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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 16 - 22)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s a song you could listen to on repeat forever? * Cozy socks or fluffy blankets? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 December 12th
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInDec915_342093/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @lovingGrapefruit8860 @raspberryKiwi4131 @turquoiseNest9943 @pluckyAcres9036 @patientMango4300 @peanut123456789 @Dash0 @PuffyCloud23 @understandingComputer9065 @MaCara @automatonic @sincereLion3371 @MuresanAndre @VelvetPoppy @GreenBlaze @persistentBalsam5393 @ggoidell @RamneetKaur  @charlenedelfin @skyraven02 @sereneMuse @Astraois42 @djadee @energeticShade4362 @loyalPeach3985 @pumpkincatmother @Mokuro @drowningmermaid88 @azureCoconut2121 ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 16.12.24
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 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I feel really good about my decision
by Summershy
Last post
 December 6th
...See more Backstory:  Last year I started getting blown off by a woman who I thought was my friend of 25 years.  Suddenly she started telling me that she had too many personal things going on in her life and that she didn't have time to talk to me because she needed to take care of herself.  Though I gave her space for several months, I tried reaching out in May only to have her tell me that she was in the middle of an emergency and then hang up on me.  After that final attempt I reached a breaking point by re-evaluating our friendship and realized that our friendship was toxic.  Since then, I have not only stopped calling her but I also managed to block her number and delete her contact information.  In the meantime, I worked on writing an assertive letter with boundaries explaining what I am not willing to tolerate anymore.  Because for many years, I felt like I had bent over backwards and allowed myself to be treated like a doormat.   I don't feel like getting treated like that after everything I did for her.   Regardless, I feel really good about sending that letter and walking away. 
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I am beginning to see why she have trouble making friends
by Summershy
Last post
 August 23rd
...See more I belong to another online forum for individuals who are autistic and I happened to stumble upon a thread where one woman said she had trouble making friends.  So I tried to make some suggestions to her about where she could make friends and she wasn't interested.   Regardless, we decided to connect.  She also connected me with her social media page.  I tried being nice to her and tell her that I was sorry that she had trouble making friends. I also told her that she looked like a neat person and that there was something wrong with them.  Well the next thing is that she got upset and started accusing me making assumptions about her.  She also told me that she had two friends in real life. Additionally, I had asked her if she had heard of two autistic self-advocacy groups and that they would like her.  Again, she took everything the wrong  way.  "Just to make friends?  What do you mean these groups may like you?" So I told her today, "Ok, I will not make any other suggestions."  I also don't feel like being her friend after that. 
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Trying to meet new friends in person but have strict parents
by Disneywoman
Last post
 August 11th
...See more So back in June or July-I can't remember when I created a thread on reddit for my area because I wanted to make new friend.  I can find new friends to talk too.  But I would like to meet them one day-in real life and that's where the problem lies.    Since I'm disabled my parents are strict about where I can go and whom I can hang out with.  All the cool activities happen in Toronto and I can't go in there on my own  without a "body guard" accompanying me (its for an understandable reason).    From 2009-2020- I went bowling but the majority of the people at the start were from church- so I can only do stuff with church members.  I can do some stuff with my day-program in Achilles but it hasn't been in person since March 2020. Its still online at the moment and I can't interact at the moment.  Unless I want to go every Friday or every other Friday to Achilles' "Tim Horton's" for a meet up.  And the people in my area in my town.. know me so much its gets really annoying to the fact that I'm basically "Harriet Potter"  since they seen me grow up from a baby to an adult.  The only potential safe place I could think of meeting new people would be to go to my Classmate's workplace on a day she's working and try to meet people there. I know she's probably not avaible all the time to keep on eye on me.  But that's the only idea I have for a safe space.  Otherwise my only other option is to try to meet people either at Pickwick's Mall, or one of the next times I go to a writer's group in Oliver.
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Breakup
by hlovesdogs
Last post
 July 17th
...See more After a friend breakup, did you and the friend talk again? If so how much time went by before you talked again or considered becoming friends again? I'm dealing with an issue where it's her decision and idk if she'll ever reach out to me!
