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23 and never had a boyfriend

barbiejoo23 November 22nd, 2021

I’m not sure if anyone can relate to this. I(23F) have never been in a relationship. I don’t know why but I keep attracting men who show interest in me but never follow through with any plans. How do I change this and start attracting serious partners?

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globalBraid3744 November 23rd, 2021

@barbiejoo23

Hello, I personally believe that it is great that you wait for the right partner to show up. Maybe it has to do with the place you usually meet men? You could think about where you could find those interested in a serious relationship, maybe instead of a party, you can look in the library or hobby-related group.


insecureldrdependent November 23rd, 2021

I felt the same way. Any guy I did talk to ended up being terrible to me. Once I called off men and just started to be okay with myself I fell for my current bf. I suck at this but I think it may be the idea that if men see you being content by yourself it will not attract boys that want to do the bare minimum and attract the men that know you are goid by yourself so they understand they have to actually put in effort to show you they mean what they say.

sallymae3459 November 24th, 2021

@barbiejoo23 I had about 10 boyfriends most weren't compatible it's hard to find the right balance hope you find someone soon.

barbiejoo23 OP November 25th, 2021

Thank you . How did you even find someone to be a potential boyfriend

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sallymae3459 November 26th, 2021

@barbiejoo23 I guess I was just lucky I was in my earlier 20s but most just didn't have anything in common but the last bf I had he was really quiet he hardly talked much I was the only one reaching out never was 50/50 so I broke up with him in 2018 and been alone ever since I don't think I want a bf till next year if I find one good luck.

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barbiejoo23 OP November 26th, 2021

Not only that I literally went through college and somehow only ended up attracting f boys

Daydreamer47 November 27th, 2021

@barbiejoo23 Are you doing online dating? Maybe have on your profile that you are only looking for a relationship? And avoid tinder lol.

barbiejoo23 OP November 27th, 2021

I learned later tinder is not it!!

Anniedream December 2nd, 2021

I had my first relationship at 27