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Well we've been married more than 6 years, together 9....I do still love him. I'm not "in love" with him, and honestly haven't been in years. His way of dealing with conflict and communication style has prevented a level of emotional intimacy/connection I really long for.
I've been dating someone who provides all that and is being extremely sensitive to my needs. It's wonderful, but also so hard because I'd love for my husband to provide just a fraction of the love and support this other man does. Part of my healing is accepting that my husband just can't...it's who he is. In some ways, it's unfair for both of us to stay married. He doesn't understand why I can't be happy with him as he is, and I don't understand why he can't change just a little bit. But...that's the way it is and I'm really trying to accept it and move on, so I can fully be with someone who can give me what I want and need.