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creativeAcres4389
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Broken up but still friends but Idk what’s to do
Relationship Stress / by creativeAcres4389
Last post
 February 22nd, 2022
...See more My ex and I were dating since November. A little bit of background they are older then me by a decade I’m 21 and they are 32. Despite the relationship wasn’t perfect on their part we greatly enjoyed each other’s time and they felt a connection they have never had with anyone before. It was my first serious relationship and their first serious relationship in a really long time.They said I did nothing wrong in the relationship and actually did everything perfect and gave more than they thought they deserved. They wanted to break up because They couldn’t take the constant mental battle of trying to be okay with dating someone so much younger than them despite they started the relationship. My parents and family were approving of them and even encouraged the relationship once it progressed to being serious. When I was in their presence the relationship felt right and good but when I wasn’t with them they second guess themselves and felt wrong and guilty. They didn’t want to end the relationship but they wouldn’t be able to handle the anxiety and stress that came with it. They wanted to stay friends and keep in touch/hangout as they saw me as valuable friend and one of only two female friends they have. The other being a married woman with kids they rarely talk to. I don’t know how to navigate being friends with my ex when I still want a relationship with them. As well I’ve never been friends with an ex in my previous relationships they ended toxically or I got ghosted. I don’t know what to do to stay in my lane and get over my feelings of wanting a relationship with them.
Broken up but still friends but Idk what’s to do
Relationship Stress / by creativeAcres4389
Last post
 February 22nd, 2022
...See more My ex and I were dating since November. A little bit of background they are older then me by a decade I’m 21 and they are 32. Despite the relationship wasn’t perfect on their part we greatly enjoyed each other’s time and they felt a connection they have never had with anyone before. It was my first serious relationship and their first serious relationship in a really long time.They said I did nothing wrong in the relationship and actually did everything perfect and gave more than they thought they deserved. They wanted to break up because They couldn’t take the constant mental battle of trying to be okay with dating someone so much younger than them despite they started the relationship. My parents and family were approving of them and even encouraged the relationship once it progressed to being serious. When I was in their presence the relationship felt right and good but when I wasn’t with them they second guess themselves and felt wrong and guilty. They didn’t want to end the relationship but they wouldn’t be able to handle the anxiety and stress that came with it. They wanted to stay friends and keep in touch/hangout as they saw me as valuable friend and one of only two female friends they have. The other being a married woman with kids they rarely talk to. I don’t know how to navigate being friends with my ex when I still want a relationship with them. As well I’ve never been friends with an ex in my previous relationships they ended toxically or I got ghosted. I don’t know what to do to stay in my lane and get over my feelings of wanting a relationship with them.
I don’t know if I made the right choice.
Relationship Stress / by creativeAcres4389
Last post
 February 18th, 2022
...See more I have been seeing my older boyfriend since October and we have been in serious relationship since December. I caught him on Reddit commenting sexts on other womens posts in NSFW communities. He even commented on hookup post to be down for meeting up with a girl near where I live. While I did talk to the girl she turned out to be an extortionist. He didn’t sleep with her but he did send her a nude and resique mirror selfie of himself. He did this in mid January. Since then he profusely apologized when we talked it out decided to move past it and work on our relationship. However it’s recently developed he feels like we are moving to fast I was supposed to meet his family last weekend but I got COVID. We discussed valentines gifts and he explained he’s not materialistic and doesn’t like when I try to do things for him because then he feels he needs to commit more energy then he is ready to give at this point in time since most of his energy is going into his career. And I’m smothering him with constant texting to the point he doesn’t even feel happy to talk with me when I leave 10+ Texts over the course of a day. I only get to see him once a week on Sunday and or every other Sunday when something comes up. I feel like every time we make progress in our relationship something happens and we are set back. I don’t know if I made the right choice staying with him despite I really do care for him and want to work things out. It doesn’t help he told me he’s not 100% on being with me just yet. I’m starting to feel unwanted.
