Should I recouncil with a friend?
My ex best friend broke up with me around 2 years ago. Things built up and I made her feel ignored & unappreciated. I didn’t know boundaries at the time and left her traumatized. She wished me the best and tried to support me behind closed doors (tried to set me up with our guy friend) but I ended up being too much for the both of them and ended up hurting them both. My boyfriend recently broke up with me as well.
I know I have to let go of my ex boyfriend as he asked for me to move on and we both apologized to each other. I had my closure.
But I was wondering if it would be a good idea to reach out to my ex best friend. I left her traumatized and have seen her express on the internet that she’s tired of being the bigger person. I have a feeling that she still cares for me and I want to express how I’m sincerely sorry to her this time but I fear that I might trigger her. Should I leave her be and wait for her or take accountability for what I’ve done to her? I was also hoping that we could be friends again but at this point I feel like asking would be selfish.
@annkvo
Not many are brave enough to consider reconciliation with people they might have wronged previously.
It is nice you think of her and considering meeting her again .
Life is too short to hold grudges or to not patch up with friends we know have our best interests in heart
You can reach out , be honest about your feelings and maybe apologize? If you feel it genuinely
Then just leave it to her what she decides
Atleast you will be saved from the what ifs few years later regretting you never tried
The last decision is upto you, I just don't want someone else missing out on a good friend 😅
Thank you for your advice, you’re right I will try to reach out when I’m ready. I really care for this person and just want to express that I’m genuinely sorry. I hope we can be friends again but I will also consider & respect any decision she makes that’s best for her and her mental health.
@annkvo
You are welcome
That sounds good to me
How is it going for you ?
I haven’t reached out. I’m still worried about the outcome and am at a loss of words of what to say.
It is not easy ik @annkvo
Maybe try thinking if you were in her place , what would u like to hear from her or what could make things better for you then ?
It's always better to try than to wonder what could have happened.
Maybe you can start subtle - follow her on social media, like her posts etc. to ease your way back into her life.
Hello,
She actually started to follow me back on social media a couple months back when she found out I was depressed from my ex boyfriend. Since then we only liked each other’s photos but I feared of reaching out to her still. Would it be a good idea to try reach out & message her? I fear that not might be what she wants.
@annkvo
I think the fact that she is following you again is a good sign. 🙂
If she is still hurt, I don't think she would follow you. If she doesn't care about you, she wouldn't be interested in your life.
I mean, think about what do you do when you stoo being friends with someone. If you want to move on from them, you don't keep in touch on social media and you don't waste your time watching their posts.
