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exuberantBlueberry2488
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Is this jealousy issues? (please read đź’—)
Relationship Stress / by exuberantBlueberry2488
Last post
 May 28th, 2023
...See more before i do start im sorry its a bit long So all the way to the start of the relationship. I have this friend. lets call her maria. (june 2022) When i first started dating my close guyfriend, (that i still date) Maria questioned this alot. She often called my boyfriend unattractive and fat. (she definitely didnt like him at this stage) moving on, when we changed timetables for new classes, Maria was in alot of my boyfriends classes, which resulted in them being friends. I didnt mind this at all at first. i thought it was good since they didnt get along before but eventually it turned into more (in my eyes). When i was walking with them (october 2022) i know its silly but my boyfriend was laughing about how small Marias hands are. This really got me overthinking and i know its overdramatic. I am in 3 of their classes and in all of them id see them talking and laughing. (they sit near to eachother while im on the opposite side) Fast forward abit and now its January 2023. We had this groupchat with us three and a few other friends, and Maria sent a few pictures of her cooking (cakes and stuff like that that she sells) and my boyfriend literally said quote by quote “i want to come over you look really good at cooking”. This really made me annoyed and i talked to him about it saying its not funny and he just said he was trying to *** me off. She has sent him many bad photos of me. She always takes photos of me and sends them to him (embarrassing ones from ages ago and current ones) and always makes fun of me infront of him. (she still does this and always embarrasses me) From January to now, theyve still been talking in every class, and my boyfriends friends tell me she waits for him after his classes sometimes. Also everytime i try talking to him she butts in, making useless conversion that weve talked about before. She also always makes gagging noises when people talk about us both being cute. She also uses all my inside jokes with him. This Monday Maria got a new nose peircing and my boyfriend noticed 3 days after and went “oh nose piercing nice” and then she replied going “well i got it ages ago but thanks for the compliment” and started pushing him around right infront of me. Obviously my boyfriend gave me a side eye because he knows shes being a bit weird. honestly i know he likes the attention and isnt really doing anything to stop it. ive talked to him about it before but he just agrees with me and laughs it off. i honestly really didn’t mind them being friends but she is obviously flirting. he doesnt really flirt back except for that one time in january but its still annoying. what do i do without seeming controlling?
We like eachother but its boring..? 🤷‍♀️
Relationship Stress / by exuberantBlueberry2488
Last post
 April 6th, 2023
...See more Hi thank you for reading. So basically , Over the phone or text we are so energetic with eachother and keep laughing. when we are together in real life it felt boring. Like it obviously had elements of fun but we are no where near as fun and close as we are over the phone. what could we do to fix it . We were best friends and had alot of fun together before we started dating but now its so different. i dont know whats wrong
Am i manipulative? (please reply and help) đź’—
Relationship Stress / by exuberantBlueberry2488
Last post
 March 21st, 2023
...See more Please only honest opinions I was dating this guy and he has told me i am manipulative. However these were NEVER my intentions and i feel really bad about myself. I will explain the situation where he has thought im being manipulative in a second. But when he told me i was always manipulative i asked him for an example and he told me to have common sense and that he doesn't remember everything vividly. The first situation i was manipulative in was when he labelled me a bad gf and it hurt me so i sent him a paragraph like explaining myself and telling him how much i loved him and in it i put "and im sorry im a bad gf" and then he was like "well thats quite manipulative" and i apologised and made it clear it was never my intention. The second situation is when the breakup happened. I was in tears and wasnt really thinking. i practically begged him to stay, i told him " no but i think we could make it work, why are you giving up?" and he hesitated for a while and i didnt like the idea of forcing the relationship so i followed up my texts with "its fine" and he told me it was manipulation and that its *** up i did that. in his defence it does look manipulative but, over text not everything sounds as sincere as it is, and i promise i genuinely have never wanted to manipulate him.
Am i manipulative?
Relationship Stress / by exuberantBlueberry2488
Last post
 March 27th, 2023
...See more I dated this guy called aaron. we are currently ex’s but still like eachother. Everytime we get into an argument which involves our feelings he brings up the fact im manipulative. This has honesty made me doubt myself alot and i feel horrible about it as it was never my intention to manipulate. Basically at one stage we didnt go out the whole month and he called me a sh— gf and it hurt me. after bottling up for 2 days i sent him a paragraph about the situation and included “im sorry for being a *** gf”. and he mentioned it was a bit manipulative. The second situation was when we were breaking up. I was in tears and wasnt really thinking about what i was saying. He told me he doesnt think its going to work and the arguments are just too much. i practically begged him to try make it work (alot of regret but i wasnt thinking) and he was very hesitant about this. (left me on opened for 3 minutes) so i responded “its fine”. And he told me that this was manipulation. i see his point of veiw on how it could be manipulative but i just didnt want to force the relationship. Now he is telling me it wasnt those 2 times i was manipulative. it was all the time. i asked for an example and he told me to have some common sense and that he cant remember everything. I promise i had no intention of manipulating him and i feel horrible about it. please help
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