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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInJanuary1319_344583/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @dumbledoresleftbigtoe @Blissbabe @meganbaxter7500 @gentleStrings6369 @hazelmae46 @sympatheticWest110 @transcomrade39 @kindShell9449 @Wackyal123 @confusedsunshine @BPDBadee @Feelthemagic @PeacefulWords2025 @Alitttlestrange @Enough23 @purpleBike9420 @xoxotanishkaa @mickeyzac7 @Shamier @tybruh @exuberantTree3674 @gracefulFaith7044 @optimisticScarf4825 @purpleblooom @braveSailRP @Iwnakms @philosophicalCurrent5895 @LostAndUnsure92 @mark0614 @ashen64 @Anel11 @Hejee [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] 
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 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Relationship Support Group Sessions Schedule
by KatePersephone
Last post
 November 14th, 2024
...See more Hello everyone! 💜 This forum thread has been created so that the team can share with all of you the month's group support sessions within the Relationship Stress Community!  "Please do not post in this thread! Thank you" Discussions held in the Relationship Support room for the month of November: Sunday, January 5 Conflict Resolution with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 5 Conflict Resolution  with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 12 Relationships with Boundaries with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 12 Relationships with Boundaries with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 19 Respecting ourselves with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 19 Friendship Icebreakers with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (teen side) Sunday, January 26 Relationships and Social Media with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 26 Relationships and Social Media with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) ------------------------- click here [https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html] to convert the time of the sessions to your timezone! Please subscribe so you can be the first one to receive updates on the sessions! ❣️ ------------------------- tagging the community in case they want to receive chatroom discussion updates: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @decisiveScarf8956 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @Helpingheart23 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @jwong611 @k87 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger ------------------------- Interested in hosting 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My wife doesn't love me anymore
by mellowyellow23
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Yesterday my wife sent me a message saying we needed to talk. I knew what was coming as we had some issues last year. She told me she doesn't love me anymore. we own a house and have a young boy together and they are my whole world, I love her so much and I have no idea what to do. She isn't mad at me or angry or upset, just nothing, it seems like there is just no emotion from her at all. I suggested marriage counseling but she has point blank refused and is not interested in trying to fix things. We are on speaking terms but face to face communication is very hard.  I just feel dark and lost.
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Forced to break up with my girlfriend, because of her controlling parents.
by persistentWalker5484
Last post
 January 9th
...See more Back in March of last year, i met the perfect girl. We both loved each other, we called each other every day, multiple times a day, often talking for over an hour. She was open with me about her trauma. There were even discussions of us getting engaged. The only problem was with her parents. My girlfriend is 25 but her parents were just awful. They were controlling and abusive. They barely even let her out of the house without permission. They didn't even let her get her license and she has to have a chaperone. She always vented to me about them Then abruptly one day, her parents tell me they confiscated her phone. They won't let her talk to me. They never tell me anything about her or let me see her. It's been 5 months and i miss her more and more every day. I'm not doing well. At all. Some days i don't even feel like getting out of bed from how much i miss her.
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Trust in Marriage
by exuberantBranch3603
Last post
 January 8th
...See more Hi, I’m new here and wanted to get some feedback on a situation that has been bothering me for the past 3 almost 4 years. I have caught my husband texting different women multiple times and he even met up with 2 of the women behind my back and one of them kissed him and was trying to have sex with him but he didn’t do it and I’ve talked to her over the phone about the situation and got the answers I needed but I chose to forgive him because my husband and I have 5 children one of which is not biologically his because we met in high school in 2015 and started dating, we had our first child at the age of 17 in 2016. We split 2 or 3 years after and were dating other people until 2020. I had met a guy that I liked but was not really looking to be with him for long term. he was really just a distraction for me because my husband and I always came back to each other to have sex or talk about being in a relationship again but didn’t and I got tired of it so I met a guy and we ended up having a child together and I found out that the guy had cheated so I broke things off with him as my husband and I rekindled things 2 months after having my child with that guy  we started dating again and I got pregnant back to back for 3 years. we got married in 2021 after having our second child together. I thought things were good but they weren’t behind closed doors he was talking about me to different women and texting them about sexual things and has been doing so on and off for 3 years. I forgave him because not only is he the love of my life but my kids father and has been good to them just not to me. Plus we basically have grew up together and have always had like a friendship outside of dating. if we weren’t with each other we would still be there for each other as friends. I never have stepped outside our marriage or text men behind his back. It hurts so much and he gets frustrated if I bring it up after already discussing it but sometimes things trigger my emotions and I get to overthinking and being distant towards him and he says he cheated because I’m not affectionate towards him and which I’m not I can admit that but I’m just not an affectionate person anymore due to personal trauma. Something happened to me in 2019 that change me forever. I will not say what it is because it may trigger someone but I’ve never been the same after that and he knows what happened to me so I’m not sure as to why he wouldn’t think about that when it comes to showing him affection or being intimate. cheating is making it worse at this point because it makes me want to keep my distance from him. I want to be that affectionate loving wife but how can I be if I have no trust for him, we do have sex but not all the time because honestly I’m just not that into it all the time unless I’m drinking or something. But I do have sex with him when he wants to even though I don’t just to please him. I don’t know what to do or say anymore about this. I do love him and want to be with him but I just don’t trust him. It’s been hard to do that even when I did start back trusting him he broke that trust again. I’m not the best wife but I try my best. 
