How to know whether we have moved on over our ex?
I feel like i will never move on, dont know how to move on!
I really want to know , when to be sure that we have moved on over a breakup?
How to know whether we are ready for a new relationship?
@InfiniteThoughts2k19
The ex was in our life because they brought something positive and good into it. They are now an ex because there was a strong reason to end it. Moving on isn't about forgetting them or the growth you made as a person within the relationship, rather it's accepting the whole picture. When we are able to smile at the positives and know that it wasn't meant to be for a reason, that is when we can be ready to move on to next steps in life.
In the meantime be kind to yourself, it is okay to remember and grieve the loss of a relationship. It is okay to need some space and it is equally okay to seek comfort with others. Just do what feels right and trust yourself to know what's best for you!
Good luck.
@0m
Totally agree with this.
Going through it right now myself. Sometimes I wish I hadn't left and I want to believe that I can be happy with him. But most of the time, I'm happy without him. I see something and he isn't the first person I think of to share it with. When I'm with someone else, I'm not comparing him to my ex but able to just be in the moment. I find myself looking forward to what might be, rather than back at what was.
@peacefulforest75
It's hard to change any habit and a relationship is a massive number of habits associated to every emotion - all that much harder! Well done to you for walking down that road where you've reached the understanding that you're mostly happy without him.
Enjoying new experiences and other people without reverting back to the past is what makes you able to create beautiful memories that are your own :) Keep collecting every smile and positive moment and I hope you're able to build that amazing future that you deserve! Good Luck.
@0m
Thought of one more. I'm able to look at things that he did/said that used to be very hurtful to me, and see them as more about him. I'm not taking things so personally, and in fact I'm sad that this is how he responds.
He wrote our neighbor a long email this morning (copied me) about feeling unappreciated, detailing things that go back years. All because he doesn't understand something she said to him. Previously I had been the target of this, sometimes in person, and instead of feeling hurt I just feel sad reading it. He is upset and feeling alone, but I see him further alienating himself by responding as an attack rather than just asking what she meant.
@peacefulforest75
You're quite right to spot the unhealthy behaviour. Is this normal for him to copy you into all his correspondence and are you okay with this to continue?
You know what is best for you, I have also been in your shoes. You can't put a time stamp on healing and moving on. You will know when you are ready for a new relationship you will be, you will find your person meant to be with you. I believe that everybody has somebody nobody is ever alone/meant to be alone. One day the past person will be just a memory or you may laugh everybody is different take care you'll be fine. ♥️