I don’t know if I made the right choice.

you say its a serious relationship but it seems to only be serious to you :( hes proven that he doesnt take this relationship seriously (with focusing on his career first n foremost/feeling like its going to fast/ and worst of all just straight up cheating by sending those texts & planning on meeting someone) i just feel like there has to be someone who actually wants to talk to you ( trust me, 10+ messages a day is barely anything) and see you more than just once a week. you can still care for him but it seems that itd probably be best as just friends. usually honeymoon phases of relationships last 6 months to a year, but it seems like youre already dissapointed with him in just 4 months.

I talked with him today in person. I got to tackle how he’s been making me feel and how I’m tired of feeling like a convenience for him. He actually got chocked up and cried several times during our lengthy conversation. To make a long story short he’s realized he’s putting too much time into growing his career and expending his knowledge in his field to the point it’s not fair to me or those around him he has relationships with. As well his behavior from last month was unacceptable and he has to step up his behavior and put work into our relationship or I’m gonna be gonna before he realizes it. As well the two of us have to work on getting to know each other better and go out and socialize tog

i hope his actions match his words! 🤞🤞🤞

Well he texted me early this morning how he feels beyond heart broken and went on to explain how overwhelmed and stress he is with pouring so much energy into his career and self school on programming that he’s in a constant state of anxiety and stress. And our relationship is not working because he has so much on his plate and it’s his fault and it’s unhealthy. He didn’t realize how confused and lost he was with life til he tried being with me. He honestly believes we should stop seeing each other until he makes healthy changes so he can make room for the things he wants. But he doesn’t want to say goodbye and this not a good bye. He wants to talk more about this with. I’ve so far convinced him to see a therapist to help with making healthier choices and feel good about those choices and not he’s making a mistake. At the moment I don’t know if we officially broken up or on break. I’ve asked him through text and he read the message just hasn’t responded

So update we’re putting our relationship on the back burner while he is working on getting better. We sat down again and had a very lengthy discussion on our relationship and his behavior as well his own actions in his personal life that doesn’t include me. Long story short he’s a very detailed orientated person that puts immense pressure on himself to be perfect since he is serval years behind on his life due to poor choices when he was younger. And basically it’s created this constant battle where he is always second guessing everything he does and beats himself up about it. Even with our relationship he did this and it was the reason why he is unsure about us being together and is focusing so much on his career to the point he ignores anything outside of it even his own personal needs. And being with me and talking to him about I’ve convinced him he needs professional help and a support system.