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Should I tell her
by bubblewheel3543
Last post
 December 28th
...See more My girlfriend and I broke up in August. We didn’t talk for a couple months. I really missed her and I reached out and we started talking again in October. We didn’t get back together officially, but we were exclusive and basically together.  A couple weeks ago we had a big argument. She wouldn’t speak to me since then. I wrote out this big message, pouring my feelings out. I was going to send it late last night on Christmas.  She ended up sending me one first. She said a lot of things and ended it with basically this is the end and not to be too hard on myself we had a good run. There’s a lot more but I won’t go too deep into it. She seems like she’s in a really good place mentally and she seems happy. I still love her to death. I don’t want it to end and I don’t want to lose her. I think she is the most amazing person in the world. And I was planning on telling her this, among many other things. Now I’m not sure I should. She seems like she is taking it really well and ready to move on. I am not. Do I have the right to tell her this? Or should I let her be, since she seems happy. I don’t want to make her feel ***, but I don’t want to have any regret. I really have no idea what to do. 
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Cheated on
by bubblePrune3228
Last post
 December 18th, 2024
...See more I have been cheated on by my ex. Nearing to the end of the relationship, the whole relationship was a circus act. He lied, denied and gaslighted his cheatings. But the worst is him trying to appear the most loyal and faithful person and is now on all dating apps dating new girls. I feel very betrayed. How do I fully let go
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Heartbreak (both still in love)
by disciplinedCherry253
Last post
 December 15th, 2024
...See more Hi  👋👋  As cliché as it is : I'm 2 weeks out of a romantic break-up. This was my most cherished relationship. We didn't separate for lack of feelings, or common vision. It wrecked both of us, and we agreed we might get back together. But it's the first time I feel like I'm "loosing my mind" that much. things feel numb. surreal. lost. What helped YOU during your breakups? what activities? thoughts? routines? much appreciated !
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break up? or will i regret it?
by calycocat
Last post
 November 20th, 2024
...See more hi all, i've essentially been emotionally tormenting myself over this decision and really need some help im 20, in my junior year of college and i've been dating my boyfriend (also 20) for three years (we met in high school). to put it simply, things are good. he's a perfectly nice boy and has seriously been my safety net during some of my darkest moments. that being said, i feel like im losing feelings for a number of reasons that have sort of piled on top of each other. for starters, i've sort of realized that we have basically nothing in common. im really into nerdy *** like anime, cosplay, kpop, etc etc. he doesnt mind that i like these things but he doesnt enjoy them and doesnt make much of an effort to enjoy them with me. hes more into videogames like rocket league and r6 siege, which i have tried out but cant get into. we just dont ever seem to have anything to go do together, as he prefers to stay in and is the anxious, introverted type. i usually am the one taking the lead and i dont really prefer to be in that position. but i have made it work because i love/loved him. he does do things for me, small things on the daily like picking up takeout for me, grabbing a treat on the way home, which i appreciate so much- but i wish there was more romance involved. once again, i feel like i always end up falling in the decision making role. i dont want to have to be the one to plan dates ALL the time. ive voiced this, wanting to go on dates, dress up, etc, but things have more or less remained the same in my eyes. even with things like political ideas, hes very wishy washy and doesnt care much about social issues. not that he opposes my views, but hes just indifferent. i sort of have to push him to want to vote or care about anything in that realm more importantly, we dont have similar goals. i really want to travel- i would love to move out of the US some day, if possible, and he really wants to stay put. i wouldnt even consider myself the adventurous type, but i just feel like hes very content with a very simple life, and im not so much. i gave up a better university to be close to him, and i really hate it. by no means is he unintelligent, we have different strengths and weaknesses, but i tend to do better in academics. i like to read, i enjoy creative writing. he doesnt. i think that this puts us on different wavelengths a lot of the time. sometimes i just want someone that i can discuss a book with, you know? i hate to word it like this, but i feel like im settling at such a young age and maybe im holding myself back? but then on the other hand, am i really the type to leave a perfectly good boyfriend just to 'find myself' or 'adventure?' i just dont know. i definitely LOVE him, i want the best for him, ive never been closer to anyone- but it doesnt feel like im IN love anymore, and i wonder about my happiness in the long run if i have to keep making sacrifices and settling. ive been in two serious relationships almost back to back, 2 years and 3 years respectively. so the last time i was really single was when i was like 14, and i think that may be part of my restlessness.  but what makes this so incredibly hard for me is that he loves me so so much. i was his first girlfriend and he truly has eyes for no one else; wants to get married and everything. he's always there and i know i can count on him. he truly hasnt done anything WRONG i just dont know if we are going to be compatible in the long run... but i also know im the only one in the relationship thats thinking this. i just feel like im the worst for feeling this way, like im entitled or deserve more than something thats already good. i dont know. maybe i feel like i owe him for not running from my depressive episodes and mental struggles.  the big question is do i end things? i keep telling myself its better to do it early than wait another year and feel really stuck, but i worry about feeling regret. or maybe guilt, moreso. i know im going to be lonely without him- i have a hard time making friends, especially at this university. i depend on him so much but.. would this be a good thing for my independence? maybe it would get me out there. i dont know. i dont want to shatter his heart. i seriously want him to be happy, and i dread having to look im in the eye and tell him these things. i just dont know if i have the strength.
