He had a bad day...so now I'm having a bad day.
I asked my husband how his day was at work, and he basically had a bad day. And, because he's having a bad day, he started to take his aggression out on me. I was assembling a dog cot to train my dog "place" and he asked me why I got it. I told him it was to train our dog to stay in one place if we have guests come over or to stay in place just to calm down. He proceeds to tell me we don't have space and what will I do with it when we have a party. Well, I'm not an impulsive person. It took me weeks to buy this cot until I had it all all figured out. I told him we can put it in one of our rooms and it'll be out of the way. Then he tells me I'm ordering too much stuff on Amazon (we have separate bank accounts and I budget for the things I want) and that it's all over the house. You guys, the stuff I buy on Amazon is usually for the house or for my dogs...like fish oil. Also, he is the one who has a hard time putting his stuff away. When he buys something, he shoves everything into a corner. He also has a hard time letting go of packaging and old stuff. Then he tried to call me out and say I'm not organized at all and tells me my 'makeup' is messy. But, it's not. It's stuff from our wedding that are in boxes(recently got married) and plus, I've been purging my clothes and shoes to donate. I told him that because you've had a bad day, you don't need to drag me down with you and that it's not fair. He didn't say anything and honestly, it's expected. I wish I can say he didn't ruin my day, but he did. At this moment, I feel like crap.
Write him a letter tell him he hurt you, and now your sad . Tell him his words hurt you. He's projecting his feelings. Write it in a letter and leave it in a place he will see it. It works. Tell him he needs to apologise to you for hurting you . It's difficult to do this but I did it with my guy and it worked. I waited until the next day to give him the note. He said he was sorry and he wants me to be happy. Just a suggestion in my successful story. Good luck!!!
@Eyeeye
I get it. I really do. And it's frustrating. Because when he has a bad day, it all gets dumped on you. And it's like you're not allowed to have any bad days because you're dealing with everything else in the world. Or maybe that's just how I'm feeling. Everyone else gets to be mad except me. Everyone else gets to dump but me.
And it's completely hard to not let it affect you and it does ruin your whole day, even though it's not about you and not your fault.