Relationship Advice
My crush, has been pretty distant lately like she will respond with one or two words and she responds every couple hours usually, but on calls she giggles and seems to have to much fun, I'm wondering if she's into me or not. I want to tell her how I feel but, I'm scared of rejection, losing her as a friend if she doesn't feel the same and I dont know how to even tell her, what should I do?
@FalconFootball91 That could be her texting style or she's preoccupied or busy- not necessarily a sign she's distancing herself, especially if she seems normal on phone calls. Other than her giggling on the phone, are there any hints she might like you more than a friend? Regardless, if your feelings are strong, I wouldn't hold it in and torture yourself- you could still be friends after even if it doesn't work out romantically.
@determinedSea4370
i found out she has a boyfriend, so that hurts a lot and idk how to process it, i told her i like her and she has been texting worse than before, im wondering if i should cut all contact from her, she says she wants to be friends with me and i mean a lot to her, but it hurts too much, should i cut contact?
@FalconFootball91 I would give it time. Right now, the rejection hurts, but the initial hurt feelings might fade with time. I wouldn't cut ties, at least not right away. Give yourself a chance to try to accept the idea that this could still be a great platonic relationship. Finding people to keep you genuine company of any kind in this isolated world is hard, so don't give up on what could be a supportive friendship. But, I'm also sorry, because I know not having your feelings returned hurts.
@determinedSea4370
thing is, shes not really supportive after i told her how i felt, i feel alone in the cruel cold world, she says she will help but when i need help she isnt there, shes not there when i need her most and is there when i dont need her, i feel like my friendship with her is slowly fading
@FalconFootball91 I'm sorry to hear that. I was hoping it would turn out better, but I guess this happens sometimes too. If she's shown that she isn't going to be there for you, even when you put the effort in, then it's not worth it. Any relationship needs both people to work at it- so, don't wear yourself out over something that isn't worth it. Sorry it didn't work out.
@determinedSea4370
dang 🙁 should i ask her if she still wants to be friends or smth?
@FalconFootball91 Well, it sounds like you don't feel supported by her. So, you can do one of two things- accept her as more of a distant friend (the friend you could casually talk to but that's it, don't go to them for anything major) or you could try explaining how you didn't feel supported by her and that could make for developing a more supportive relationship (don't accuse her of anything though and use 'I' statements). It all depends on what level of friendship you'd be comfortable pursuing at this point.