Struggles Post Break Up
It's hasn't quite been a month yet since the unexpected break up. Everyone who has listened to what happened says to just "give it time". Easier said than done unfortunately. I cared and still do care about him. I pray for him daily. Something he said keeps coming back to me, that he thought I deserve someone better than him. He had all the qualities in a significant other that I wanted. I told him that. Everyone seems to think he got "too close" and got spooked with the idea of committing to a marriage and family, keep in mind he talked about it frequently and was excited about the thought. I am trying to take time to care for myself, unfortunately I've also suffered a debitating physical injury on top of this. I just don't know how long the wait is going to be.
@practicalPlum3423
It could be just that he lost all confidence in himself to provide for you, and his male ego could have taken a hit, and doesnt wants to show it to you, and feels in future he wont be able to provide best for you, and which might cause you to think of him as a looser, i dont say you will think of him like that, but it probably is the case in his mind, and he doesnt wants to be the one who will be let go off, so he is being the onewho leaves to save his ego, and says you deserve better to save himself from the guilt trip.
If he says you deserve better, believe him. He could very well be hiding many things below the surface.
@practicalPlum3423,
give yourself time.
Contemplate, allow yourself suffering and pain.
Look at the situation. Can you do anything about it? You can't change it but you can let it be.
As I told myself after my best friend, my soulmate, the love of my life wanted me to leave, my door is still open and I'm not gonna sit and wait.
Take care, of self.