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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInJanuary1319_344583/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @dumbledoresleftbigtoe @Blissbabe @meganbaxter7500 @gentleStrings6369 @hazelmae46 @sympatheticWest110 @transcomrade39 @kindShell9449 @Wackyal123 @confusedsunshine @BPDBadee @Feelthemagic @PeacefulWords2025 @Alitttlestrange @Enough23 @purpleBike9420 @xoxotanishkaa @mickeyzac7 @Shamier @tybruh @exuberantTree3674 @gracefulFaith7044 @optimisticScarf4825 @purpleblooom @braveSailRP @Iwnakms @philosophicalCurrent5895 @LostAndUnsure92 @mark0614 @ashen64 @Anel11 @Hejee [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] 
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 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Relationship Support Group Sessions Schedule
by KatePersephone
Last post
 November 14th, 2024
...See more Hello everyone! 💜 This forum thread has been created so that the team can share with all of you the month's group support sessions within the Relationship Stress Community!  "Please do not post in this thread! Thank you" Discussions held in the Relationship Support room for the month of November: Sunday, January 5 Conflict Resolution with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 5 Conflict Resolution  with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 12 Relationships with Boundaries with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 12 Relationships with Boundaries with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 19 Respecting ourselves with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 19 Friendship Icebreakers with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (teen side) Sunday, January 26 Relationships and Social Media with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 26 Relationships and Social Media with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) ------------------------- click here [https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html] to convert the time of the sessions to your timezone! Please subscribe so you can be the first one to receive updates on the sessions! ❣️ ------------------------- tagging the community in case they want to receive chatroom discussion updates: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @decisiveScarf8956 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @Helpingheart23 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @jwong611 @k87 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger ------------------------- Interested in hosting 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Is it natural to feel this way
by Dawnlit02
Last post
 21 hours ago
...See more I have been on good terms with a person prioritizing growth, trust and honesty. That person was not treated well in childhood and in previous relationships as well and now when she is feeling this kind of love for the first time and she feels resentment towards it. Is it natural to feel this kind of resentment ? How can I contribute more towards changing this and changing the perception of love as chaos for a person who has been hurt all her life
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Strained Relationship with Parents
by redTree7626
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more For the past several years my mother and I have had a strained relationship, and I would love to fix it, but I don't know how. When I was younger I used to be very close to my mother, and we would talk for hours at a time about my life. However, I have always felt uncomfortable with how involved she is in my life. She used to invite people over from school without my permission who I was in a fight with so that we could work it out. In middle school she invited half of my class over for a pool party without my permission, which incited many awkward conversations between me and classmates who wanted to know why they hadn't been invited to the party. In seventh grade, she became one of my class parents and became involved in resolving many of the big class conflicts. I used to have constant anxiety at home which affected my sleep, so in high school I went to boarding school and I only had that persistent anxiety when I went home on the weekends. I believe the thing that ultimately led to our strained relationship was (and is) my habit of suppressing emotions. I have a lot of pent up sadness around my relationship with my mom, which manifests itself into anger and frustration. I never confronted my mom about the sadness I feel around some of her actions, because it is incredibly uncomfortable for me to give up control of my emotions and show vulnerability. It has become so extreme that even sharing small details about my day to my mom makes me extremely uncomfortable. I know my mom wants a closer relationship, and feels disappointed that I push her away, but until I find a way to work through my sadness I don't think I can offer her a closer relationship. If anyone has suggestions for how to release my sadness or about my situation I would be incredibly grateful. I currently am talking to a therapist, and have been for the past year. I am sure my mom would be happy and open to talk with me about how I am feeling, and I would love to be able to as well, but I am currently not comfortable doing so. I run everyday and have tried meditating and just crying, but I think I need to be doing something else as well, because none of those things feel like they are making a difference. Please, if anything else has worked for anybody please them me know. 
