Painful relationship with mother as an adult
I've never had a healthy relationship with my mother but didn't realize how unhealthy it was until I entered adulthood.
Even today, as a woman in my 30s I want what I never had - unconditional love from my mother and good advice.
Instead, the advice I get from her in regards to an abusive marriage is to ignore the bad things, mind my own business and I will be happy. I even clarified what she was saying multiple times with her, reading it back to her.
She genuinely believes in this being my solution. Ignore, and the pain will go away.
It's so hard. I come from a family that doesn't view men and women as equals. I don't subscribe to that. I feel so alone. The one woman in my life that's really the only example I've had growing up wants me to stick my head in the sand.
It hurts so much.