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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (February 17 - 23)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community!  To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What are you looking most forward to in the following days? * Would you rather live by the sea or by the mountain? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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Relationship Support Group Sessions Schedule
by KatePersephone
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Hello everyone! 💜 This forum thread has been created so that the team can share with all of you the month's group support sessions within the Relationship Stress Community!  "Please do not post in this thread! Thank you" Discussions held in the Relationship Support room for the month of February: Sunday, February 9 Romantic Relationships with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, February 9 Communication within friendships  with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (teen side) Sunday, February 16 healthy and unhealthy relationships with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, February 16 healthy and unhealthy relationships with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, February 23 trust in relationships with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, February 23 trust in relationships with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) ------------------------- click here [https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html] to convert the time of the sessions to your timezone! Please subscribe so you can be the first one to receive updates on the sessions! ❣️ ------------------------- tagging the community in case they want to receive chatroom discussion updates: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @decisiveScarf8956 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @Helpingheart23 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @jwong611 @k87 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger ------------------------- Interested in hosting 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 February 9th
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInFebruary1723_347041/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @fallingIron143 @agreeableDrum2078 @scarletNickel9668 @StabilityInVulnerability @braveSkies5820 @AnjaliSrivastava @n0tl1b3rty @Kamila07 @ghoster456 @Kilojoule1997 @pioneeringComputer6843 @Anahittt @rapunzel1106 @amicableEast9232 @Helenaicy @passionateMaple4479 @Raynothere @LovelyRose4ever @maja20 @Samaira36 [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] 
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I need advice
by mimi41
Last post
 18 hours ago
...See more I need advice and to see if I am overthinking or overreacting in my relationship. I have been with my guy for a little over a year, and we have been calling each other babe and baby. Last night, we got into an argument regarding calling me more by my name when he is always saying babe. I asked him to please not call me by my name, as it does not feel personal and loving, and he said that this was my issue and to him it is more personal, as he has called other people babe and noone by my name. I told him it is giving me friends vibes vs us being in a relationship. He said to let it go and continues to call me by my name. We also went on a date over the weekend where he did not show any type of PDA and told me that he does not like PDA and will not change that. I know it seems ridicoulous to by fighting over endearment names but why the sudden shift and every time I ask questions he says that I am causing drama and creating unproductive episodes. Am I overreacting? Or is he trying to pull away emotionally more and more and doesn't know how to break things off? I am big on communication and affection and he isn't. He sent me a message today again with my name and a kiss emoji clearly did not care what I was feeling about calling me by my name. He is 25 years older than me and he says he thinks and do things differently but clearly his behaviors have not worked in the past and it is starting not to work for me either. But again when I bring up my feelings they get dismissed. 
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Fetish
by Griffeyll
Last post
 Sunday
...See more I'm not sure really how to start. I've been told I'm jist insecure and jealous and all those adjectives. I feel shame for even having these thoughts. Like it's my fault. If inwas only different. In 2023 I met the man who i saw as the man with all the qualities that I had looked for in a man all my life. We were friends first. He had had a full life. Living overseas for 30 years. At the time I didn't know what that could mean. In the next year I found out some things that ibthough well maybe I can live with. After all they are 8000 miles away. But then I started to see it was hardwired. My husband has a thing for Asian women. Not just oh hey they are pretty or whatever it's an obsession. I've realized that they are his ideal, his want, need and desire. His social media looks like a who's who of Asian sororities. There's a couple other races but 99% is Asian. I have talked to him. Fought with him. Tried to explain how I feel about it. What it's done to my mental health. My self worth. My self esteem. I feel less than. Have threatened to leave. Divorce him. He will tell me he'll stop then a day later or often in the same day he's back to following them. It interferes with our intimacy. He can't feel arousal without looking at them. And then love bombs me and acts like it's me he wants. But I have figured out the routine if it. I have become, and I know this is irrational, to have a strong feeling about Asian women. I am mentally overwhelmed. I have done everything I can think of to be a good wife. A good woman. But I will never measure up. I am in constant pain, worry, stressed and in anxiety. I dont know what to do anymore. Ive become a shell of who I was before him. I've showed him pictures of me before and me now and you can see what the stress of it has done. He doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. And if it nothing then why not just stop? Wjen he sees the damage it's caused? I don't even take care of myself in the last month like I used to. What's the point? It doesn't matter anyway. I can't be Asian. I've even googled hpw to be more Asian like. Is there surgery to make me look more Asian. I'm a white woman by the way. Ive told him this. And within hours he was back at it. 