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Affair advice
by secretSea7042
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more I’ve been married for 20+ years. My husband is an alcoholic. We have grown up children. We don’t have sex and haven’t done for over 10 years. We are more like brother and sister than a couple.  In April 23 I met a man at work. We hit it off straight away. We became really good friends. We spent a lot of time together at work and shared personal stories. He is also married but for less time, and has a 7yo daughter. He told me his wife is very controlling and he lives with his in laws. He also has a son from a previous relationship who he doesn’t have contact with.  We became really close. He asked a couple of times whether our friendship would go any further, but I always brushed it off.  I had some surgery for an ileostomy in April 24 and he was really supportive. In June 24 he told me he’d fallen in love with me. I told him he didn’t mean it and was being silly, that he was not to say it again. One day in August 24 I came into work and it was just us two. He kissed me and it led on to us starting an affair.  He would send me messages at home from his work phone, telling me how much he loved me, how I was everything he’d ever wanted but we both agreed we could never leave our current spouses. I could never leave my husband as I know he would drink himself to death and I couldn’t look my children in the eye knowing I’d let that happen. He couldn’t leave his wife because she had already told him during fights he’d no see his daughter and he has hated being separated from his son and does not want to repeat the pattern. I was fine with this arrangement.  We slept with each other end of September and have done so 3 more times. We’ve managed to go on little dates during the work day to restaurants and cinema. When we’re together it feels amazing.  However his behaviour since mid December has been odd. He stopped messaging me at home. He stopped making an effort to see me. I asked him about it and he denied it was happening. I knew he’d be taking 3 weeks off over Christmas because his wife was having a hysterectomy. I didn’t expect any contact from him given his behaviour leading up to that point. He sent me a merry Christmas text but forgot my birthday.  He had previously arranged to spend his first day back at work with me. I waited for him in the office. Then about an hour later he sent me a message saying he was supposed to come in but he was feeling poorly so he decided to work from home. I didn’t reply. 2 hours later he said he was on his way to the office. I’d already left at this point as I was upset. We talked but it was strained. He didn’t seem to recall planning to spend the day with me. It was as if he’d just said it but nothing was confirmed so it didn’t matter. I just let it slide as I was too upset and didn’t want to lose my temper.  But the more I thought about it, the more I realised anything we did was always on his terms and when it was convenient for him. He’d often ask me to come into work on days i was working from home, and I would make an excuse to my husband and go in. I never asked him because I think I knew deep down he wouldn’t do it. If he messaged me at home, it was always when his wife was away. The messaging was inconsistent and always from his work phone. He said he couldn’t message from his personal phone as she regularly checked it. I told him about how to do locked chats on WhatsApp but he still wouldn’t do it, he said he was too scared.  I guess what I’m wondering is if I’ve been an idiot and he doesn’t love me at all. Has he just been saying this because he wanted to have sex with me. Does he keep me around because I boost his ego. All of it has really made me question my worth and doubt myself. I feel stupid and used. I don’t know what to do. 
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Sexual compatibility
by Blissbabe
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more This might be kind of a niche problem but has anyone had their significant other come out with a fetish many years into their relationship? What my husband wants and what I want is unfortunately in conflict now. He wants a stag/vixen relationship and I don't have the desire or personality for it. He initially said it didn't have to change anything if I wasn't down, but I feel like it's consumed our sex life. The main issue is that things are taking longer and longer, presumably because he's sort of lost the fantasy by me knowing and not taking it up, and it's taking a huge hit on my self-esteem. It feels like he isn't attracted to ME so much as me in these scenarios, and while I understand the nature of a fetish and I'm not judging, it just makes things feel doomed. The funny thing is that sleeping around would fix all our issues - make him happy, make me feel wanted both by him and others - but damn if I just want my husband, and somehow I find myself in a backwards world where that's a bad thing.
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Confused
by Enough23
Last post
 January 11th
...See more I have been with my husband for 26 years married for 22. We have always had problems in our marriage because he has an avoidant attachment the result of having a narcissistic mother and I have an anxious attachment . We both have been self reflecting and realized that each have been horrible spouses. He told me he loves me but he is no longer in love with me. He says he no longer likes me as a person. He tells me he wants to try and work it out but I don’t know if I can. I don’t really know what he truly feels. He gives me mixed signals. About a year ago I have realized he was verbally and mentally abusive towards me. I have met coworkers that show me more appreciation than I ever got from him. My husband has a hard time having a work life balance. He is there for with boss, coworkers, and employees. He will take the time to fix problems with people at work but not at home. I feel like we have come to a place where we are too far gone but in the back of my mind he is my person. The one I had 3 children with. Is it worth saving? I have a lot of anxieties that I have put on him over the years. We both came into the marriage with childhood traumas. Would like some insight.
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Stuck in my marriage
by greenScarf5019
Last post
 January 9th
...See more I think you might remember me; I had previously shared about my relationship struggles. I’m two months into my marriage, and I find myself struggling to connect with my husband. My family expects a lot from me already, even asking about a baby, but I feel trapped in this situation. I’ve faced sexual abuse in the past, which my husband knows about and has been supportive of, but I’ve never felt any attraction toward him. He’s not my type, and his appearance and lack of education bother me, even though he’s kind, calm, and works hard at his hotel job. I can’t open up to my parents because they see him as a good person and wouldn’t understand. I feel stuck, angry, and unsure about what to do next What do i do now? Someone please help me 
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Boundaries
by Bleiva33
Last post
 January 5th
...See more What are some healthy boundaries some of you have set within your own romantic relationships to prevent expectations, strain or any other negative feelings from pulling you and your partners down?
