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practicalPlum3423
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Seeing an Ex in person again
Relationship Stress / by practicalPlum3423
Last post
 February 2nd
...See more My Ex and I have been separated since July. He broke up with me saying I "deserve someone better than him". I really had tried to be a good girlfriend and support him and we never had any fights. The break up was traumatic and I've been doing a lot of work on myself. I was recently transferred at work and now he and I are in the same building. I knew we would eventually run into eachother and I tried to mentally prepare. We ended up in the elevator yesterday. I tried to be cordial and say "Hey. How have you been?" He wouldn't really look at me and kinda stared at the floor and said "Can't complain." I am worried that this will be an ongoing thing. The interaction dredged up some feelings of hurt from the break up. I don't know what to do other than to just continue to be polite.
Trying to get past Break Up
Relationship Stress / by practicalPlum3423
Last post
 October 24th, 2023
...See more Hey everyone! It's been three months since the break up. It came COMPLETELY out of the blue. His own family was shocked, his mother was so confused. We were happy together and then one day when we would usually have date night he wanted to talk, said something was bothering him. He couldn't explain what was going on, saying that I had been a great girlfriend and he loved my family, that he didn't want me to see the bad parts of him and that I deserved someone better than him. We hadn't even had a fight, and had been together for 9 months. He had even bought a ring supposedly. To this day, I'm very confused how it got to that point. Friends familiar with the situation think he got cold feet about a future together. I have not heard from him since that day. I've been spending this time working on me. Unfortunately a week after he ended things I suffered a debilitating injury and am only now getting back to normal. He was a really good guy, and I still miss him every day and pray for him everyday. This coming Friday would have been our one year anniversary. I'm worried it's going to be a hard day.
Struggles Post Break Up
Relationship Stress / by practicalPlum3423
Last post
 August 16th, 2023
...See more It's hasn't quite been a month yet since the unexpected break up. Everyone who has listened to what happened says to just "give it time". Easier said than done unfortunately. I cared and still do care about him. I pray for him daily. Something he said keeps coming back to me, that he thought I deserve someone better than him. He had all the qualities in a significant other that I wanted. I told him that. Everyone seems to think he got "too close" and got spooked with the idea of committing to a marriage and family, keep in mind he talked about it frequently and was excited about the thought. I am trying to take time to care for myself, unfortunately I've also suffered a debitating physical injury on top of this. I just don't know how long the wait is going to be.
Unexpected Breakup
Relationship Stress / by practicalPlum3423
Last post
 July 29th, 2023
...See more Hello! Last Wednesday, I experienced a break up out of the blue. I was COMPLETELY BLINDSIDED. He and I had been together for about 9 months, zero fights. I met him after work and he looked troubled, out of character for him. He said something had been bothering him for a week and he needed to talk to me. He went on to say that I had made him a better man, that I had treated him so well and I had done nothing wrong. He said he was afraid for me to see the bad parts of him. He said there would never be a time when he wouldn't answer a text or call from me and if my family ever needed a thing he'd be there. It was like an out of body experience, very confusing. I've talked about it with friends and they are unsure how he went from talking about a future together, wedding and kids, to this. Only explanation people have come up with is that he got scared of the future and hopefully just needs time to think. His mother says that he hasn't really talked about it since he broke up with me and seems to have retreated into himself. I sent him a text last night telling him that while I am hurt that I still care about him and want to help with whatever he is dealing with if he wants to talk. No answer Thoughts? I'm praying so hard that he gets help from me or someone else.
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