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Taking a break during the talking stage
by pioneeringPlace6999
Last post
 February 9th
...See more Hi! First post here. So back in November, I 16 (M) started talking to a friend of mine 15 (M) and things had been going pretty well for a bit, not to mention this is my first talking stage ever. But not too long ago, around mid-January, I started to feel like things were off, we had been growing more and more distant. I initially thought it was just me getting into my head, but eventually I realized that wasn't the case and that something was wrong. Fast forward to this Wednesday, we had a talk after school, he told me that he felt like we were moving too fast and that he's overwhelmed with a lot: academics, the school musical, and personal stuff. He said that he needs some space and that we should take a break, we texted later that night and he told me he wants to go back to being friends for a bit. But, now things are insanely awkward, and we haven't said a word to each other since, the most we've done is say "Hi" and give a small side hug. Maybe it's just me overthinking, but I would love some advice, I can't get my mind off of him and I don't know how to go back to being just friends. I know it's only temporary until he feels ready to start again with our relationship, but I'm scared he's going to lose interest in me and that both our relationship and friendship is going to fizzle out.
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Love after baby
by Thoughtdweller
Last post
 February 4th
...See more I’m having trouble connecting with my partner after having our baby. He is finding the adjustment very difficult and I feel like I’m walking on eggshells everyday. we haven’t been intimate in anyway (3months) even though I try to initiate it all the time, I try to kiss him passionately and I get a peck and turns his head away.. I’ve dressed in lingerie, had the baby asleep and nothing.. I’ve sent nsfw photos to him trying to get something and I get nothing. It’s starting to really take a toll on me and my self esteem as I can only take so much rejection… I know relationships are more than sex, I’ve tried to talk to him about how he feels, how I can support him, does he feel like he’s missing something and I get nothing useful in return. I’m just at a loss. does anyone have advice on bringing the spark back after having a baby and how to support a depressed partner?
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I do not what to do i am stuck
by Dawnlit02
Last post
 January 23rd
...See more So in 2023 i met a girl and she was in a relationship with a guy since mid of 2023, Till we reached 2024 i was friendly with her and i was the first person in her entire life to whom she told about herself, her hobbies and about him being toxic and much more. Once she was fearing talking to me as he found out my messages so all that took place and then they broke up because he was too toxic and even didn't put efforts. I was in love with her at this point and she was very similar to me in every aspect. So after her breakup i didn't feel the appropriate time for pushing her towards another relationship with me. I gave her space and i provided an atmosphere for her to heal after a few months she was getting back to normal , she even discontinued her therapy because she was not feeling the need for it and it was the first time she was feeling better in herself and her face started to glow and she showed signs of love for me. Then he entered her life again in order to manipulate into giving him a second chance. He showed his deteriorating physical health as a weapon to manipulate and compell her. She hadn't received any kind of love since her childhood so seeing this and even improvements as she termed them , She decided to get back to him again and even her feelings for him rebounded.  Now, She thinks she can work it out with him and tells me about his improvements. Also he has a toxic friend circle and toxic in himself too even now but she terms it as just a weakness. Even in deteriorated physical health he went to meet her and begged that give me a second chance and make things fine. She said he met her and then went to hospital the next day evening i see a story of him and his group in a fair where there is lot of walking involved. Also he manipulated her by conviction that she mustn't cheat and even being with another guy is cheating. Also 10 days before she gave a second chance, He asked for her dis cord pass in order to delete their chats and to check if she is talking to another guy . 10 days later she calls this just an insecurity, now she calls his toxicity just a small weakness, I have tried every way of making her realize but it didn't work and i believe she will realize it by her own and i do not know what to do
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Is it natural to feel this way
by Dawnlit02
Last post
 January 20th