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moving on
by BeeWamble
Last post
 November 12th, 2024
...See more Hi! I broke up 2 month ago from a year and a half relationship. We loved each other, it just too many conflict around us, we just don't get along. I feel like our lifestyle didn't match that's why there is things that each of us couldn't tolerate in the others life. from the day we broke up, i settle myself to be better. To love myself more. so i don't seek to be back in that relationship ever again. i was doing so well. even tho there is times where i miss him (i still checked his profile online). weeks ago, i just found out he started seeing another girl. the girl is actually my friend, not a close one but still. it broke my heart and my healing process felt like it need to start all over from 0 again. it hurt to see that, im speculating that am i worthless to him? that its so easy for him to get over me? or he just need that rebound relationship to heal himself? he was so sweet to me, loving, never intended to hurt me, promise to marry me someday.  guy i always dreams of. But him get over me in just 2 month? well, ouch i need a way to heal myself from this, to stop myself from comparing my life to his.
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lost
by sensibleHouse6739
Last post
 October 28th, 2024
...See more hi everyone, I am currently going through the worst breakup of my life, with my best friend, we’ve been friends since we were kids, and we dated for 6 months. he broke up with me on Friday after many conversations about fixing the relationship. I haven’t been able to stop crying since. I pictured my future with him, and he wanted that too, and now it’s all gone. I feel so alone in my heartbreak and I’m not sure what to do
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He hit me
by LetTheSunShine22
Last post
 October 27th, 2024
...See more I ended the relationship because he physically hurt me during an argument. Although he once promised to protect me, that promise was broken in the most hurtful way, and I’m struggling to process it. It’s delved into my childhood and caused some wounds to reopen. It was the one thing I asked him not to do - to beat me. He wasn’t just my partner but also my best friend, so the loss feels overwhelming. I keep wanting to reach out, but I’m aware that these patterns of aggression often escalate. Even after he hurt me, he checked in to see if I was okay the next morning, and even immediately tried to console me and cuddle me, but I couldn’t bring myself to reply nor reciprocate.  I feel a mix of fear and love. He admitted he didn’t recognise himself and agreed to let me go, yet said he’d always love me and couldn’t imagine himself with someone else. I’m torn because I used to see him as having such a good heart, but in hindsight, I notice signs of narcissism. He controlled so many aspects of my life—what I wore, where I went, and insisted I come home straight after work and then stay at home. He constantly needed to know where I am and would call me randomly to check where I am. I barely went out and when I did, it was awful I couldn’t even enjoy myself, I was made to feel guilty. The early days of our relationship were so beautiful and I don’t understand how I’m here now and how we’re the same people at this point. He said he’s never hit a woman before and I just don’t understand why he hit me over something so small. Even regarding intimacy, he didn’t care if he hurt me because he believed he owned me and could do whatever he wants so I beared it.  I have lost so much weight in the relationship and I’ve become suicidal with heavy anxiety. I’ve entirely lost myself. I don’t feel happy anymore. I don’t feel like life is for me. I feel like if he can do this to me, anyone can. I don’t remember what a relationship should feel like and I can’t remember what normal is anymore.  Looking back, I feel ashamed. I compromised so much of myself to please him, receiving only the bare minimum in return. Communication was poor; he often stonewalled and gaslit me, but I stayed, hoping we’d return to those “good old days.” His love became increasingly controlling and obsessive and absent, and I found myself trapped and needy, unable to walk away. I hate myself, I still want to check on him, but I know reaching out isn’t safe. I feel betrayed, as though I didn’t see this coming. It’s hard to find the strength to move forward, and the pain feels unbearable. No one knows anything and I feel alone again.  Sorry guys - I know this is a heavy one :(
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RECENT BREAKUP
by lillorenzo23
Last post
 October 26th, 2024
...See more Recently had a 4.5 year relationship end. This is the second serious relationship I've had, and I'm 34. From some reading I've done, apparently there's power in community so I figured I'd give this forum thing a shot. So here we go... I'm a gay male, and I met my ex on Tinder in 2017. At the time, I had been single from my previous 2 year relationship for about a year. In the meantime, I was casually dating until he came along. We took things slow, and became good friends first before anything sexual or seriously talking about dating. What my partner didn't know (and tbh, what I didn't know at the time because denial is a b*tch) was that I struggled with sex addiction for quite some time. I had some childhood sexual trauma that I'd blocked out and never addressed. After 6 months of being "official", I cheated. I didn't just