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Feeling good about walking away from 25 year friendship
by Summershy
Last post
 May 20th
...See more After 25 years, I decided to walk away from what I thought was a close friend.  As I said, I feel really good about it.   This is also the first time that I have re-evaluated the situation For one thing, I had been going through a serious situation in my own life.  At first, she was able to talk to me about it.  Then the next, she suddenly had her crisis and needed to take care of herself and didn't have time to talk to me on the phone.  This was at the end of last summer.  Since I had been leaving her alone while attempting to reach out now and then.   She has mostly been ignoring my calls, while I have been moving on and keeping busy in my own life. However, yesterday was the straw that broke the camel's back when she very rude.  "I can't talk right now, I am dealing with an emergency."   Click.   At that point, I reached the end of my limit with her and decided not to call her anymore.    Second, I realized that things were very one-sided with her.  I would be the one doing all the calling and reaching out while she never reciprocated Third, she would always dump her problems on me  from day 1 and it was always everything and everyone's fault Fourth - She has always been paranoid that her local government was out to get her Fifth - She seemed to compete with me by telling me these stories that I now have to question Sixth- She made some false promises to me Seventh - She could not keep her stories straight  Eighth - Her stories were questionable So while I was sad yesterday, I am ok if we don't ever talk to her again.  However, this is the second friend who dumped me when I needed her the most.  However, I feel like we have been drifting apart after our last conversation. 
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This feels like emotional blackmail
by Summershy
Last post
 May 6th
...See more I have been discussing this in the sharing sessions and with some friends.... Over a year and a half ago, a friend disappeared from me for a whole year and a half.    This was not only after I mentioned that  I had an emergency with some tough decisions ahead.  This friend also didn't seem to like what I had to say but was very rude to me by being passive-aggressive.  Being that I was bothered by it, I confronted her in an email a few months ago.  However, I didn't hear anything back until today.  This was when she tried to re-add me as a friend on her social media.   However, not only did I turn down the request but I said no.  When she responded, her apology was not very sincere and she gave the "I'll make it up to you" line.  At that point, I set a few more boundaries which she completely dismissed.   Instead, she gave me a few excuses about how she "Lost her phone" and "I guess that I was too focused on my problems. However, I have never considered myself to be a self-centered person."  Again, I put my foot down and said that she had the option to reach out to social media.  I also said "A bad friend is a bad friend" and a few other things. Again, she wrote back and apologized by offering to meet me in person.  Believe me, I am down for that.  However, this is where it felt like emotional blackmail and probably gaslighting.  "From what I am hearing, you think that I am a bad person and you don't like me anymore.  You are also saying that you don't have time for me." At that point, I acknowledged her apology and agreed that it was a good idea to meet in person.   I also said that I didn't have time.   Then I blocked her. 
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I can't admit that she betrayed me
by Summershy
Last post
 April 28th
...See more Hi: For the past week, I have been very angry and hurt about how I was treated by a "Friend."   The last time we reconnected, she completely ignored a very serious situation that I had been facing. Rather, she was more concerned about hearing herself talk and didn't like what I had to say.   Additionally to that, she completely disappeared from me for a year and a half.   As stated in my last post, she told me that she "Forgot" about my situation and that her problems seemed to be more important. She  also tried to cover things up by stating that she "Lost her phone."  Anyway, I am having a hard time accepting that this woman betrayed me by disappearing like that.  I think the main reason is because I thought that she was my friend.  