...See more I have been on good terms with a person prioritizing growth, trust and honesty. That person was not treated well in childhood and in previous relationships as well and now when she is feeling this kind of love for the first time and she feels resentment towards it. Is it natural to feel this kind of resentment ? How can I contribute more towards changing this and changing the perception of love as chaos for a person who has been hurt all her life
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Strained Relationship with Parents
by redTree7626
Last post
 January 20th
...See more For the past several years my mother and I have had a strained relationship, and I would love to fix it, but I don't know how. When I was younger I used to be very close to my mother, and we would talk for hours at a time about my life. However, I have always felt uncomfortable with how involved she is in my life. She used to invite people over from school without my permission who I was in a fight with so that we could work it out. In middle school she invited half of my class over for a pool party without my permission, which incited many awkward conversations between me and classmates who wanted to know why they hadn't been invited to the party. In seventh grade, she became one of my class parents and became involved in resolving many of the big class conflicts. I used to have constant anxiety at home which affected my sleep, so in high school I went to boarding school and I only had that persistent anxiety when I went home on the weekends. I believe the thing that ultimately led to our strained relationship was (and is) my habit of suppressing emotions. I have a lot of pent up sadness around my relationship with my mom, which manifests itself into anger and frustration. I never confronted my mom about the sadness I feel around some of her actions, because it is incredibly uncomfortable for me to give up control of my emotions and show vulnerability. It has become so extreme that even sharing small details about my day to my mom makes me extremely uncomfortable. I know my mom wants a closer relationship, and feels disappointed that I push her away, but until I find a way to work through my sadness I don't think I can offer her a closer relationship. If anyone has suggestions for how to release my sadness or about my situation I would be incredibly grateful. I currently am talking to a therapist, and have been for the past year. I am sure my mom would be happy and open to talk with me about how I am feeling, and I would love to be able to as well, but I am currently not comfortable doing so. I run everyday and have tried meditating and just crying, but I think I need to be doing something else as well, because none of those things feel like they are making a difference. Please, if anything else has worked for anybody please them me know. 
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Affair advice
by secretSea7042
Last post
 January 15th
...See more I’ve been married for 20+ years. My husband is an alcoholic. We have grown up children. We don’t have sex and haven’t done for over 10 years. We are more like brother and sister than a couple.  In April 23 I met a man at work. We hit it off straight away. We became really good friends. We spent a lot of time together at work and shared personal stories. He is also married but for less time, and has a 7yo daughter. He told me his wife is very controlling and he lives with his in laws. He also has a son from a previous relationship who he doesn’t have contact with.  We became really close. He asked a couple of times whether our friendship would go any further, but I always brushed it off.  I had some surgery for an ileostomy in April 24 and he was really supportive. In June 24 he told me he’d fallen in love with me. I told him he didn’t mean it and was being silly, that he was not to say it again. One day in August 24 I came into work and it was just us two. He kissed me and it led on to us starting an affair.  He would send me messages at home from his work phone, telling me how much he loved me, how I was everything he’d ever wanted but we both agreed we could never leave our current spouses. I could never leave my husband as I know he would drink himself to death and I couldn’t look my children in the eye knowing I’d let that happen. He couldn’t leave his wife because she had already told him during fights he’d no see his daughter and he has hated being separated from his son and does not want to repeat the pattern. I was fine with this arrangement.  We slept with each other end of September and have done so 3 more times. We’ve managed to go on little dates during the work day to restaurants and cinema. When we’re together it feels amazing.  However his behaviour since mid December has been odd. He stopped messaging me at home. He stopped making an effort to see me. I asked him about it and he denied it was happening. I knew he’d be taking 3 weeks off over Christmas because his wife was having a hysterectomy. I didn’t expect any contact from him given his behaviour leading up to that point. He sent me a merry Christmas text but forgot my birthday.  