Depressed from being a virgin

@Christv1378,

sex is not a goal in itself.
And it is not a competition like "he already had sex".
There is nothing wrong with you.
Your time will come when your time will come.

@Christv1378 try to foucs on the more important things then sex if you can best of luck

@Christv1378 Hi!

It sounds like there are two difficult issues that you're facing. One of them is that you've not had sex yet, and the other one is that your friends make fun of you about it.

As you have a lot of women friends, and you have very respectful relationships with them, it seems possible that one of the women you know could be a good person to discuss both of the issues with, and also to discuss your feeling that it's not your time yet—even though, of course, it's a delicate subject.

Sometimes, in extreme circumstances, people are able get help from a therapist who specializes in relationships and sexuality, but nothing you've said here suggests to me that your circumstances are extreme enough to require therapy.

If you'd like to chat to me about your situation, feel free to click on my profile picture and message me.

Charlie

I use to be like you, my friends mock me, but i waited for the right time, now i have no regret.

there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I have friends that are as young as 21 and I’m 22 almost 23, they’re not virgins and I get the same treatment. I always throw in their faces that even if I may be a virgin I’ve saved myself from years of diseases, infections and kids that could ruin my life. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with kids but I’ve always been taught to have kids when you are emotionally, financially and mentally stable.

However one thing I can say is that, do not masterbate to much, this guy told me that he regretted masterbating a lot because it changed his views on s*x and what the sensation was like and how it was supposed to be until it came time to lose his own V-card and he was confused because he had this notion and stigma that it was going to be like this because of p*rnography and it wasn’t.

But there is absolutely nothing with with being a virgin

@Chrisv1378

i know I’m probably repeating what’s been said, I have a girlfriend and am in the same boat as you as I haven’t had sex yet either. And felt the pressure of school peers, when this often came up in conversation. But now I have come to realise that for me with sex, it will come at a time of my choice and when I feel I am ready to make that bond with my now partner or future partner. And I’m sure that will be the same for you too.

@Christv1378 Hmm it is completely your choice when you feel ready to have sex. It isn't a competition; It should be a positive way to connect with someone else and/or explore physical intimacy. I am glad you have some strong friendships with women. If you want to have sex, when you feel ready you can try getting to know a woman you like and asking her out on a date or try a dating site. Try to get to know her and eventually ask to take things to the next level. Be upfront with her if you want a relationship or just want to explore your sexuality. These things take effort and time, but again only when you feel ready.

I do not agree with others on this thread that sex is too risky; just make sure you get good information about how to have safe sex from a health clinic (use a condom, get tested regularly, etc.)

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. The problem lies with society, sex and virginity are both stigmatized, society will cast its eyes at you whether you still have your v-card or not. The truth is that you shouldn't care what anyone else thinks, all that matters is your feelings. If you want to wait for the right person to come along, then do that. If you're the type that would be ok with random hookups, then do that. Some people need a solid relationship with a person before having sex and others don't. It's really a matter of whether you want intimacy or just pleasure. You probably won't get intimacy from a hookup, but you would from sex in a relationship because there's all the emotions involved in it. It's really up to your preferences. If you think you're ready for sex then that's OK. If you aren't ready then that's also OK. It will happen all in good time. Don't let peer pressure dictate how you live your life. Just make sure when your time comes that you are prepared and safe, and if you need any additional advice then don't be afraid to reach out. Best of luck to you.