Fiance wants XXX more than I do and it's taking a toll on me. Advice???
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Hi all. I'm not sure where to start on this, so I'm sorry if it's more of a ramble than a straightforward question.
My fiance and I have known each other for years and been in a relationship for close to a year now. At first we were super happy and close together, but after I started working I didnt have enough time or energy to be as bubbly with him as before. I work overnight, and it's difficult for me to sleep during the day, so I try to keep to a schedule as much as possible. I come home, get comfortable, eat, maybe read or watch something and try to include him in this if he wants. Usually he doesnt want to and does his own thing. A big issue that arises is that hes a bit of a nympho and my libido has become nearly non existent for awhile now. For me personally, I just dont want/feel physical intimacy for whatever reasons. And it's taking a toll on the emotional side as well. At first, I aimed for once a week to try to help us both be closer, but now more like once a month. He feels neglected/unwanted and i tell him its not true, I'm just not in the mood, it still hurts him.
He tries to...um...entice me(?) randomly playing with me, but I'm sensitive and if I'm not...in the mood, it feels uncomfortable or painful sometimes. I've tried explaining this to him and he said he understood, but it seems like hes desperate or forgotten because he started doing it again when I lay down to sleep.
I dont know what to do. Any advice?