cheat, but I did what typical addicts do. I covered my tracks, lied, manipulated. I'm not proud of it, but full transparency is what's needed here. A few months after the cheating, somebody reached out to him anonymously and let him know what happened. He addressed it, and at first I denied. We broke up, and I hit the mirror about as hard as anybody ever has. I wasn't sure why I jacked up a great relationship with a good guy. I never thought I'd be that type of person. That landed me in therapy and 12 step programs, trying to get a grip on what was wrong that caused me to make such poor choices. After a few months of being broken up, we started talking again. He saw the work I was putting in, and we had honest conversations where I disclosed everything that I'd experienced before him, and while we were together. It took a few weeks for him to sort it all out, but he agreed to support me and take things slow. We began dating again, but the resentment, anger, and everything that comes along with infidelity was too much. We had a series of breakups, that never usually lasted more than a week or two. He wanted it to work, as did I, so we agreed to couples therapy. We started seeing a therapist that we went to for a few months, but when we got to the point in which the therapist talked about forgiving, letting go of the past mistakes, and trust being a choice after infidelity, he decided he didn't want to go anymore. The resentment was still very present, and basically my every move was questioned. I had to let go of friends, and the relationship started to become very controlling. He would tell me he doesn't want to control me, yet if anything happened such as me being at work an extra 10 minutes because my job is pretty demanding, he would question me to the ends of the earth and not believe a word I said. This continued until a mutual friend suggested a good therapist that helped her relationship with similar issues. We agreed to go, and both REALLY liked this therapist. She gave solid advice, with no judgement, and she listened. The resentment started to subside more than it had in the past, but we still had our moments. I was still unable to talk to or see certain friends. I had to let him know if I even thought I'd be late getting off of work. I still felt like I was "walking on eggshells". Then, came the time for the same advice. "In some capacity, trust needs to be a choice. We can't continue to hold mistakes made years ago over somebody's head." He agreed that his ruminations on the past relationship trauma was what was holding our relationship back, and he decided to seek his own therapist on his own. For the most part, the relationship started to progress into a more healthy state. Then, we got into an argument over something trivial and he decided that being together wasn't possible. We spent two weeks apart, and I thought that allowing space would give the opportunity for reconciliation. When we met back up, he was firm in his stance. We live together, and actually just bought a house (all in my name, but together, on the same street as our apartment). I did the usual bargaining that people do when a relationship is ending. Trying to get him to see the positives, ect. Two more weeks go by, and he decided to send me an email since I had his number blocked, and it peaked my curiosity on reconciliation, so I went to talk to him in person. He made me dinner, we talked and watched a movie together. Nothing sexual happened, but he talked about being in love with me, and how people have been telling him we have something special so he wants it to work. He talked about going back to the couples therapist he gave up on and how he realizes that his resentments are what's killing the relationship at this point. I left with hope, only to have a conversation two days later where he told me the other night was a mistake, and we need to heal on our own for whatever partners we meet next's sake. I felt the crushing pain all over again. I know I made my mistakes, and people don't usually favor "cheaters", but I put in so much effort to try and repair the damage I did in the past. During the course of our relationship, in trying to repair the damage I've been controlled, called names, been made to feel less-than, had frustrations taken out on, and basically was manipulated into thinking I'm a terrible person. All of this, and a complete cluster...yet I still miss the hell out of him. Every day is a struggle, and I cannot WAIT to fully heal. I'm in "no contact", and I've accepted that I need to move on, however the process and going through the motions sucks.
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I am having a REALLY hard time
by BeingBestForMyKids
Last post
 October 13th, 2024
...See more My wife tild me she wants a divorce on tuesday and even served me with a PFA.  I am not a violent person but when she told me she wanted a divorce, I got so scared and like a cornered animal, I lashed out inappropriately.  I very quickly realized my errors and worked toward fixing them.  I am just struggling because I know we love each other and we have just been having communication issue for a while that we could not beat.  I want to seek therapy with her but I also know we need distance for a period.  I would just like to talk to some people about it all to maybe vent off some pressure.  I also would like help in navigating my emotions as I am basically just in panic mode.  I can't lose my wife and kids...

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