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thoughtfulmomma
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When things are bad, I'm suffering with anxiety issues with a touch of OCD to make it worse.

When things are going great, I love playing games, watching TV and going for hikes in nature.

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Struggling today
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more This past week has been hard for me. I’m struggling with my anxiety a lot. I’m struggling because I don’t have any control about what anyone else does and I’m finding it difficult to enjoy my life and do the things I want because I’m so busy worrying about everyone else and what they are doing and how it affects me. even though I understand what I am doing, and why I am doing it, I can’t stop doing it. I want to stop. I want to stop worrying. I want to enjoy my life and have fun and do the things that I want to do for me. But my anxiety and worry stops me, and I hate it.
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How others contribute to my anxiety
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 December 13th
...See more A lot of my anxiety has to do with controlling my environment.  I mean, I guess we all want that.  We all want things to be a certain, comfortable way and that means everything has to be the way we want in order to feel safe, protected, calm. But, you know what really spikes my anxiety?  When someone tells me "hey, we need to talk" or "I've got something important to tell you."  Now, that's bad enough, but THEN they'll say... "can we talk tomorrow" or "I'll call you next week."  Why can't you tell me NOW?  Because from the moment you say "I have something to tell you" until the time you actually tell me is AGONY. It's my mind racing with a million thoughts.  It's sleepless nights.  It's me thinking about every worst case scenario (because we never think about the good things).  It's hours and hours of "what ifs" until you finally let me know, and it turns out to be nothing terrible or critical or most often has nothing even to do with me. It's exhausting!
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Anxiety Distraction List
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 December 3rd
...See more The idea of, when being in an anxiety attack, is to try and focus on something else.  Because, of course, the more we focus on the anxiety and whatever is causing it, the worse it is.  So, I was wondering if we could assemble a list of things everyone does here that helps "distract" them from the anxiety.  What are you doing to take your brain to a happier, calmer place?  What are you doing to take care of yourself in those moments? It would be nice to have a big list we could refer to.  At least, I would like to have a nice list to refer to.  I need ideas when I'm out in public, when I'm all alone, etc. Here are a few things I do to start: - Take a walk in nature - Play a game on my phone - Watch a favorite movie
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Morning and Anxiety
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 December 2nd
...See more So, I have had a rough couple of days with my anxiety. Last night when I went to bed I was “okay” and actually slept the whole night. This morning my anxiety is ramping up again and it’s because I’m worrying about several things. The problem is, I’m not worrying about myself. I’m not thinking about myself. I’m thinking of my son, my friend, other family members - all dealing with problems of one kind or another. It’s making me all sick with anxiety and it’s even more upsetting that I’m not even worried about myself and my own issues. I need to learn to start caring for myself a lot more. I have no control over the lives and choices of everyone else. I can only control me and my reactions to them. But, it’s just hard to change my way of thinking and addressing things. Any suggestions??
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Had the worst night
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 December 1st
...See more i had a full blown anxiety attack last night. It was a ten out of ten. I’m exhausted, my brain is still not allowing me to think past all the fears and issues. I barely slept and have been in this “fight or flight mode” for almost 12 hours. I’m so tired of feeling this way. I’m tired of reacting in a way that is causing me so much stress and pain. I’m really sick of anxiety. 😞
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Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 November 15th
...See more So, I have been learning a lot about myself and my anxiety over the past several years. Today I’m learning… well, not learning, but trying to reason with myself about what I need and my fear of asking. My therapist … and really, every motivational speaker… says that I need to ask for what I want. If I need someone to call me, I can’t expect they’ll do it. I have to ask. But its not that easy for me. I have a ton of fear in me that drives my anxiety. I want to know how someone is feeling so I should ask. But then I’m afraid- what if they tell me and it’s bad news? That sends me into an anxiety spiral. What if they say things are fine? That sends me into a “what if they’re just saying that “ anxiety spiral. What if I reach out and don’t hear back? No call or text message. That sends me into a severe panic mode where my brain struggles endlessly to figure out the why and figure out how to fix it. This is a very exhausting way to live and I was just wondering if anyone else goes through this.
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All Day "Fight or Flight"
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 November 9th
...See more So, I got some news yesterday evening, and while it was upsetting, I felt like I was in an okay place when I went to bed.  I had stayed up late (wanted to for daylight savings), and I took my prescription valium (very low dose) to help settle my mind. I played a few games in bed and fell asleep.  About 30 minutes later my body woke up to a raging, "fight or flight" panic attack.  That was probably about 2am.  I was up every hour, and I have been unable to shake it.  I've done deep breathing, I've gone for a couple of walks.  I get temporary results, but then it just comes back - sometimes even worse. I'm exhausted.  I have been dozing on the couch, but my heart starts pounding and no matter what I do, my brain just puts me back into full panic mode. What can I do to at least try and take some of the edge off of this attack.  I'm going on almost 14 hours and I'm scared and exhausted.
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Game Apps for Anxiety
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 October 5th
...See more I'd like to hear some recommendations for apps I could add to my phone (IOS) for anxiety relief.  Specifically, I'd like some games that are relaxing, easy, calming and can keep me distracted for a long time if needed.  I have tried several over the years but nothing I've really stuck with too much. I've had a major anxiety attack and I just need to find something that will help calm my mind.
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