Losing a friend because of depression
My friend has gotten tired of my depression and complaining. I've become distant because I just have no energy for happy conversations or anything and the only time we've been talking for the past couple weeks is when I complained. The thing is she's done this too before. But now she's decided that she's done with me, got really angry, and told me to "piss off." She claims I used her but I don't think that's what I did. She also said I'm a bad friend. Now I feel really shitty and like I did something wrong. I feel bad, but I genuinely just can't have a happy conversation right now. It's not because I want to be depressed. It's because I have so much going on and it's not as simple as just getting over it. Am I a bad friend? Did I use her? I just don't know.
@Jflack324 no, you didn't use her. unless you did something awful to her, she sounds like a crappy friend. maybe she just hasn't been where you have before, or takes for granted her ability to confide in and lean on you while you doing so is an annoyance to her.
@dworth257 I haven't made plans with her recently. But I haven't really hung out with anyone lately. I think she's just overwhelmed. I don't think she was a bad friend, I think we just weren't good for each other anymore and sometimes it just happens. But what mostly hurt is what she said and now she doesn't even wanna talk about it.
@Jflack324
I have experienced that oftentimes, people do not know how to respond to a person with depression. Especially if they haven't experienced for themselves how crippling depression can be. In short, I don't think you did anything wrong (from what you said in your post). Probably your friend does still care for you, but is also just overwhelmed by the situation and didn't quite know how to react...?
Fingers crossed that it will work out again between the two of you. : )
