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Boyfriend wants to try new degrading sex acts

MarisolRodriguez June 13th, 2022

We are in our early twenties and my boyfriend wants to try new things with me. Which I welcome but i think he can be quite forceful sometimes. I just want him to love me not just use me for what he sees in porn. I think he fantasies doing the things he wants to do in porn. He has brought it up several times. I mean I get it he wants new experiences and he is a man. Men want those sexual fantasies satisfied as best they can. I do want to be a good girlfriend but, I want to approach him with respect and not just say no to him. I want to have more fun but with respect and some of the things he wants me to do can be too much! He tells me it's OK and that it's normal because other girls that he sees online allow guys to do those degrading things to them and wants me to partake in them. Just not sure how to approach him.

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Optimisticempath June 14th, 2022

@MarisolRodriguez

Anything you are not okay with , you are not okay with and you have every right to tell that to your boyfriend!!

It doesn't matter if or if not others like or tolerate similar behaviour , your opinion matters here and all there is. ❤

Tell your partner directly that you are not okay with the things they want to do but you welcome ideas and want to enjoy intimacy with him also , not at the cost of feeling degraded or uncomfortable

Talking should help , what you're not okay with , what would you like instead etc

I hope he doesn't become forceful about it because that'll be just terrible and you don't deserve it ❤

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MarisolRodriguez OP June 15th, 2022

Your right I should have a good conversation with him. Sometimes I think I should do more for him since it satisfies him. I know other girls like doing more with there boyfriend. I kinda thought some girls just go with it and let there bfs do want they want regardless of whether they like it themselves or not. I almost feel like it's peer pressure to perform to his desires. But I agree I should talk to him more about this. Just feel like I am not being a good girlfriend if I don't do the things he asked of me. But thanks for the help💕

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Optimisticempath June 15th, 2022

@MarisolRodriguez

Very much understandable to feel so but yes you shouldn't allow the pressure to make you do anything you're not comfortable with

I hope the conversation goes well 🤗

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