Girlfriend was also my best and only friend, now i'm completely alone

Hey Frog,

I just got broken up with last week by the man I thought I was going to marry. I dont have much great advice for you, except to say that i hope you're feeling a little better, and that I understand how crushing and oppressive it feels to be alone. My heart physically hurts each day when i wake up, and im crying and all day i feel totally and utterly heartbroken. They say time heals all wounds, but it would be so awesome if time sped up and we both felt happier huh?

I hope you're feeling okay.

I've been through a breakup like this before and currently going through another butivelearned from the past how to handle this one better. I completely understand that you're lonely and want someone to lean. When you're ready to get out there and be social, do so. But for now I strongly believe in the phrase "be your own best friend". It might sound silly but you know yourself better than anyone else so you can figure out how to comfort yourself. Think about what you would tell a friend in your situation and keep telling yourself the same thing. If you need to cry then do that but make sure you're not wallowing for too long. Try to do the things you enjoy or try new things until you find something you enjoy. Take this time to better yourself. You can come out of this better than ever. You just need to be determine to get better. Relax and figure out your game plan and then put it into action. I hope things start looking up for you soon.

I am going through something similar. She was my best and only friend as well. I'm feeling extremely lonely and running out of options. I know you are hitting the wall, but I hope you live and don't hurt yourself. As long as you live, there will be hope even if you can't see it right now.

I can completely relate to this

I am going through sort of the same thing. My now ex girlfriend and were basically all each other had. We each had a few other friends, but mostly it was just us. We were together all the time and we'd talk all the time. In late March we broke up for two days, she said she felt like we were growing apart but after two days we talked and decided we couldn't stand being apart from each other.

Well, about a week and a half ago she confesses that she has been cheating on me for a bit and that she has feelings for the other guy as well as me. She says she can't be in a relationsip with me and have feelings for him (which I understand) but even though they aren't dating they are still sleeping together. I want her to admit she made a mistake and come back to me. I want to hold her in my arms and hear her tell me she loves me again. But she won't, and that kills me.

I feel so alone without her. She was my everything. I loved her with all my heart, with everything I am and everything she made me want to be. I feel so empty, unwanted, and unloved. What's left of my heart goes out to all of you. I hope you can find the strength to carry on and heal. I wish I could do the same, but I'm not sure that will happen.

This is what I am going through too.

I know how youfeel. Myboyfriend of three yearsbroke up with me out of the blue back in March. I saw my whole future with him. He was my bestfriend and now I feel completely alone,not justbecause of him but all of my friends aswell. It seems like they all chose his side.Two months later and it still hasn't gotten any easier, especially becuase we are in the same friend group. I see him or things that remind me of him or I'll pass him somewhere on campus and it sends me into an anxiety/depression spiral. It doesn't seem like he even cares about me and I'm really starting to question if the last few months of our relationship were even real. I keep blaming myself for what happened and I can't help but feel like he gave up on us and gave up on me. But one positive out of all of this is I've realized how strong I've become as a result. Just try to find the positives in the situation.

I know how youfeel. Myboyfriend of three yearsbroke up with me out of the blue back in March. I saw my whole future with him. He was my bestfriend and now I feel completely alone,not justbecause of him but all of my friends aswell. It seems like they all chose his side.Two months later and it still hasn't gotten any easier, especially becuase we are in the same friend group. I see him or things that remind me of him or I'll pass him somewhere on campus and it sends me into an anxiety/depression spiral. It doesn't seem like he even cares about me and I'm really starting to question if the last few months of our relationship were even real. I keep blaming myself for what happened and I can't help but feel like he gave up on us and gave up on me. But one positive out of all of this is I've realized how strong I've become as a result. Just try to find the positives in the situation.

My ex broke up with me (in an email) in December 2012. I was 100% hurt, humiliated and embarrassed. I had always been strong and independent and just this one time I decided to let my guard down and give my all. I'm over him I don't want him anymore, but I just can't shake this sadness that came over me when it happened....I' ve done counselling, I've tried newactivities....tobe honest the pain is not as hot as it was when it just happened, but it's still close to 90%. I'm tired of crying and feeling sad, and tired of not being able to go back to the joyful person I was before it happened.I just feel robbed

Almost exact same thing is happening to me now. i have no one else because she was insecure and didn't like me being with friends and i love her with all my heart so i left everyone else. now she left me and she has others around her.. i dont....