Asking for your $.02 worth
How bad is it when you ask your partner of 30 years to name 1 thing that I do to show them I love them and they can't answer. Not good is it not good at all.
@Nowhour No, not good at all, whatever the reason. I'm sorry
Asking that was not good at all, in my opinion. If someone I feel close to asked me that, I wouldn't answer either.
@Nowhour
@RarelyCharlie
why
Because a partnership of 30 years is a way of being, not just a collection of separate gestures. Asking someone to name a gesture is like saying the partnership, the way of being, has no meaning for you and only separate gestures count for anything.
In fact, I can name one thing that you did to show your partner you love them—for this last approximately a third of a century you grew old together.
@Nowhour
@Nowhour
If you have to ask. You are already not in a great situation 
Hope things get better soon.