My husband is not being a dad
My husband is not being a dad to his 11mo son. He wants to take him to his grandpa's house and leave him inside with the grandpa's girlfriend instead of watching him. He's going over there to weld and do some wiring. So he won't even be inside the house. He sees nothing wrong with other people being the parent. I do. So why not leave him at home where he's being watched by me, his mother? I've mentioned this before to him but he's fine with other people doing his job. When he's home he won't help to feed or change his diaper. But he wants to spend time with him. So now he's mad at me. He was mad at me yesterday too because I didn't take his advice on how I should drive. He's one of those people who think he's right is how he drives and everyone should drive like him. I can't win. I don't think I've had a day go past where he isn't mad at me for something when he's home.
@Stargazernow
That sounds very tough and challenging to deal with. It can be difficult to get others to see "our" viewpoints when it comes to things in relationships. And it can be even more difficult when one person is trying to possibly 'change' another. While everyone has a right to feel what they feeling, and everyone's feelings are valid, it makes it hard when it starts to affect relationships (especially marriage).
I'm not sure if you and your husband have had a chance to sit down and just "really" talk things over. And discuss your different viewpoints. Being able to have a civil conversation about your differences would be the first step. But if you find that isn't a possibility, and neither party seems to be budging, then perhaps it might be time for a "mediator" of sorts? Such as a marriage therapist or counselor that can help the both of you to work on your differences? I'm not sure where you live, but typically in the USA if you have insurance, this is something that is covered under your benefits.
So it might be something to consider if you aren't having any other luck. But you both certainly need to be "onboard" together as parents for your small child. Good luck with things going forwards and whatever you decide!
