Will depressed people come back?
I had a thing with this girl for a while. She was in and out of the psych hospital for four months. I was very worried and scared for her. In October she came back, but she kinda just stopped talking to me. I'm afraid I overwhelmed her and made her feel worse. If I give her space, will she come back?
@Jflack324 There seem to be two questions here.
If the reason for her being in hospital was depression, and not something else, then her chances of recovery are good. Only a small number of people develop long term depression. There's more information about this here, for example: Depression Recovery: An Overview
Whether your relationship will be the same as it was is a whole different question, and probably impossible to predict. I imagine that if you give her space, then you are not creating any obstacles that would prevent a relationship.
If you'd ever like to chat about the situation, feel free to message me.
Charlie
@Jflack324 well its probably best you move on she is there to get help not date not trying to be mean but its kinda the truth
@Jflack324 I have been in a very similar situation, with my girlfriend becoming depressed and leaving. I will start by answering your question because I know that's what you are reading this for: nobody can know. It is impossible to predict what she will do in the future. I know this is not the answer you were hoping for, but unfortunately, it is the best answer that exists at this moment in time.
Next, I have to address when you write that you wonder if you overwhelmed her and made her feel worse. As somebody with depression, I can say that knowing that someone cares about me (be it friends, family members, etc) makes me feel significantly better. I can say with 99% certainty that you did not overwhelm her and probably made her feel better by knowing someone was there for her.
So the question you are asking right now is 'Well that sounds beautiful, Luminous, but why did she leave if I was making her feel better like you say?' The reason: because she loves you. It is an effort to protect you from her own demons (depression). She does not understand that her attempts to protect you are worse for you than being there. This is likely because it is difficult for her to completely fathom that you love her, as it is difficult to love one's self, especially during a depressive episode. She likely does not love herself much, but she loves you and thinks this is the best way to keep you safe and happy.