I think my ex fwb is cheating on his current gf
Relationship Stress / by creativeAcres4389
Last post
 June 11th, 2021
...See more I’ve recently logged back into the app I met my ex on and saw he was recently active. According to the tech support team the recently active status lasts for about a week. The status disappeared today. At first I though the yellow dot meant they are completely inactive but that’s not that case. He’s been with his gf for three months now. I tried to make an excuse that maybe he accidentally opened the app but he shouldn’t have it in the first place nor be recently active. He is still matched with me on the app as well but according to the app he hasn’t viewed my profile in a very long time. The gf know of me and his history and went back and forth between liking me or seeing me as a threat. Despite I don’t like her due to how two faced and manipulative she was towards me I don’t want her to get hurt like that. I’ve been cheated on before and it’s worse then being dumped for an ex. I don’t know wether to let it, confront him on the app, or let her know.
Need advice on a sticky situation
Relationship Stress / by creativeAcres4389
Last post
 May 31st, 2021
...See more So I’ve cut contact from my ex fwb as in I don’t text them anymore but I still have their number because they still want to sit down and talk with me when they get the time. I’ve come into contact with the ex gf he left me for. In the beginning she seemed sweet and she liked me and was fine with befriending me. She said I was a very sweet girl and that she can tell I meant no ill will. She told she wasn’t threaten by the previous relationship I had with her bf and that she can’t blame or punish us for it as they weren’t together at the time. I ended up confiding in her on how I was doing when I couldn’t get a hold of my ex fwb to have a mature chat with. She seemed fine with it and get me encouragement to move on abut also told she would not be used as a gateway to my ex fwb to talk or keep tabs. Which I totally understand and I only meant for her to tell my ex fwb to respond to me as long as she was comfortable and I already told her I don’t want to keep tabs on her bf that it is morally messed up and makes an extremely uncomfortable atmosphere. I even told her she had the right to tell me off if she felt like I was in the wrong. The following morning I get a text from her telling me she thought more about what I said and told me what she thinks my ex fwb is feeling which is he is dropping contact with me to focus on their relationship and a friendship cannot be guaranteed after a relationship is ended and that she doesn’t feel comfortable now with me being friends with her now bf and doesn’t want a constant reminder he was seeing someone else at some point. An hour later I got a text from my ex fwb that he was sorry he hasn’t reached out to but he’s been extremely busy working over time at the call center and teaching himself investing. And for me to please ease up on his girl in the meantime. I then got a text from the girlfriend a few hours later asking how I was feeling because I sent just an okay to her previous text. I texted telling her I was just tired. Shen proceeded to try and get me to talk about how I feeling while then proceeding to tell while I am a sweet girl she wouldn’t be friends with me with everything that has happened. I told her I was mentally tired and stepping away. To which she told me she felt the same way as the situation made her somewhat upset and telling me about how she thinks her ex feels made her somewhat upset as she thought it came out harsh but she was being real and didn’t want to entertain the idea of me being friends with her bf either. She then proceeded to tell me that she didn’t know when her bf will reach to me even though she talked to him and if I needed to talk about me being upset to let her know and that if I have any questions about her bfs intentions and actions to ask her. At this point it’s feels suspicious like a trap to make me doing something that makes me look bad. I have ignored her texts all together now. I think my ex fwb doesn’t know the extent of what his gf is telling me and she does not know that he was reaching out to me. I personally feel like she is being two faced and manipulative but I feel bad assuming that when I don’t know the girl. I’m not contacting or reaching to either of them unless they contact me. I want to know if my feelings of suspicion are valid and should I prepare myself for any false accusations against me or am I just paranoid?
Casual thing turned to love the immediate heartbreak. Any advice welcome.
