Hobbies: Craft (origami, crochet), PC gaming, music (soundtracks, electro, new classical).

Pronouns: Not yet decided between "she/her" and "they/them". The latter concept is very new to me but feels much more right.

About me: Introverted with a fairly intense need of personal space/time and a relatively low level of empathy (but trying my best). If you offer me a hug it is appreciated, but please don't be offended if I may not offer it in return.

Throughout the last 10+ years or so I've been on and off dealing with more or less severe emotional issues, leading to a lot of other problems. I really want to make some (any!) kind of improvement but most of the time, my emotions get the better of me. Face-to-face/telephone counseling so far has given me results which were mostly the opposite of what I hoped to achieve, so I wanted to give 7cups a go. Thank you for making this possible.

Currently working on the following:
- Managing emotions --> Definitive improvements already
- Learning to express myself properly
- Learning how to be supportive towards my partner
- Improve my concentration and memory

I have learned the following so far:
- Things are not always as they seem. Mostly in a positive way.
- Correct communication with others is important, even though it may take a lot of energy and concentration.
- The phrase "Treat others like you want to be treated" is not always true. I have created a whole host of issues in personal relationships just by following this. It depends a lot more on what the "other" person wants or needs (which I need to find out first).
- Thanks to the "ace" community here I realized I am asexual/demisexual, not "broken" - and have been like this as far as I can think back in my life. It helped me a ton to find my own peace. Next step is explaining it to people around me who keep telling me "it's just your depression" and "you just want to be special".

➡️ https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupportCommunity_58/AsexualSpectrumSupport_776/AsexualityAwarenessWeekMyths_93628/

- It is ok to call someone a friend if you get along well and you trust them and you care about them.
- All is well in the end, and if it isn't well yet, you haven't reached the end yet, so stay positive.