Name one thing you have learned from your past relationship
Hey all :)
As long as we live, we experience new situations and the life has a lot to teach it to us.
Trying to learn from experiences and get the power and knowledge is what we really look forward to.
This thread is a chance to think of what you have learned from your past relationship.
Feel free to write in this thread if you like to share what you have learned with us.
Waiting for your awesome thoughts.
@SunFlower700
I've learnt that sometimes, it's better to be the one who loves less. That way, you can never truly get hurt by your partner's actions / inactions.. :/
@lostSoul5026
That's something really important. Loving your partner moderately. I'm glad you have learned that. Thank you for sharing this with us .
@lostSoul5026
I've learned not to give in too much
I recognize more fully how I am hard wired to love people who are controlling and abusive. I recognize that they have innate ways of finding me and I have innate pulls of attraction to them. I am learning to recognize that fear is not attraction or excitement. That dread is not either. And, that it is actually joy and comfort and connection that I want.
@SunFlower700
I learnt that just because you love someone doesn't mean that they are the one you spend the rest of your life with. It was perfect while it lasted, and that's okay. <#
Maybe its just where my heads at just now.
Love is evil. Lust is fun and short lived . Love breaks you gives a weakness not strength and that there are no fairytales.
Prince charming is always going to sneak about with the maids
Cinderall is always going to be a servant just with a wedding ring
Ariel will never get to realise her true love, every step she takes is chipping and he marries someone else meanwhile will return to sea foam trying to save everyone else.
The beast is always a short tempered, violent creature no matter how miss understood.
No please don't get me wrong I use Disney examples cos they are so ridiculous, these go for both male and female. The female beast will always be and Princess charming sneaking way with the serving boy.
There are some of us who have wanted to believe in love and affection and some who still do. But right now I'm done with it. I will be sea foam.
(for those who don't understand the sea foam read the little mermaid book. Not the Disney version)
I've learned that you need to let go of your past before embracing a new relationship. I have learned this the hard way and in the end lost the love of my life because I didn't treat him the way he deserved.
@SunFlower700
1. LOVE YOURSELF!!! I've learned that in order to get love and respect in a relationship, you have to respect yourself and love yourself first.
2. Not everyone will have the same compassion, trust and loyalty as you - and that's okay, as long as you learn how to recognize the difference. Some people will take advantage of your vulnerabilities so it's important to know your worth and to know what you deserve and to never settle for anything less than that.
3. Don't be afraid to let go of something that no longer makes you happy or that is no longer good for you (just because you're scared of being alone or you're scared you won't find better). Being alone is better than being with someone that isn't right for you. You can be happy alone. :)
4. You can't force someone to change their ways or reciprocate your efforts. If it's not happening, it's okay to move on.
5. We are all very different. We all have different perspectives. You will never see eye-to-eye about everything and that's okay. Celebrate the differences! It's okay to have differences, try to find someone that you can work with to overcome those differences in a positive way, that isn't destructive. If you can have a conversation about differences, rather than an argument - I think you've struck gold. :)
I have learned how emotionally invested I can get in a relationship before it starts to damage me. I have learned my needs as well as my wants to have a successful relationship, and I (am learning) how to slowly heal and become a whole person again :)
To stop crossing rivers for people who would not jump a puddle for me.
Done it my entire life, that is why @ 56, I am totally done, I will never allow someone else to break me. The last breakup, which left me at the alter in 2008 is still not 100% healed in my heart, the thought of going thru anything like that again is madness. It is lonely, yes, but of the two I will take the lonliness over the devastation of another broken heart.
that you need to make sure that you get to know the person and take things slow and make sure that it feels right
I have learned that it is so important to be best friends with someone first. Jumping into things romantically with someone is great at first, but when things get hard you will want someone by your side that you consider your best friend.
