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Codependency: Signs, Causes, and Help

by innateJoy9602

January 29th

...See more "Codependency, also known as relationship addiction, takes place when one person believes it's their job to “save” another person by attending to all of their needs. A codependent person builds their identity around this purpose and takes on a self-sacrificial role in the relationship. Signs of codependency * Lack of satisfaction or purpose in life outside of the relationship. * Tendency to endure a partner's harmful behavior. * Idealization of partner. * Enabling partner's poor choices and behavior. * Controlling behavior. * Guilt when not attending to your partner's needs and wants. * Unwillingness to state needs, desires, and moral stances due to fear of conflict. * Taking on undue blame. * Taking on too much responsibility. * Preoccupation with the other person’s thoughts or feelings Causes of codependency Relationship addiction can often be traced back to past experiences. Past family dynamics have a lasting effect on all of us, even if those effects go unnoticed. Similarly, the relationship you had with your parent or caregiver during infancy can also influence your behavior as an adult. Your present-day sense of self—the way in which you view yourself in relation to others—is another factor that may contribute to codependency. Changing unhealthy behavior in a codependent relationship It's possible to adjust this dynamic by changing your codependent behavior. The road to a more independent lifestyle involves: * Knowing the difference between controlling and supporting your partner. * Separating your interests and goals from those of your partner. * Focusing on and asserting your needs. * Identifying and challenging negative thoughts. * Building your self-esteem. You might find that one or a combination of these strategies works best for you. Remember to be patient with yourself, as change often takes time." Read the full article on Help Guide [https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/codependency.htm] ✨Takeaway: Codependency is a harmful dynamic in which one person builds their identity around saving another person by attending to all their needs. It can result in frustration, resentment, stress, and loss of self-worth for the codependent person. ✨Reflection: Have you ever been in a codependent relationship? #Relationship #Friendship #Codependency #Codependent ------------------------- If you liked this article, you may also enjoy: "3 Things We Can Do Right Now to Improve Our Relationships" [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipFriendshipSupport_66/CopingToolsResourcesforRelationships_1161/3ThingsWeCanDoRightNowtoImproveOurRelationships_299302/]

Online dating

by Silverrose25

January 28th

Dating tips?

by Sapphira88

January 26th

The Core Values That Every Relationship Should Have

by sellistens

January 25th

...See more Every relationship has its struggles. Whether it’s romantic, a situationship, or a friendship, I believe they all need specific requirements to meet the needs of both parties. In this article, I will be talking about the core values that I believe every relationship should have. The four most important components are: trust, boundaries, communication and loyalty. Trust Trust is important to have in a relationship because it prevents behaviours that cause mistrust. For example, if Sam doesn’t trust their significant other, Alex, Sam might resort to unhealthy behaviours they ultimately cause mistrust between both people. Consider This: If you know that you have trouble trusting people, do some research on that topic, maybe talk to someone about it, try to find a way to cope with those feelings. Sometimes just saying “I’m going to choose to trust them” is a helpful perspective that at least helps me when I’m having trouble. Boundaries and Communication Boundaries tell the other person what your limits are. If you don’t set boundaries, your partner might unknowingly cross a line. This might spiral into an argument. Now, some arguments are normal to have in a relationship. I would even be concerned if there were never any arguments. To prevent frequent arguments, communication is the way to go. Consider This: Communicating boundaries without being controlling is important to consider. What are your boundaries? Are they fair? Talk to your partner and ask them theirs. Loyalty If you want a serious relationship, you have to make sure you are loyal to them and them only. Cheating will be caught eventually and you will have to deal with the consequences. Consider This: If you have feelings for someone else, are you really in love with your significant other? Thanks for reading and I hope this helps! SelListens

