Feel numb how rise above this?

@1Lotusflower Welcome. I am sorry that happened.

You have every right to feel the way you do: asking someone for their mood is not an extreme question to ask and his reaction is a bit over the top, to put it mildly. However, it seems like he must have something else going to make him feel/react that way.

Honestly, I think it seems like he may have doen you a favor. Someone who is so unpredicable and who will cut you off in that way does not seem to have healthy coping mechanisms. I knew someone like this (roommate was in a relationship with him) but she kept going back, told the rest of us she didn't want to abandon him even though he could never seem to decide that he wanted to be with her or not.

Ultimately, you'll need time to move on. If you were practically living together then there's obviously a lot investment: emotions, time, maybe money, etc. You'll get through it.

Good luck. I hope this was helpful in some way.

@1Lotusflower

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

Thanks for the positive energy here today. This is the first time posting on 7cups. I had to be proud of myself today for showing up for life because I feel like a shattered mess on the floor. I am meeting my responsibilities today but I am totally not there if you know what I mean? The guy I was seeing- which we practically lived together- emotionally flipped on me this past Sunday when out I asked him about his mood-it was weird mood. (This is a red flag, it tells me he tends to keep things bottle up and then would lash out at someone. I believe this was his way to sabotage what you two have and he must had felt smothered when you asked about his mood(not your fault, he has certain issues) Since he was showing such crazy behavior I went to my car to leave and give him space -no angry words at my end. (You did the right thing by walking away, you didn't deserve to put up with his behavior)Yet before I leave, he comes out with the few things I had at the house, took my garage remote and asked me to leave. (This tells me he had certain unreasonable expectation of you such as staying to handle his behavior and his abandonment issues were triggered here after you left. I believe he gave you those things to punish you because he felt hurt, and made you responsible for it. I don't see anything wrong you did here, this is mostly his fault for not being able to handle his internal state)I had never seen this fire in his eyes before-it looked like pain and anger. (It must had been uncomfortable going through this, but he pretty much took his anger on you. Let's say you end up having long term relationship with him, he would have often keep things bottle up and then blow up at you.) Anyway, he went radio silent since then. (This is another problem people like him have...he went radio silence because he didn't want to feel too close to you, so he blow up at you, and because he wants to punish you as well) I have no clue what brought this on. Weird. We were very close by the way. (That's actually one of the problems...too much closeness will make him do an act out to push you away. It's a closeness issue he has when it comes to people, he doesn't do well in closeness)

i dont know why I feel as I do -like a mess and my heart hurts so bad I can even describe it. (This definetly separation anxiety and hurt from how he behaved with you. I know it's really hurtful what he did, but you didn't deserve to be treated like that) Feels like I got run over by a train. I feel Betrayed, disregarded and pretty must lost. (It's normal to feel this way, things were going well and then boom he behaved so angry and weird, it would cause you to feel so many emotions) I live in a new city so my support system stinks.

How does one get on with their life when something like this happens? (The only answer it's time, but I can what happened triggered your abandonment issues from the past. The guy you were with has certain issues, it's not your fault what happened)

Thank you you for letting me share -I really dont share much about my life generally -so thanks for creating a safe place I feel I can.

@1Lotusflower

I am proud of you!! That you reach out and

share a part of what's going on in your life.

You did the right thing to leave and give him some space. It gives him time to think and you to think about these things that happened. You didn't do anything wrong. You did the right things.

@1Lotusflower

I am sorry this happened to you. You will be surprised at the intensity of emotions during times of extreme stress. There is no justification to any reaction towards you that was unprecendented, and you should remember a couple of things when these situations arise: 1) It is not you fault. 2) When people respond to you in this manner, they themselves should take a step back.

Often times people don't understand that there is such a thing as emotional intellect. Not everyone can be as trained in this as some. Taking on your responsibilities one at a time like this, despite feeling helpless and alone, is brave of you.