Relationship Stress / by creativeAcres4389
Last post
 May 17th, 2021
...See more I meet an older guy through an app in august of 2020 and we started a casual relationship. He had came out of a long term relationship and was just looking for something physical. I was just looking for a one night thing. But when ended up hitting off personally and continued to see each other for 7 months. At first he didn’t want a friendship and just keep it purely sexual. Then he opened up to friendship and wanted to hang out more after 3 months in November. So I would stay for an hour or two after hook ups and we would just talk and got to know each other. And we have consistent back and forth communication via texting. A month later I realized I was falling in love with him but I kept it to myself til I told towards the end of this February. He rejected me as he only wanted something physical but valued our friendship. Afterwards he started showing a romantic interest in me. He would tell me that by being myself, a sweet & caring person I made his life easy. He would also walk me to my car and kiss me goodbye while tell me he wants to see me again. And that I was an amazing person and he really like me for who I am and not my body. Then 3 weeks after my confession to him he cancelled literally last minute out of the blue a meet up saying he was sick throwing and even through he really wanted to see me he didn’t want anyone around him when he sick even though I offer to bring him medicine and electrolytes. and then three days later he told me he wouldn’t be able to hang out for awhile because him and his ex were talking again and he wanted to be respectful to her. I vented to him via text how I felt used and I wish he would have told me he was getting back together with his ex or if this was just them really talking as I didn’t understand what he was saying. He responded 11 days later that he was sorry for hurting my feelings and didn’t intend to and really cares about me but him and his ex are talking in a relationship sense and it wouldn’t be fair to her if he was still seeing me. Then for the next month & a half we have had this back and forth of me trying to figure out how we are going to maintain a platonic friendship but he keeps apologizing for being distant and misses me but he said he can’t hang out with because me it would feel weird when has promised to be faithful to someone. Now whenever I text him it takes 4-11 days for him to respond. He blames it on work and investing in cryptocurrency part time. Then last night I drunkenly sent him an iPhone note that contained how I loved him but wanted to maintain a friendship above all else and for him to be happy along with how I felt about this situation. As well a terribly written angry text that is barely readable. And I haven’t heard from him since this Tuesday. And know I fell all hurt and betrayed while also depressed and disappointed in myself. I don’t know what to do anymore apart of me hopes he contacts me but another just wants to disappear.
A casual thing that turned to love then immediately heartbreak. Any advice welcome.
Relationship Stress / by creativeAcres4389
Last post
 May 17th, 2021
...See more I meet an older guy through an app in august of 2020 and we started a casual relationship. He had came out of a long term relationship and was just looking for something physical. I was just looking for a one night thing. But when ended up hitting off personally and continued to see each other for 7 months. At first he didn’t want a friendship and just keep it purely sexual. Then he opened up to friendship and wanted to hang out more after 3 months in November. So I would stay for an hour or two after hook ups and we would just talk and got to know each other. And we have consistent back and forth communication via texting. A month later I realized I was falling in love with him but I kept it to myself til I told towards the end of this February. He rejected me as he only wanted something physical but valued our friendship. Afterwards he started showing a romantic interest in me. He would tell me that by being myself, a sweet & caring person I made his life easy. He would also walk me to my car and kiss me goodbye while tell me he wants to see me again. And that I was an amazing person and he really like me for who I am and not my body. Then 3 weeks after my confession to him he cancelled literally last minute out of the blue a meet up saying he was sick throwing and even through he really wanted to see me he didn’t want anyone around him when he sick even though I offer to bring him medicine and electrolytes. and then three days later he told me he wouldn’t be able to hang out for awhile because him and his ex were talking again and he wanted to be respectful to her. I vented to him via text how I felt used and I wish he would have told me he was getting back together with his ex or if this was just them really talking as I didn’t understand what he was saying. He responded 11 days later that he was sorry for hurting my feelings and didn’t intend to and really cares about me but him and his ex are talking in a relationship sense and it wouldn’t be fair to her if he was still seeing me. Then for the next month & a half we have had this back and forth of me trying to figure out how we are going to maintain a platonic friendship but he keeps apologizing for being distant and misses me but he said he can’t hang out with because me it would feel weird when has promised to be faithful to someone. Now whenever I text him it takes 4-11 days for him to respond. He blames it on work and investing in cryptocurrency part time. Then last night I drunkenly sent him an iPhone note that contained how I loved him but wanted to maintain a friendship above all else and for him to be happy along with how I felt about this situation. As well a terribly written angry text that is barely readable. And I haven’t heard from him since this Tuesday. And know I fell all hurt and betrayed while also depressed and disappointed in myself. I don’t know what to do anymore apart of me hopes he contacts me but another just wants to disappear.
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