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get second opinions on here about what I currently am going through. I want to be able to express myself in a safe space

How do you deal with a partner that have little to no compromise with you?

I've been a super chill, understanding, and open minded as a partner and I'm always the one who loves to find time to talk because he is more to quite person. And I thought having me as his partner will actually help our relationship since I'm kind of more to be so open about everything.

But every ending of the talk my partner will do the same thing all over and there's times I actually have arguement but it leads nowhere...

One time my partner going back his hometown for few months and we've talked that at least we spare few minutes of our time to chat and talk hows our days and tell stories. He got disappear for 3 days and only when I ask he explain that he had no signal as he's going to hike. I told him that if he's doing something and unable to talk even for days, just tell me in advance so I know and understand his consequence and not to worry right. Doesn't listen.

That leads to another time when he didn't text me again. The next day he just told me he forgot. Like wtf...

After I got upset because who not upset when your partner just told you they forgot to TEXT you? Then he told me he was drunk and the next day he slept all day. I just seems to can't understand WHY 1 min of texting me is not in his mind, at least telling me he got drunk and not feeling well, again to make me understand and not to worry him being disappear.

I don't want to be the one who just give up and not want to talk about anything, for me I feel like it's best to just leave than not trying for love. I've tried so hard to let him know I'm compromising this relationship with him and always open whenever he needs me and hope he's doing the same, I did tell him that I hope he does the same to me.

And here I am writing this long at 7 cup looking for reason or advice or anything even your story if you experience this yourself.

Has anyone or any of their partner like this? Am I too open minded and chill that lead me to have this kind of partner? What is your thought/opinion about this?

So it's hard to get it all into one message without giving a pretty long backstory, but me and my (now)ex were in an open relationship and after a significant fight broke up. I have a lot of unresolved personal issues and this has been the push I needed to begin working on them along with a lot of other things. We've been talking and are trying to fix things but it feels like I'm the one trying to make all the changes while he's just trying to forget any of his problems and distract himself from them. In addition to this it recently came out that a convention he went to he had a hookup with a friend. We were open of course, so that should be fine. But it was the first time he'd acted with anybody else and he never told me. He made it sound like nothing was going to happen with the friend when he went to the convention but I'm learning it now. It came up during a discussion about if we decide to get together again and he explained that he has grown to enjoy being able to have "variety" in his life. It led to a lot of crying on both of our parts and a lot of talk and we did find a compromise that we can both accept that closed the relationship. But ever since it's left me with a feeling as if something were sticking to my skin and won't come off. I feel gross. Shortly after the convention we had seen each other and the idea that he was intimate with somebody else and enjoyed it so much that it took hours of discussion and begging and compromising on both ends to finally get him to agre to not doing it again has left me feeling a lot of different things. This is only one of many things I'm sure I'll end up discussing in here over time.

Basically I'm looking for advice on how to move past the past. We've had a lot of "talks" and I know I'm leaving a lot of details out. There's a lot to say and I'd rather not make an introductory post any longer than I already have. I just want this unclean feeling to go away right now.

@ASilentObserver hey there I’m always looking for some insight and thoughts on issues related with friends also willing to give others thoughts or just a listening ear. Hope to share

Hello, I'm Cheebs. I only have one friend, which is wonderful in and of itself, but I'm very socially awkward and would like to learn how to communicate normally. I often don't have the words to continue a conversation and my natural reaction to something i am unsure of is to not respond at all. I'm looking to change that. Thank you for reading. :)

I'm new here. I am learning to deal with my own frustrations and anxieties around meeting new people

Hey I'm new here my partner has BPD and I've been considering breaking up with her... We're kind of not so compatible although I love them to death and I wish I didn't have to do this just looking for support

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