Can't eat, can't sleep
My partner and best friend of almost 6 years told me yesterday that he wants to break up as we have lost our 'spark'. I didn't think we had a problem, I mean the reality is that most relationships don't stay on the honeymoon period forever, right? We never argue and we are the bestest of friends, always laughing and joking, and caring for each other. I just guess for him it's not new and exciting anymore, and we are no longer in the phase were we can't keep our hands of each other like we did when we first met. We now have to move out of our rented home, and I have to move back in with my mother at 28 years of age, and it's all just soul destroying. I can't eat, I can't sleep, and I just can't think about anything else but WHY is he doing this to us!! I know he loves and cares about me, and I know this break up is hard for him, so why is he throwing this away. I have always allowed my life to revolve around him, I bend over backwards to please him and support him with anything. I just feel like he is making a huge mistake but he won't listen.
@littleTown1503
This sounds so difficult. I'm so sorry dear.
@littleTown1503
It might not seem like it now, but it's a good thing that you'll be with your mom during this painful time. Being around the people in your life who love you and want to help you get better is absolutely essential to getting through something this devastating. It's natural after having been through so much with him that you hold onto the hope that he'll change his mind, that things can go back to the way they used to be. And it's also natural to feel frustrated and hurt when that person continues to disappoint you by not fighting for your relationship.
I wish there was a magic pill that a doctor could give you to make all the pain you're feeling go away, to fix your broken heart so you can live your life again. But unfortunately the only thing in all the world that can do that is time. For right now, take it one day at a time. Do everything you can to make yourself comfortable. Eat your favorite foods, watch reruns of your favorite tv shows, listen to music that you enjoy- even if it's sad. And when you're ready, surround yourself with the people who love you and let them care for you, let them show you how much they love you. Don't be afraid to ask them to watch those reruns with you. They'll want to spend time with you. And eventually, your appetite will slowly come back and you'll begin sleeping again. You'll get through this. As cliche as it might be, it really will get better with time.
Good advice from @ShadesBluer, I think you do need to take time out to grieve for lost relationships, the time will come for going out with friends again but there's no need to rush it, take a couple of weeks to yourself and then slowly when your feeling a little stronger start having a little more social contact with people! Your going through a hard time, and recovery probably seems a long way off at the moment but you will get there in the end, just take baby steps and look after yourself!