Very codependent

by RainbowLove32315

January 9th

Humor and Laughter in Relationships

by KatePersephone

December 26th, 2024

...See more Humor and laughter are great ways to sustain long relationships because they enable the couples to get through daily problems and hassles. When people share a laugh, they share a memory or experience, and that bond between them grows stronger. Humor can be a tool in resolving conflicts, enhancing one's communication, and helping to maintain a positive relationship environment. Types of humor, such as affiliative and self-enhancing, may also relate to long-term relationship quality. Humor can ease the stress in daily dealings and make a couple much more resilient, keeping a joyful partnership. Some of the benefits of humor are: Better communication: Laughter serves as an icebreaker and relaxes people enough to comfortably discuss difficult matters. Increased bonding: Laughing together increases bonding between partners emotionally, hence making them feel closer to each other. Stress relief: Laughter releases endorphins that will help reduce stress and thus uplift the mood, a dire need for a healthy relationship. Resilience: Humor in relationships brings resilience, allowing couples to deal better with challenges and conflicts. Positive health effects: Laughter has physiological benefits, such as improving circulation and boosting immune function. Humor is often expressed in different ways. Some types of humor are: Affiliative humor: Involves amusing others to keep things positive and lively, sustaining and enriching relational bonds. Self-enhancing humor: Reflects the ability to poke fun at oneself in a good-natured way, helping to see humor in unfavorable events. Aggressive humor: Includes sarcasm and ridicule, which can be harmful if not appreciated by both partners. Therapeutic humor: Invites others to engage with difficult or painful situations in a way that uplifts and commiserates. Inside jokes: Shared jokes that carry personal meanings, reinforcing intimacy and solidarity between partners. A lot of people often find it rather difficult to incorporate humor in their lives. Here are some strategies for it! Find the funny side: Look for humorous angles in situations to lighten the mood and provide relief. Create humor rituals: Establish regular activities centered around humor, like game nights or comedy marathons. Use playfulness to problem-solve: Approach challenges with a playful mindset to foster creativity and reduce tension. Laugh at yourselves: Embrace imperfections and quirks to diffuse tension and avoid conflicts. Use humor to communicate: Convey thoughts and feelings in a lighthearted manner to make conversations more approachable. * What’s a humorous memory or inside joke you share with your partner that always brings you closer, and why do you think it’s so special? * How do you think humor can be used to resolve conflicts in relationships, and can you recall a time when laughter helped you or someone you know overcome a challenging moment? 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Relationship stress

by understandingComputer9065

December 15th, 2024

I'm stuck in a situation. Just a little help please

by kaiiofflline

November 25th, 2024

Understanding Emotional Intimacy and Vulnerability in Relationships

by KatePersephone

November 18th, 2024

...See more Emotional intimacy and vulnerability are crucial in relationships. They help deepen their relationships and become more meaningful. Without these two, relationships can feel like they’re shallow, with lack of understanding, and trust, that are essential in long-term relationships of any kind. Some of the benefits of emotional intimacy can be: Feeling of closeness: With emotional intimacy, people have a deeper understanding of each other’s inner worlds. Empathy: It can encourage empathy between people, which helps them relate to each other. Conflict resolution: Emotional intimacy can help avoid and reduce conflicts between each other, through open communication. Self-regulation: It can help people self-regulate, through being able to express their emotions and even managing them openly. Building emotional intimacy and vulnerability can have its challenges, too. For example, a lot of people are afraid of being rejected or even judged when they open up about their emotions. A lot of past negative experiences can also make it difficult for people to open up. As well as self-criticism, trust issues and even cultural norms, based on their upbringing. It is still possible to build emotional intimacy and vulnerability, through small and slow steps. Let’s talk about it. * Firstly, understanding how our past experiences have shaped our fear of emotional intimacy and vulnerability can help in building these two. * Accepting that with emotional intimacy and vulnerability there are emotional risks, but they also bring great rewards. * Being kind to ourselves and understanding that everyone has fears as well as insecurities. * Starting by sharing smaller aspects of ourselves to build confidence. There are also different ways for people that can help them in slowly building emotional connection and vulnerability! Don’t be discouraged if some of these may not work the best. 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Back with my husband after a separation but I can't forgive what he did whilst we were apart, how to cope?

by proactiveDrum6829

November 14th, 2024

Relationship Support Discussion: Ways to Manage Changes and Life Transitions Together

