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Jflack324
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PathStep 9 Compassion hearts14 Forum posts29 Forum upvotes32 Current upvotes32 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2021 Member sinceSeptember 29, 2019
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When it's your friend's cousin, and their best friend
Trauma Support / by Jflack324
Last post
 January 1st, 2021
...See more When I was 16, I was raped my by my friend's cousin. Her cousin is also her best friend. I am now 21. Up until this year I didn't want to admit what had happened to me. I didnt want to get her cousin in trouble or ruin their relationship. But now I realize I have had so many problems since this incident and I didn't want to admit to myself what had happened. How do I talk to my friend about this? Should I?
Will depressed people come back?
Relationship Stress / by Jflack324
Last post
 December 18th, 2020
...See more I had a thing with this girl for a while. She was in and out of the psych hospital for four months. I was very worried and scared for her. In October she came back, but she kinda just stopped talking to me. I'm afraid I overwhelmed her and made her feel worse. If I give her space, will she come back?
First sexual relationship since the trauma
Trauma Support / by Jflack324
Last post
 December 20th, 2020
...See more I was raped when I was 16. I've had a lot of intimacy problems and eroded many good things by not being able to be physical. But in April I met someone that I was confident and comfortable with and who made me feel safe. This was my first time having a real sexual relationship with anyone. However, over the summer she was admitted to a psych ward a couple of times. She came back in October. I talked to her about my experience. We then tried to get back into things but I broke down. I haven't heard from her since so I'm assuming it's over and she's moved on. How do I find someone who can put up with me? How do I open up about this without scaring people away? Will I ever be able to have a relationship if this is going to be an issue?
Am I capable of being loved?
Relationship Stress / by Jflack324
Last post
 December 14th, 2020
...See more I feel like I am broken. I am a 21 year old lesbian and the only time I ever had sex was when I was raped. This caused me to have a deep fear of intimacy and I couldn't be physical with anyone for a long time. I never let my ex do so much as kiss me. She threatened to hit me a few times and said really awful degrading things to me. I feel like I am just gross and disgusting and people will see me this way too. In April, I started to feel more confident and ready to be physical with someone. I got into a long distance situation and we would sext a lot and it felt really good and she made me feel wanted and important and safe. Over the summer she was in and out of the psych hospital. She had her brother reach out to me so I wouldn't worry. When she got back, I tried to tell her how I was raped and how it's been bothering me lately. We sexted a bit, but I haven't heard from her in so long and just last week she blocked me. Did I dump too much on her? Am I too much? Am I too overbearing? How will I ever be able to maintain a relationship with anyone? I'm in therapy. It's helping. But it's taking so long and I still have trust issues.
Self care for when your partner is depressed
Relationship Stress / by Jflack324
Last post
 November 28th, 2020
...See more My partner is depressed and was recently admitted to the hospital again. I plan on supporting her every step of the way. Sometimes, it's just really hard not having her around. I know it is not my fault and I don't blame her for any of this. I am going to stand by her. But how can I help myself to feel a little better in all of this? And how can I be supportive when she returns?
Losing a friend because of depression
Relationship Stress / by Jflack324
Last post
 August 23rd, 2020
...See more My friend has gotten tired of my depression and complaining. I've become distant because I just have no energy for happy conversations or anything and the only time we've been talking for the past couple weeks is when I complained. The thing is she's done this too before. But now she's decided that she's done with me, got really angry, and told me to "piss off." She claims I used her but I don't think that's what I did. She also said I'm a bad friend. Now I feel really shitty and like I did something wrong. I feel bad, but I genuinely just can't have a happy conversation right now. It's not because I want to be depressed. It's because I have so much going on and it's not as simple as just getting over it. Am I a bad friend? Did I use her? I just don't know.
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