Is this jealousy issues? (please read 💗)

@exuberantBlueberry2488 How you are feeling is perfectly understandable and you have every right to feel that. You mentioned at first the two of them didn't get along well and eventually a "friendship" formed but there's got to be a line. You're the girlfriend and you do not deserve the disrespect. You are being disrespected right before your eyes and you don't deserve that. I'm proud of you for being able to communicate with your boyfriend how you feel. He said something that you did not like and you expressed it to him. Bravo to you. Have you tried openly communicating your feelings to your friend as well? Perhaps let her know that her behavior comes off as flirtatious and you find it making you uncomfortable. A friend does not want to intentionally hurt a friend and it seems she has no care about your feelings. You know if your relationship and friendship is worth working on but things won't gey better if you don't continue to voice your concern. I don't think you would be coming off as controlling or dictating. You are human and you have feelings. I hope things work out for you. ♡

@YourCaringConfidant

Thank you so much. My boyfriend has suggested me talking to Maria about it but I know he likes the attention.He encourages her to send bad photos as he sends them to me to joke around with me. But its still so rude of her because friends dont do that??

a week ago, me and him were laughing around and she decided to text him privately AFTER school, not ME, her friend of 4 years, asking “what were you and her talking about in class?” like its any of her business. she was also texting him in class and giggling and when i tried to see their chats she told me to fu<k off like its not my boyfriend?

i told my mom about this and she said that i should be talking to my boyfriend about the boundaries and he should be cutting her off. I disagree. although she is sabotaging the relationship i wouldnt want them to completely stop being friends.

But this morning at lunch she was saying that her and him have a weird friendship and shes not sure if she “likes him or not”. this is so false she talks to him all the time she is just trying to appear ‘cool’ infront of our other friends.

I dont want to confront her because she will definitely deny it and say im being a b1tch.

@exuberantBlueberry2488 I would have to agree with your mom that boundaries need to be set in place. I'm so sorry you have to go through all that. That must be hard. I do have to say I applaud you for being so strong about everything. Things may not get better if you don't talk about it. I really hope things work itself out and you get the respect you deserve! You deserve to be treated with love, honor, and respect!

@exuberantBlueberry2488 doesn't sound like a friend worth keeping for me. Sorry if I come off too straightforward.

@rainApple

no worries your so right but too much drama.

@exuberantBlueberry2488

This is quite a difficult and frustrating situation to be in. I'm so sorry that you're experiencing this, I'm glad you've spoken about this issue to your mother. And I think she's right about having a conversation with your boyfriend about him setting boundaries with your friend, he is partly to blame for your frustration. By continuing to laugh at the pics being sent to him by your friend, he is encouraging her behaviour of disrespect towards you and that is UNACCEPTABLE. Her behaviour is untoward, I think in the midst of things, she has found herself developing feelings for your boyfriend and doesn't know what to do hence the passive aggressive behaviour of sending bad photos of you to your boyfriend. I do hope you're able to resolve this amicably with the both of them.

@Babs10

Hi! thank you so much. i agree. i have suspected that shes caught feelings and i think when it comes up again (because i dont want to start out of no where) ill bring it up to him how him laughing is encouraging. honestly im quite sad about this because i actually liked this friend, but it all just shows the type of person she is.

You’re doing the right thing.

Your (“friend”) is behaving inappropriately. Worse, she is indifferent to betraying your friendship, crossing boundaries with your partner, is in denial about the whole thing but conscious enough of her intentions to try to conceal it/play it down in front of your other friends. That makes her a treacherous little snake in the grass. Your boyfriend, while not positively reciprocating her flirting, has nonetheless enabled her with his permissive attitude. You're right that he probably enjoys the attention because its flattering .. but sometimes as a partner he is obligated to act and to enforce a boundary; and its not good enough to merely permit people to trample over his relationship boundaries even if he himself is not actively flirting back. His inaction and failure to push back against her flirting is disrespectful to you especially since it seems understood between you both and agreed that the friend is in fact flirting and behaving inappropriately.

He should be the one to enforce the boundary and take action. First of all hes the one being flirted with. Secondly if you are the one to intervene she will just flip it as if youre being a jealous girlfriend; and claim youre being paranoid and hysterical and laugh it off as if youre being overly sensitive. If he doesnt take action now, then he better not complain when this whole situation gets out of hand and peoples feelings are hurt, friendships are broken, and everyone's going to be wishing they had behaved more respectfully and proactively.

Shes not your friend! Youre absolutely right not to trust her.

CatsInTheCradle

@CatsInTheCradle

Ive seen many of your comments on other posts! i love you so much your such a helpful person. thank you for this im glad you agree

Thanks for your kind words and appreciation! 💕

@CatzInTheCradle

I forgot to mention, the thing about this friend is shes just so sweet to me sometimes but then rude the next! it makes me have such mixed feelings but more negative then positive. I feel horrible when shes nice to me because i know i hate her.