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Guilt and Fear Over Ex-Friend
by learningbywriting
Last post
 April 18th
...See more Hi everyone. This has been going on for half a year now and I just need some extra ears. I was friends with someone for about 2 1/2 years. I met them when I was 16 and we stopped talking right when I turned 19. They’re a few years younger than me (I think 3? They gave me different ages. Right now they’re claiming to be 17 but I thought they were younger) and we met online in a support forum kind of like this one, but for teenagers. We were really good friends, I thought. We wrote original stories together and drew art together and played the same online game so we talked about that a lot. We also talked about family stressors and life stressors like school. I tried my hardest to be supportive of them and build them up. I felt really responsible for their well-being because they had a bad home life and a lot of mental health problems and sometimes they’d come to me with these really serious things (self-harm, abuse, sexual assault, etc) and I’d do my best to help. Looking back this was not my responsibility and really hurt the both of us, and I feel awful about it. I felt really guilty that I couldn’t help, and I was really uncomfortable about this stuff but I was worried if I stopped talking to them that they would hurt themself, so I kept the line open. I also have mental health struggles and I would sometimes talk about them — nothing in-depth, but sometimes complaints about things happening with my healthy or ranting about home. Again I feel really bad about this and I shouldn’t have talked about these things with them. We may have met in a support forum but I should have looked to other places for support. A lot of my mental breaks were also facilitated by the stress of this friendship, which I can recognize in hindsight, and I wasn’t always kind. Again I feel really bad. They never deserved my problems and neither do any of my other friends. I’m trying to find other ways to process my emotions. In October, she suddenly blocked me. I had sensed things were off before this and was checking in to see if she was alright, if she wanted to talk or wanted space, etc, and she said she wanted to keep talking. When I saw all her social media account missing I panicked and thought she had really hurt herself. I reached out to one of her IRL friends asking them to check in on her before I realized I could still see some of her accounts. I deleted the message I sent to her friend and reached out to her instead. I said I noticed I was blocked and that was okay, I wasn’t mad. I reminded her to block me everywhere if she didn’t want me to see her things. I said I hoped she was doing okay and I would appreciate it if we could talk about what led to this, but we didn’t have to. I finished by apologizing for reaching out. She replied calling me abusive and that it wasn’t her responsibility to block me everywhere. She then blocked me. I was shocked but I respected that. I reached out to her IRL friend again and apologized for messaging them, explained that I was worried our mutual friend had been in danger but she was okay, and then I said I would block them so I wouldn’t contact them again. I then blocked that person. Immediately afterwards I was very paranoid. I made some social media posts apologizing for things I thought I did wrong, I reached out to others and apologized to them and asked them for any boundaries they had that I was crossing and stuff. Everyone told me to calm down and that I was alright but I was still worried, mainly because this ex-friend found every social media I have and posting about the things I was posting. She refused to block me everywhere still, so I could see her things. She has called me abusive, said that she would kill me if she could, said that she hopes I never recover, that I’m a terrible person and I deserve to suffer, that I gaslit her and cause her PTSD flashbacks. She complained that I would refuse to talk about sex with her, which I find super odd and uncomfortable. She’s even claiming I drove her sister to suicide — she doesn’t have a sister! I ended up deleting all of my public social medias except one (which is an art project), and I’ve tried to avoid her but blocking her everywhere, but she won’t stop saying terrible things about me and trying to contact me. She’s also saying I tried to push her out of spaces she wanted to be in, but these were all spaces I had joined while we were friends that she wasn’t apart of, I didn’t know she wanted to be in these spaces, and I only asked her to be blocked when she started trying to contact me through these projects. I’ve since left these projects because she’s still stalking me through them. I feel really scared and guilty. I don’t know what I did wrong. I know I messed up and I stressed her out and I wasn’t a perfect friend, but I was never doing these things on purpose to hurt her. I was trying to avoid hurting her! I was doing everything I could to support her, and I didn’t do it well, but I don’t think that I deserve to have her saying terrible things about me and even threatening me. I’m very sorry I caused her so much pain. I wish I could fix it and that I could hear her perspective, so I could at least know what to work on for myself for the future. I know I shouldn’t be scared because she’s just a kid and she lives on the other side of the country but I feel paranoid all the time. I just want her to stop making social media posts about me. I try not to check but I start to worry that she might be saying even worse things about me so I always check. I need to stop being that, but it’s hard. I want to be left alone. I’m trying to be kind to myself and remind myself that I was a kid most of our friendship and that I’m still very young now, but it’s hard when someone’s calling you a murderer and stuff. Does anyone have advice? Words of wisdom? Do you all know what I should do to improve? How do I stop checking her social media?
