Husband creates nude images of his female friends using AI apps

@HarryPotter95

this is not something  very many people  would think is harmless........ if you are not suppose to know how would his female friends feel if they ever found out....  

i think this is something i would not put up with ... there are plenty of photos of *** if that is what he is after pretending these friends who i assume he is able to see in person  seems like a weird way to have a fantasy....  and more like a wish to cheat with these friends. 

You are right.. I asked him again why did he do it..he was just quite..

@HarryPotter95

At first someone will always deny and if he has one word answers or stays quiet that is not a conversation...  For partners who refuse to talk perhaps a couples counseling as therapist/ counselors can be more forceful and tactful in bringing out deeper conversation.  

people do things for a reason or getting something out of it or they would not do it.... I think some hope they can end conversation by saying they do not know or making empty promises of not doing anymore... then the discussion changes about why he cannot or won't share honestly with you the Why. 

@HarryPotter95,

he said he wouldn't do it again yet did. Meaning, his fantasy is stronger than his promise to you.

You should be able to trust him and he should be able to make you trust him.

Apart from that, we all have fantasies but putting them in place with close female friends doesn't sound healthy for a relationship to me.

I don’t think this is something you should ignore as he is disrespecting your feelings. I for one wouldn’t be okay with this what so ever, although I’ve also been cheated on so I may be very biased. You already have made it clear once it’s an issue which is enough for him to understand and not do it again. I’d say the best approach is to confront him again and stand your ground on if he does not stop you do not feel comfortable and you have to do what you need to do to ensure your happiness. At the end of the day realize your worth and don’t settle for less because it’s comfortable.

I did confronted it. All he said was I am sorry that's it nothing else.

I just feel so hollow right now.

@HarryPotter95 Yeah my first reaction to reading this was, “What is wrong with him.” But then again, people have fantasies and there is nothing wrong with that. If his fantasy is causing him issues he needs to maybe get help from a therapist. But still, the fantasy itself or how he deals with it is all his business. But he definitely did something wrong - he got caught - his fantasy didn’t stay private AND he promised not to hurt you again with it and still he did. So that is definitely wrong. The AI app is definitely creepy. How he is using it is creepy. And the fact that he just stayed silent when you confronted him is really fricken creepy! I think you should give him a nice firm virtual b slap with something like, “your choice a-whole, you choose me or you can be without me and have all the AI fantasy you want looser!” He really needs to man up and grow the f up!

Hi, Harry. I've been in a pretty similar boat to what you're in. I remember just feeling disgust, and then sad, and betrayed. How did you feel when this happened?

@HarryPotter95

That’s beyond weird.

@HarryPotter95

I'm really sorry you're going through this. Discovering something like this can be incredibly unsettling and challenging to process.

It's important to acknowledge your feelings and the breach of trust that has occurred. Your husband creating nude images of his female friends, even using AI apps, without their consent and behind your back, is a significant issue. It's understandable that you're feeling hurt, betrayed, and unsure about how to move forward.

It is very concerning...

This would absolutely be divorce worthy for me. Porn is one thing. But people he knows? Thats creepy. Id also tell his female friends. Even though it isnt their body, they deserve to know hes using their pics for creepy purposes and choose whether to stay in contact with him or not. Do not put up with this behavior if it makes you uncomfortable.