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Troubled About My Friend’s Patterns with Women
by lolita9824
Last post
 December 31st
...See more I’m (F late 20s) friends with this guy (same age) since high school, we dated for a little while in much recent years but things didn’t work out. I’ve been troubled by certain aspects of his behavior with women and relationships, and am curious to hear broader perspectives. * He’d ran into a few (I mean, minor and not many) sex-related issues since high school and college. Title IX allegations and such. But to keep matters short, from what I know, these incidents weren’t rooted in malicious intent; he expressed remorse and took steps to change. He’d shared details about some of these incidents with me. * He’d had negative dating experiences and expressed bad luck with ladies, making him scared of talking to them. He had told me the ladies he met are either rude to him (making false allegations and making him really ), liar, sleep around, or lazy etc. * He cheated on his first love (also from our high school). He tried to win her back for a very long time (to this day). He reached out to her again after he broke up with me. I’ve talked to this girl. She hated him because he kept reaching out to her, and she had to block him multiple times. * He broke up with me and dated a new girl this year. Now he’s single again and he attempted to contact me again. As with his first girlfriend, he has… a rather difficult time letting go of people and moving on? * In high school (and he was friend-zoning me back then), he told me he wish he has a little sister, because he only had little brothers. He sometimes called me and a few of his female friends little sisters back then. * When we were dating, not so long ago, he told me (alongside with wanting many kids) that he specifically wants to have a daughter. * He’s religious and makes it clear he wants a married life and is loyal and honest. How do you describe this man’s pattern with women? And why is this specific desire to have a little sister or a daughter… My concern is his patterns with women and relationships seem inconsistent with his stated desire for a committed, loyal married life. I don’t know if he needs help with forming healthy relationships or something? What exactly can I do for him? We don't already have a healthy relationship between us but I still want to stick by him.
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new freinds
by janae17
Last post
 December 18th, 2024
...See more hi guyss made a new freind. moana and alex. they're very nice. im glad i have some new people to talk to. also female 16 looking for new freinds. (also single if that means anything)
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Dealing with Relationship Stress When Depression Affects Your Partner
by dtanushree
Last post
 December 9th, 2024
...See more If you're feeling the weight of your partner's depression changing the dynamic in your relationship, you're not alone. When someone you love goes through a mental health struggle, it can be incredibly hard to navigate the shift. You may notice that your partner, once caring and attentive, becomes distant, irritable, or withdrawn. This can leave you feeling lonely, hurt, and unsure of how to move forward. Mental health professionals often emphasize these key points when navigating relationships affected by depression: 1. Remember It's Not Personal: “Depression often leads people to withdraw from loved ones, but it's important to understand that their behavior is not a reflection of their feelings toward you,” says Dr. John M. Grohol, a psychologist and founder of PsychCentral. Your partner may not have the energy or emotional capacity to show affection or care the way they used to. Their mental health is clouding their ability to connect emotionally. 2. Be Honest About Your Feelings: Dr. Laura Berman, a relationship therapist, suggests “When your partner is depressed, it’s easy to feel isolated. Let your partner know how you're feeling without placing blame. Use 'I' statements, like 'I feel disconnected when we don't communicate,' so it feels less like criticism and more like a personal need for connection.” This can help open up a dialogue without triggering defensiveness. 3. Self-Care Is Key: According to Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, a psychologist, “You can’t pour from an empty cup. It’s crucial to practice self-care, especially when supporting a partner with depression. Make time for yourself, seek support from friends or a therapist, and set boundaries to ensure you're not sacrificing your own well-being.” Taking care of yourself isn't selfish, it's necessary for maintaining your own mental health. Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. It's okay to feel overwhelmed, but don’t forget to prioritize your own well-being while supporting your partner. Has anyone else gone through something like this? What helped you find balance in your relationship during difficult times?
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I hate my life
by greenScarf5019
Last post
 December 9th, 2024
...See more I don’t know why I said okay to my marriage. Even when they showed me his photo, I felt I didn’t want to marry him and said no, but my uncle manipulated me into saying yes, and I trusted his words blindly. Now, I’m married to a man I’ve never felt attracted to. My marriage and my brother’s happened at the same time, but his was a love marriage. Now, they live happily—they spend time together, bathe together, eat together, and take photos holding hands. I can’t even bring myself to touch my husband’s hand. I don’t feel attracted to him. I don’t like his smile, his eyes, or anything about him, but my parents expect us to be like my brother and his wife. My mom even had heartache thinking about my marriage life. I’m not happy with him. He never starts a conversation; I always have to. He never does. I pretend to be happy just to see my parents happy.
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To stay or go
by emotionalBranch5559
Last post
 December 5th, 2024
...See more Hello,  My wife and I have been together 10 years and have had sexual/intimacy issues for 8-9 of those. She love bombed me and initiated sex often that first little bit. Soon after we got married she wanted to kiss and have sex less and less but still cuddles and holds my hand often. We’re best friends. Each year we either don’t have sex at all or only have it a few times. She tells me in an ideal world I’d have a friends with benefits on the side but I don’t want that. I feel bad wanting more and having needs but I also can’t walk on egg shells hoping I’m not kissing her too much or making her feel too bad about sex.  I’ve been telling her all this for years now and nothing has change permanently, always up and down each year.  Advice?

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