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Happy Friendship Day! 💛
by ItsMaisy
Last post
 March 23rd
...See more Hey 7 cups friends! Thank you all for comming in my life. You gave me value, respect, love, care, and sometimes taught me some lessons. I have learnt a lot since i came here. I would be a dumb or extra naive person of I have never came here. I experienced different people and became more mature than before. I love all of my 7 cups friends. You are all online but still very important and in fact more important and better than offline friends! We know this is anonymous site and any of us can go anytime. Some of us take a break for some time and others go forever. Some stay forever. No matter how long i and you all stay here, i will appreciate even if you give me just one second of your life. One second is enough when it is given with pure heart. Lots of love! ~Maisy~ Tagging: @unique73 @CallMeNaman2002 @kAHILOM @Rashmieee @Minervaaa @Feelicity08 @PuzichkinCat @phenomenalbliss @DigitalNight @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @SilverKnight007 @YourFriend247 @AmoOnii @Starzy @caringCreature8571 @Bubblegumwings1234
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Is it me?
by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
 February 27th
...See more My best friend who I've known and loved since first grade has recently started acting distant and cold towards me. We've been close for over a decade at this point, and she's always been a lot quieter and less emotional than me. But as of late, it seems like she doesn't want to talk to me at all. She's not being mean to me, but whenever I say literally anything, she just gives the vibe she wants to be left alone. When I tell her things she used to find funny, she just looks at me blankly, as if I just said the most childish thing in the world. She's so much smarter and more talented than I am, so I'm wondering if it's because she feels like I'm not on her level anymore, or if I'm just not fun to talk to now that we're older. Sometimes, she straight-up doesn't answer when I say something, even when she clearly heard me. Over text, she's super friendly and enthusiastic, but in person, she's aloof and always seeming tired. I don't know if it's something going on in her life or if it's me. I totally understand that when people have things going on in their lives, they can act coldly to those around them. I just want to know what I'm doing wrong. I want my best friend back. I can't afford to lose her.
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Deciding not to reconnect with a former friend
by Summershy
Last post
 February 15th
...See more After much reconsideration, I have decided that reconnecting with a former from middle and high school isn't a good idea.  One of the reasons is because our friendship never really worked out and nor was the friendship that authentic.  For instance, she didn't treat me very well and seemed to throw me under the bus.   In the meantime, this is someone who is quite manipulative in which she uses her disabilities and how people saw her in the past to get sympathy from other people. 
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sarinn's corner
by Listeningsarinn
Last post
 February 7th
...See more (if you are in a rush, just read the bold parts, that’s the info, the rest is a message and explanation) My very beloved 7cups family, I never knew how hard it would be to type this out one day, i literally am crying, but I needed to do so as I have been delaying making this post for too long already Before any of you start to get worried, no, I’m not leaving, but I’m afraid this is gonna be a long while away; a one on which I will miss you all too much.. if I am to be honest, I haven’t been doing okie lately, I’m under a whole lot of stress due to my studies for an upcoming exam, this particular exam is so very important for me and talks lots about my future, in means of my to be job, income, immigration plans and long story short, doing good on that exam is a must if I am to reach my dreams or get anywhere around them.. and at this point, I am having a really hard time coping with all the stress and pressure from my teachers, school and family as well as my own over thinker mind… which is causing me a major burnout I need time to heal from that burnout and I think it will be healthier for me to do so while not on cups And even after getting myself in a better coping state, I will need to study even harder as I am not doing well on mock exams right now.. not at all All these going on in my personal life has made me unable to be available and present for many of you in times I wished badly that I could be, and it has made me unable to hold some of the promises I have made, this is something