Question about what a relationship is

@QuietMuse

Hey there, Thank you for posting your situation, I would like point out some things.

My boyfriend broke up with me last week because I don't ever want to have sex and the only way I would want kids is through adoption. (If he breakup with you for this reason, then obviously I could tell that he tried to force things here and there when it comes to this. I could also tell that you didn't feel entirely comfortable and safe with him, and didn't feel heard and understood by him) The breakup hurt me tremendously and I been waking up really exhausted and I've been getting chest pains from anxiety, and I decided to talk to my school counselor about it. (Oh most people will go through this after a breakup, what's going on here is that you are going through tremedeous separation anxiety, so it'll have symptoms like anxiety, panic attacks, diahrea, chest pains, appettite reducing etc.) There was one point in the relationship when he touched my boob and I wasn't okay with that. He apologized later on but I don't want a sexual relationship at all (That was very inappropiate of him to do, he should have been affectionate, loving, caring and charming before even attempting what he just did, so it made you feel uncomfortable the way he did it. He pretty much tried to force things because of his insecurities)., I want a spiritual relationship where I know the other person will stand by me no matter what. (It's perfectly normal to want this kind of relationship, it just requires the guy to make you feel comfortable and safe, make you feel heard and understood throughout this as well. If a person wants to be with you then they should respect your decision to want this kind of relationship) But the counselor told me maybe I'm just not ready for a relationship since she said boyfriends and girlfriends normally do that with each other. Is that really true? (The school counselor doesn't know what he/she is talking about. He/She doesn't understand how relationship works. Intimacy will only happen if both people feel comfortable and safe with one another. Safety and trust are two of the most important thing on a relationship. Now if traumatic things from the past happened regarding intimacy then more than likely it will cause you to not want it, or feel afraid of it). I don't mind holding hands and cuddling but I honestly want to believe that sex/sexual touching doesn't have to be a part of a relationship because I really don't want that. (It's perfectly normal you would want this, there's nothing wrong with wanting this at all. You shouldn't feel ashamed or bad for wanting this) I'm honestly not sure what to think but thank you for reading and I could really use someone's opinion/perspective on this

I moved your post to the Break Ups and Divorce section.