He had previously arranged to spend his first day back at work with me. I waited for him in the office. Then about an hour later he sent me a message saying he was supposed to come in but he was feeling poorly so he decided to work from home. I didn’t reply. 2 hours later he said he was on his way to the office. I’d already left at this point as I was upset. We talked but it was strained. He didn’t seem to recall planning to spend the day with me. It was as if he’d just said it but nothing was confirmed so it didn’t matter. I just let it slide as I was too upset and didn’t want to lose my temper.  But the more I thought about it, the more I realised anything we did was always on his terms and when it was convenient for him. He’d often ask me to come into work on days i was working from home, and I would make an excuse to my husband and go in. I never asked him because I think I knew deep down he wouldn’t do it. If he messaged me at home, it was always when his wife was away. The messaging was inconsistent and always from his work phone. He said he couldn’t message from his personal phone as she regularly checked it. I told him about how to do locked chats on WhatsApp but he still wouldn’t do it, he said he was too scared.  I guess what I’m wondering is if I’ve been an idiot and he doesn’t love me at all. Has he just been saying this because he wanted to have sex with me. Does he keep me around because I boost his ego. All of it has really made me question my worth and doubt myself. I feel stupid and used. I don’t know what to do. 
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Sexual compatibility
by Blissbabe
Last post
 January 15th
...See more This might be kind of a niche problem but has anyone had their significant other come out with a fetish many years into their relationship? What my husband wants and what I want is unfortunately in conflict now. He wants a stag/vixen relationship and I don't have the desire or personality for it. He initially said it didn't have to change anything if I wasn't down, but I feel like it's consumed our sex life. The main issue is that things are taking longer and longer, presumably because he's sort of lost the fantasy by me knowing and not taking it up, and it's taking a huge hit on my self-esteem. It feels like he isn't attracted to ME so much as me in these scenarios, and while I understand the nature of a fetish and I'm not judging, it just makes things feel doomed. The funny thing is that sleeping around would fix all our issues - make him happy, make me feel wanted both by him and others - but damn if I just want my husband, and somehow I find myself in a backwards world where that's a bad thing.
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Confused
by Enough23
Last post
 January 11th
...See more I have been with my husband for 26 years married for 22. We have always had problems in our marriage because he has an avoidant attachment the result of having a narcissistic mother and I have an anxious attachment . We both have been self reflecting and realized that each have been horrible spouses. He told me he loves me but he is no longer in love with me. He says he no longer likes me as a person. He tells me he wants to try and work it out but I don’t know if I can. I don’t really know what he truly feels. He gives me mixed signals. About a year ago I have realized he was verbally and mentally abusive towards me. I have met coworkers that show me more appreciation than I ever got from him. My husband has a hard time having a work life balance. He is there for with boss, coworkers, and employees. He will take the time to fix problems with people at work but not at home. I feel like we have come to a place where we are too far gone but in the back of my mind he is my person. The one I had 3 children with. Is it worth saving? I have a lot of anxieties that I have put on him over the years. We both came into the marriage with childhood traumas. Would like some insight.
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Stuck in my marriage
by greenScarf5019
Last post
 January 9th
...See more I think you might remember me; I had previously shared about my relationship struggles. I’m two months into my marriage, and I find myself struggling to connect with my husband. My family expects a lot from me already, even asking about a baby, but I feel trapped in this situation. I’ve faced sexual abuse in the past, which my husband knows about and has been supportive of, but I’ve never felt any attraction toward him. He’s not my type, and his appearance and lack of education bother me, even though he’s kind, calm, and works hard at his hotel job. I can’t open up to my parents because they see him as a good person and wouldn’t understand. I feel stuck, angry, and unsure about what to do next What do i do now? Someone please help me 
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Boundaries
by Bleiva33
Last post
 January 5th
...See more What are some healthy boundaries some of you have set within your own romantic relationships to prevent expectations, strain or any other negative feelings from pulling you and your partners down?

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