I am deeply and dearly sorry about and I hope you can forgive and understand me for.. my lack of presence is not about you, or because I don’t care, I still care and love you, a bit more than before, I have just been going thru a rough to handle time Note that: Starting from Monday (December 13th), I will be deactivating my account and putting it on self-care break for a month and half, during which time our chat page will disappear from your list of chats, after being back I will update you on how active I can be you are welcome to leave me messages on this thread, I will be seeing them, but can’t reply until the one month and half is over, It will make me smile and feel at home to see your names on my screen tho you are loved, you are gonna be so missed, you will never be forgotten.. I will be sending you so much love and craving the day I get to talk to you all again remember, I believe in you, and I know so well you can make thru every bad day and to the days you will smile lightly on my dear leaders: please note that I am stepping down fully from all my roles other than newbie hub room moderator role and will reapply for them when and if my situation and daily schedule has changed for your reference, these are the roles I am stepping down from: chatroom mod (trauma support and lgbtq+), chat support and peer support, subcommunity teen star (lgbtq+), teen forum star (needs reply), subcommunity team project agent (needs reply), anonymous evaluations, team lightship, LD, verifies team it has been a great pleasure workring with you all, you have taught me by experience what a team really means and you have made me learn so so much, thanks for existing and thanks for what you do for this community ps: will try to respond to every pm i have before monday with love~ sarinn @sunshinegiraffe123 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmpqfX-dk5-dlLBqVFuVnQ!!] @Marigold357 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtqeXmWlJydlLBth1mXxw!!] @Cambion [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmlodHmUkZidlLBsVFuVxw!!] @Jnyx [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtleHuWl5idlLCYVojDyQ!!] @Anna2400 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmpoen6VlpydlLBmilzFyA!!] @FedUpWithPeople [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtmdXqYlJ-dlLCZh4WTlA!!] @Mahit25 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtqfXabmZ6dlLBmW1OZxg!!] @exuberantPlane4067 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtreH2ZlZ6dlLCYileXlw!!] @savannamb [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmhre32VlJedlLBrhVPFnA!!] @Bluelove13 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmloeniamZmdlLBsVlaamw!!] @shreknado [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmlnen6dl5idlLBoiFmTmg!!] @emotionalTalker2260 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtpd3aXk56dlLBuiFySmQ!!] @kindHuman1425 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=l2Jme3eZkpidlLCYioeZlg!!] @RavenSky [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=l2Jmd3idlZudlLBqXVfFxw!!] @DaisyFlower32 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtsdXqdmZ6dlLCaiIiTmA!!] @OliveF [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtpd3mXkpydlLBniYbHmA!!] @FallenStarss [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmlod3qWlZqdlLBliVjHyg!!] @fearfearfear [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtsd3yblZedlLBsXVnHxg!!] @RiverTheWolf [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtseXmUlZydlLBmh4iVlg!!] @CalmCoral [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtqfH2ZlZadlLBmiVqWyQ!!] @navyHouse3677 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmtpdHidlZ-dlLBqiVSWxg!!] @tidyFarm162 [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmpjfXedmZidlLCZVYiZxg!!] @TayTayy [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmpqfXucl5-dlLCbWImTyA!!] @ [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmpqfXucl5-dlLCbWImTyA!!]mel @heather225 @bookworm274 @tami150 @rebekahroyal @suryanshsingh @oceanwaves16 @jenna @KateDoskocilova @ouicherie @cheerymango @VicK5123 [http://7cups.com/@VicK5123] @Amy [http://7cups.com/@Amy] @sia1325 [http://7cups.com/@sia1325] @mamtasha22 @amazingnutella24 @azuladragon34 @faithlove1111 @GlitteringNights @joyfulunicorn @Juliak1968 @Listeningsarinn @pamharley003 @StanDaMan78 @Asher @SynSavory @FinleyTews @Anotherfrenchtoastclub @hopedreamlove @caffeinatedcatio @MidwesternCalmSeeker @ouiCherie @EmmaE @bookworm274 @Optimisticempath @windSpirit @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @ConsiderateParadise6717 @sia1325 @FlourishingDimensions @theriverissinging @SoftFaith2004 @QuietMagic @imlistening01 @EveryMindMatters @xinyii11

Relationship Stress

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