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Discussion: What do you think is the most important aspect in a relationship?

User Profile: glistexnc
glistexnc June 1st, 2019

Hi friends!

This is my first time posting a thread and I wanted to ask this question:

enlightenedWhat do you think is the most important aspect in a relationship?enlightened

Let me know what you thinksmiley

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User Profile: Daisy7cups
Daisy7cups June 1st, 2019

@glistexnc

The most important aspect in any relationship or friendship is mutual trust and honesty😄. Coz a relation is guided by feelings and emotions of both the person, hence mutual affection is needed. If its one sided, its like chassing after one and it will hurt the other one.

Tagging: @AbbyHarris1976

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User Profile: peacefulforest75
peacefulforest75 June 1st, 2019

@niceDaisy36

Exactly what I was going to say. Also support and acceptance. Your partner should be someone you feel you can always turn to. Sadly, I don't feel that way with my husband now.

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User Profile: Daisy7cups
Daisy7cups June 1st, 2019

@peacefulforest75

Hello peace, thanks for replying😊.

Yes support and acceptance also main thing coz all we need is support from our loved ones and that they will accept us and help us to move ahead.

Am sorry that you are going through a tough time now, yet dont worry, try to have communication with ur husband and just talk. Often proper talks helps a lot. And there are listeners here, you can always talk with us and post in forums and seek help from chatrooms as well. You are a lovable soul and everything will be fine with time.

Take care. Have a good day ahead 😊

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User Profile: AbbyHarris1976
AbbyHarris1976 June 2nd, 2019

@niceDaisy36

Very true 👍

I believe honesty and fairness in communication, and communication in general is the most important aspect of any relationship. All relationships require communication, and without honesty there can be no trust.

Without honesty, we might as well be in a relationship with a scorpion. 😱 You never know when you might get stung ...

Also important is gentleness in being honest, as brutal honesty could alienate those youre in the relationship with.

Thanks for tagging me! 😊💕

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User Profile: MusicCandy
MusicCandy June 1st, 2019

Trust. No matter what the nature of the relationship is, if you lose trust it means nothing. Trust allows both people to honestly to 'keep it real", even if the relationship changes.

User Profile: cyanPlatypus6370
cyanPlatypus6370 June 1st, 2019

Hi! Good question! smiley

For me, this Q is easily answered in one (or maybe three) words - in part because I've talked about it or at least thought about it a lot!

enlightened According to me, the most important aspect in a relationship is: TRUST. enlightened and a very close 2nd, or perhaps a vehicle for TRUST is enlightened COMMUNICATION!!! So very important.

I'm not sure how you meant the "in a relationship" part - but for me anyway, these two aspects are quite -to- very important in basically every relationship I have: friend to friend, doctor to patient, client to counselor, neighbor who lives above you and you, etc. oh and definitely adult child to parent, and adult sibling to adult sibling. Even (M) to (L) here on 7cups! surprise Yup, pretty much all relationships - for me anyway - are based on Trust ... and Communication is huge, and a powerful way of working toward building trust.

yes Platy

P.S. I know you did not ask for this, but a tad bit of extra information wink ... I had a textbook in college (which was more like a 'regular' book, probably in the Self-Help section) with the title of "Relationships." The authors are Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, for whom I have come to respect greatly - even if 'just' through their writing. I really would like to meet them someday! I'm not quite sure of all of what they do outside of writing - but my guess is part of their time may be presenting/talking/seminar-ing about relationships for a weekend perhaps. Yes they are married and yes they are both doctors - within the psychology field. smiley

P.P.S. I almost forgot! Their book now has an 'updated and expanded' Edition with the title of "Real Relationships: From Bad to Better and Good to Great." (okay, the end. actually now.)

User Profile: MelanieDaniels63
MelanieDaniels63 June 1st, 2019

Trust

User Profile: TKid526
TKid526 June 2nd, 2019

@glistexnc To me it's their personality and trust.

User Profile: Butterflee
Butterflee June 3rd, 2019

@glistexnc unconditional total devotion and dedication

User Profile: Butterflee
Butterflee June 3rd, 2019

Do not think of your parteners as "posessions", everyone is a free person, think how you can make your partener want to hang out with you not out of "relationship duty" but because of fun and attachment, whether you enjoy things together or go through hell together...you know your half is with you even if your half cannot help...you go through things together...trust? I do not need trust, only weak people need "trust". If there is attachment and dedication no need for words like "trust"...just a look in the eyes and you know all...insecurity has nothing to do with a true relationship...communication? In a true relationship you arrive to communicate almost telepathically without words... you know how the other feels, you know what tje other wants to say..."i love you's" are exchanged in warm conspirative silence...a lough, a pinch, a touch, a glimpse...a hearty laugh or a gut wrenching cry...oh, true relationship...i resume it in one word: one! 1! Together as 1! You just merge, that's all, you feel what the other feels even over great distances...inseparable....