that you will love just as much. After me and my ex broke up from 3 years of dating I thought it was completely over but things just take time. Good luck man, just work on you. It'll all come together just be patient.

@ezrea

Your increase in Libido is totally natural, and repressing it will just cause you more anguish and suffering. Even if you are free to have your own views and moral objections to out of marriage sexuality, the fact is that sexual repression affects your health in a negative way.

Mine is through the roof...and I've been thinking of hooking up with someone. But I know I shouldn't.

@Jinks I have been having these fleeting thoughts as well, however, I have also never 'hooked up' or had a 'one night stand' in my life before. Even if I thought I could handle it emotionally right now (which I know I can't), I wouldn't even know how to go about it xD

If masturbation helps relax you, then perhaps you should consider using that right now to give yourself some relief, and the relief can go beyond a sexual need, it can relax you as well physically/mentally/emotionally, maybe. If you've never had a one night stand, use that in your fantasy - there's nothing wrong with that. It's totally up to you if and when you decide to have sex with someone whether or not you're in a committed relationship. It's not a wrong doing by any means, especially if both of you know what you're getting into. If you can exercise on your own or in a group activity the endorphin rush may be of help too. Hope that this helps somewhat.

Met a guy he wants the same thing as me.

We get to meet tomorrow. We both need it.

I'm basically doing what escorts do

just I'm doing it for the sex only.