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@MarP

Hello my name is Josh, I am very sorry to hear about your breakup. First of all this was a big step for you dating, opening up & being affectionate. You should not be guessing yourself I know it is hard but sounds like you did a lot of things right! I wish you nothing but the best, you can always message me or click on my profile if you need a chat.

@Josh3889 Thanks for your offer and support, will reach out

@MarP I don't think you need to be frustrated for him, because you don't understand it, it is meaningless to make any physical contact, so it is the right choice to find the relationship early when you find that it is not appropriate. I believe you will meet you in the future.

Sorry to hear that. Hope you’re doing okay. Don’t let this bother you too much.<3

@Katsuddon Thank you <3, needed to hear this

@MarP I'm sorry you had this experience. It sounds like it has been, weird, confusing, and upsetting for you. Also tbh, it sounds like he didn't really respect your boundaries around being physical, so as you said, he probably wasn't the best match. But, can I be honest... it was two dates...I've done online dating and been on probably 50 first and second dates that didn't work out. It's frankly kind of the nature of those early couple dates where you are both just meeting a new person and seeing if you are interested in each other. I mean your feelings are valid and definitely go at your own pace, but also...sometimes somebody just isn't interested and it's not anything personal. You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince as the saying goes lol.

@ Daydreamer47 thank you so much for sharing your words and experience. I am gratefully overwhelmed by the outpouring of support from this community. Yeah, you’re right it was just two dates and thankfully not more. I guess I just am taking it pretty hard because this was my first dating experience ever and I had no idea what to expect (which is also something I think he took advantage of). I think I shrugged a lot of things off/dismissed a lot of things that overstepped my boundaries because of inexperience. I was getting a lot of mixed signals from him because after the first date he was already planning the next one and inviting me to future events like family holiday get togethers and even a wedding. And then after the second date, radio silence. So yeah just really confusing. But you’re right, now I know for the future and to stand my ground for my boundaries/feelings. And sucks he was my first kiss but there always has to be a first before there is a second and so on, so yeah may have to encounter a few frogs before a prince :). Thanks so much

@MarP Keep trying your person is out there I've had to kiss frogs too it's just a long process it's good you found out now that years later I wish you nothing but the best I always look at articles on dating so I understand could help you.

@MarP

First of all you are very brave putting yourself out there. Be proud of yourself for taking that chance and love yourself for it. You indeed dodged a bullet but it doesn’t make the hurt any less real. This person did not respect your boundaries that you so clearly and bravely stated to them and this is not your fault in any way. You gave them the opportunity to be with you and respect you and they blew it. It is their loss. No one should force you into a kiss that you aren’t ready for, that is so unfair and selfish of that person. Im so so sorry and I hope you feel better soon💕 if you need to talk I’m here for you💕

@reservedMango5210

Thank you so much. I can’t tell you know how much it helps to hear your words. Many times I second guess and fight my own feelings, often dismissing them and thinking they aren’t valid. Your words bring me comfort and some closure, and are helping me accept, sit with, and acknowledge these difficult feelings rather than trying to fight them away. I feel embraced and heard. Feeling much better than before. Thank you for listening and being here :)