by KatePersephone

October 15th, 2024

...See more Life can be full of changes; whether it means moving to another country to job changes, monetary pressures, and decisions that may last a lifetime. Although change can be exciting, it can also be hard work. Within a relationship, you don't have to deal with all the hard stuff alone. Successfully navigating life transitions not only makes your relationship stronger but provides room for growth as a person and a couple. Some ways to manage these changes can be: Open communication: Change has many elements of uncertainty; you need to make sure you voice your thoughts, fears, and expectations across to each other. In this way, both partners will understand how such transition could affect their individual and shared life. Set aside time regularly to discuss what is on each other's minds; be forthcoming and honest regarding your feelings, even when they are uncomfortable. Practice active listening: do not interrupt or jump to conclusions. Acknowledging each other’s feelings: That which one might find exciting could present anxiety or become overwhelming for another. Not all changes will be exactly the same with each of you, and it is here that validation of your partner is key, even if you might not quite get them. How to do it: Acknowledge their feelings without judgment. Offer reassurance and empathy. What the person sometimes needs is to know: "I know this is hard for you". Be patient; remember that change takes some time to get used to, and you will not all adjust at the same rate. It presupposes the ability not only to show empathy but also to understand, to create emotional closeness to support each other. Maintaining flexibility: Transitions nearly always involve some kind of readjustment in daily routines, reevaluating goals, and expectation changes. Flexibility means opening up to and adapting to the new realities that come with life transitions-be it finding a new schedule, juggling new roles and responsibilities, or whatever. Compromise when necessary. You may need to change your daily routine or shift some priorities.Be open to solutions and approaches; what worked before might not work any longer. Embrace flexibility in the process and not as a burden. Maybe if change were viewed as an opportunity for growth, your perspective on transition might go down a little more smoothly. Providing emotional and practical support: Life transitions often are associated with the need for emotional and practical support. You and your partner can provide both to each other when times get tough. Offer a listening ear where they can talk through feelings of being overwhelmed. Many times the only thing a person wants is for someone to listen or a hug. Support your partner with tasks such as organizing paperwork, budgeting, or other errands. Confront challenges as a team, putting the emphasis on solving problems rather than individual contributions. It would help to alleviate the burden and would cement a partnership by practically helping one another. Taking care of yourself, too: It is just as important to put some focus on yourself during transitions as it is to support your partner. Change can be mentally and physically exhausting, so self-care and identity are the keys toward sustaining a long-term relationship. Pencil in time that revitalizes you, whether through exercise, hobbies, or alone time. Open up to your partner, letting them know what you want or need; ask for space if you need it, or support. Keep in contact with friends, family members, or a support system outside the relationship. It is better to balance your own well-being with the needs of the relationship in the long run. Celebrating milestones together: Life changes are tough to pass; handling them isn't just about surviving the worst moments but also celebrating small and big achievements. Whether it is moving into a new house, getting a job, or surviving a particularly tough week, acknowledging achievements as a couple will further help strengthen a bond. Make time to acknowledge and celebrate the resilience of you both. Similarly, plan activities to enjoy the good times of your journey, whether it be a night out, a weekend getaway, or quiet dinner at home. Reflect on how far you've come together; this could help reinforce your strength as a team. ------------------------- Questions: 1. How can couples meet their needs as individuals and place a priority on their relationship during times of life transitions? 2. 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General guidelines for moving on unfullfilled/unrequited/toxic love

by Friends12

October 14th, 2024

...See more Moving on from a significant relationship can be deeply challenging, but taking proactive steps toward healing and self-care can significantly ease the process. Here are some general guidelines that can help anyone struggling to move forward: 1. Establish a Routine • Importance: Provides structure and a sense of normalcy. • How to Implement: Schedule regular activities like waking up, meals, exercise, and bedtime at the same times each day. 2. Therapy • Importance: Offers professional support, insights, and strategies to cope with emotions. • How to Implement: Seek a therapist who specializes in relationship issues or emotional distress. Online therapy options can also be accessible and flexible. 3. Journaling • Importance: Helps process emotions and clarify thoughts. • How to Implement: Write daily about your feelings, progress, setbacks, and anything that gives you hope or causes pain. 4. Exercise • Importance: Boosts mood through the release of endorphins and helps manage stress. • How to Implement: Incorporate activities you enjoy, such as walking, yoga, cycling, or group sports, into your daily routine. 5. Meditation and Mindfullness • Importance: Enhances emotional regulation and promotes a sense of calm. • How to Implement: Start with guided meditation apps like Headspace or Calm. Practice mindfulness during regular activities like eating or walking. 6. Social Support • Importance: Provides emotional comfort and distraction from ruminative thoughts. • How to Implement: Reach out to friends and family, join support groups, or engage in community activities. 7. Limit Contact with Your Ex • Importance: Reduces emotional turmoil and helps you start new chapters. • How to Implement: Avoid checking their social media, texts, and mutual places you visited together. 8. Hobbies and New Interests • Importance: Distracts from negative thoughts and can lead to new friendships and skills. • How to Implement: Revisit old hobbies or explore new interests like painting, cooking, or learning a musical instrument. 9. Volunteering • Importance: Shifts focus from your own situation to helping others, enhancing feelings of self-worth. • How to Implement: Find local organizations where you can contribute your time and skills. 10. Setting Goals • Importance: Gives direction and a sense of purpose. • How to Implement: Set realistic and achievable goals, both short-term (like trying a new recipe) and long-term (like career advancement). 11. Avoid Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms • Importance: Prevents forming habits that may delay your healing process. • How to Implement: Be mindful of tendencies towards excessive alcohol, overeating, or other escapist behaviors. 12. Spiritual Practices • Importance: Provides comfort, community, and a broader perspective on life’s challenges. • How to Implement: Engage in spiritual or religious practices meaningful to you, or explore meditation and nature walks. These strategies, when combined, can help build resilience, provide new perspectives, and foster a healthier emotional state. It’s important to remember that moving on is a process, and being patient and gentle with yourself is crucial during this time.

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