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Men, are you happy after playing a woman?

Dossema July 17th

Dear gentlemen, happened to me and so many ladies around me lately, so I have to ask: What do you feel when you are playing with a woman? What do that bring? Why not honest communication?

It all starts with men playing emotionally unavailable, then in love, then claiming that feelings have disappeared.

I would appreciate explanation and honesty.


Would not be so much easier to ask for sex directly?! Why messing around?! Gosh! Can't wrap my head around it!

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bunylove7 July 20th

Hey, Dossema.

Sadly, I don't think you will get a response, or at least not one you are hoping for. I think people play games because they might get rejected if they tell the truth about what they really want. Some men don't want to be in a relationship, but the women they are interested in having sex with do want a relationship. So, to get to their end goal, they have to pretend they want that too, until she gives in. I think the only solution is to commit to yourself, not to give in, and try to get to know the guy as much as possible. The ones that want to be in a relationship will likely stick around, especially if you tell them upfront that you have no intentions of sleeping with them for a long time. Hopefully, that will weed some of the wrong ones out.

Have standards up front and don't settle for anything less than that. You should write down your non-negotiables and keep them to yourself. Don't ever share your list because people are good at faking things and will try to fit what you need to get what they want. As the guy reveals things to you, go through your mental list and check them off. 

Move on as soon as you see red flags and don't look back. They will test your boundaries if given a chance. 

I hope this helps and good luck.

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GiveLifeLemons July 25th

this was so helpful ð©·

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bunylove7 July 20th

@Dossema

Hey, Dossema.

Sadly, I don't think you will get a response, or at least not one you are hoping for. I think people play games because they might get rejected if they tell the truth about what they really want. Some men don't want to be in a relationship, but the women they are interested in having sex with do want a relationship. So, to get to their end goal, they have to pretend they want that too, until she gives in. I think the only solution is to commit to yourself, not to give in, and try to get to know the guy as much as possible. The ones that want to be in a relationship will likely stick around, especially if you tell them upfront that you have no intentions of sleeping with them for a long time. Hopefully, that will weed some of the wrong ones out.

Have standards up front and don't settle for anything less than that. You should write down your non-negotiables and keep them to yourself. Don't ever share your list because people are good at faking things and will try to fit what you need to get what they want. As the guy reveals things to you, go through your mental list and check them off. 

Move on as soon as you see red flags and don't look back. They will test your boundaries if given a chance. 

I hope this helps and good luck.

tanish0007 July 20th

its not about all men..... everyone is different...and i know so many women's who played too.....but u are targeting only men.....that's so bad

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I think maybe the question has come from an experience with a man which is why it's worded the way it is. I don't think it's suggesting that women can't play games as well.


I completely agree with the other post about sometimes people are scared of being up front about what they want for fear of rejection but life would definitely be easier if they just were as at least you'd know where you stand. But filtering out the "good" ones from the "not so good" ones is probably the only way to protect yourself

Social interactions can be a minefield of defense mechanisms and vulnerability



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