@straightuprocker1998
Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;
I had a nasty breakup a little while ago. We weren't together long at all (two months) but we fell deeply in love after being close friends for about a year. We were both 19 and loved music so we had a lot in common.
We both gave and received, got intimate regularly and told each other if something was wrong. We reassured each other. I fully supported her and it was all acknowledged. I was at her college graduation and she came to my bands' shows. She would say, "You don't change for anyone. You are so genuine and I want to be with you forever." (This only applies in the moment she said it to you, not an hour or a day later)
One time, we went to an electronic music festival as I wanted to experience new things with her out of my comfort zone. My mild autism kicked in mid-performance and I said I didn't feel good. (You were honest here, and communicated to her how you felt )She remained distant for the rest of the day and on other social outings after. (This sounds like she has passive-agressive tendencies, it tells me she doesn't know how to properly express or deal with anger. The way she was distant indicates she felt angry, but decided to express this by being distant. I do believe her past hurt was triggered here, which it has nothing to do with what you did or said) Soon after, she texted me this:
'I don't think this is going to work out. We're not on the right lines for each other. I can't deal with self centred people. (She is saying this, but then got mad and didn't communicate with you. She remained distant for the rest of the day, this tells me she behaved self-centered) I've seen the real you. You used me and f***ed me over. (She is a woman who was very traumaize and hurt in the past, so all of that trauma got triggered because she has not healed from what happened. Her view of the world isn't a good one, she probably always feel people are about to use or hurt her like some people did in her past. This has nothing to do with you, its her issues she needs to work out) If you really loved me you'd try to sort this out. (She is being manipulative and controlling here by saying "If you really loved me you'd try to sort this out", this is her way to force you to do what she wants. I wouldn't go along with what she wants, she is insecure and immature) I need a real man in my life.' (How immature of her...She needs to behave like an adult)
I was very upset (You have every right to be upset after what she said) as I gave her my best and vice versa but it still wasn't enough for her (You could give her all of the love in the world, but it won't be enough because she doesn't love herself. She needs to first feel love inside of her on order to be on a healthy relationship) and it ended just like that. (This clearly shows she would breakup if things don't go her way. She didn't even try to find a solution or face you in person) I also lost some close friends who accused me when I was just being myself. (What you mean by this?)
I would love to get your perspectives on this as it would help me to understand things more.